Should you express your feelings to someone you like?

[Anonymous]

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I prefer more of a show, not tell, approach, and a gentler one.

This is a blatant example and not suggesting you'll do anything like this, but take the love letter as an exaggerated example. If a woman I sorta liked but hadn't even gone on a date with yet wrote me a love letter, I'm like, "Ugh." Even if I liked her a little bit, I'm going to want to flee because that's such a strong feeling she has towards me that I've not had the chance to reciprocate.

Meanwhile, if she's just very flirty and casual and fun that way, I'd probably ask her out when I was single if I even liked her a little bit. Then I might fall madly in love with her over the course of getting to know her better.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Same thing on your receiving end, no? Say a guy secretly likes you and then confesses it to you like, "You know what, I've had a crush on you this entire time," but you only like him a little bit so far and don't feel like you know him that well. You might also be like, "Ugh," and want to find the exit real fast.

So I actually think it's rude to be that forward so quickly, unless you're talking about a case where you two have already been dating for a good while and there are already very strong signs of mutual interest.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Meanwhile, say you two both like each a lot, like you've both been secretly crushing on each other. Then if he just casually asks you out on a fun date, you'll wholeheartedly agree, and over the date, those mutual feelings will be known and rather quickly and naturally without having to do some lopsided, "You know what?" type of confession. It'll become obvious very fast.

So I really think it's less risky and more courteous to just keep it light-hearted, gentle, and show more than tell.

[Still-alive]

it's good to state your sincere feelings as long as they're single of course. and keep in mind once you've stated them it falls on them to reciprocate or not. you gotta be strong just in case they don't.

[SolitarySolace]

Absolutely not. If you’re a man you’ll risk a harassment charge from someone you like. Depending on how condescending the girl in question is you might even end up in jail

[laly520]

yes

why not

[Iron_Man]

of course, because they may never know

[Anonymous]

I find no utility in it.

[HateyouxD]

You should

[OtterMan68]

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