Why men invite you places and promise and when its time to realize it they get afraid and than mock you for taking it seriously?

[devilish-cutie]

I'm not thinking when they lie, but even if they lie there is no point since they won't make it happen and will just make them look bad. And I see no point in saying it to lie. What's the point in lying about that? We are talking here about situations when you are getting to know a man on talking basis and usually this happens while texting, in rl talking they are usually less bold. Do they fantasize and that excites them but they are unrealistic? Probably, but its just plain sometimes weird and off putting. I know they mock us for taking it seriously to cower the fact that they are unrealistic, not responable and not a man of their word. However this happens even with men that aren't flaky, they simply I guess get carried away... I don't know, hence the question, for some insight :)

[HollyK21]

I’ve never had that experience, for a man to invite me out and then when I take it serious he mocks me. When I think of the word mock, I imagine being laughed at and teased in a mean or humiliating way. What would prompt the average adult male to do this to a woman for no good reason? How does she keep having this experience?

[devilish-cutie]

I meant he would say oh you took that seriously? Already planned the trip/whatever. I assume they do it to cover the fact they were coward to do it.

[HollyK21]

Wow, even that I have never experienced! That is incredibly cold, why wouldn’t you take it seriously? Does this happen often for you?

[devilish-cutie]

lucky for you and oh yes, dating different men yes, like on get to know stages

[Foreveralonevirgin]

It is because all men are trash the world would be better with us. Men start all the wars. They scam people for money. They are dangerous and violent. IVG now exist so a women can now have a kid with another woman, so there is no longer any need for men. But Donald Trump want to ban IVG and IVF because they want to keep sexist and misogynistic men in power, so they can abuse women and take their rights away.

Women are more successful and graduating college and higher rates than men, so the argument that men are more logical and smart is no longer a thing. In order for this world to survive the future needs to be female.

[devilish-cutie]

there are really good men out there, but sure there are a lot of toxic ones
both women and men need eachother

[Foreveralonevirgin]

I understand you want things to be equal and not to cause more divide, but look at what the republicans and Donald Trump are doing to women's rights. You can't play both sides forever eventually it's going to effect or your kids or grand kids.

They are banning IVF and life saving abortion treatments. I tried being a centrist and playing both sides too and realized I have to make hard choice and be pro women's rights because once they take your rights aways then they are never coming back are they will be very difficult to get back.

Sure it's mostly predatory men, but now they are using big tech algorithm's to brain wash young men and boy into becoming evil men. eventually you'll have to choose a side you're either for men or for women.

[devilish-cutie]

many men on power are evil for sure, but not all men are
Im a feminist, but feminism isn't against men, just about womens rights

[Billlewis]

Guys are well known for making promises they can't keep.

[devilish-cutie]

Why they do it?

[Billlewis]

I think most of the time they don't think you'll call their bluff.

[devilish-cutie]

why they bluff?

[CubaPirate]

Because unfortunately so of us are just assholes. But I'm not one of them.

[devilish-cutie]

Yes, not all men do that, but even ones that dont tehy dont keep them all. What would be your opinion to explain why men do it?

[CubaPirate]

Perhaps they're just mean or lack confidence to go ahead

[devilish-cutie]

yeah id also say cowardice

[CubaPirate]

Agreed 👍

[NathanDavis]

this is why I just don't date online... only do it in person

and also why I don't promise stuff... if we say it, we do it...

[devilish-cutie]

id doesn't happen just online, it could be texting with a guy you know
online dating is hard but its the best option to have bigger pool of people to meet

[NathanDavis]

I guess it is... I never really tried anything online, I only do it in person, and I get a bit selective too, lol

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well nobody keeps every promise they make but I try to keep mine