My girlfriend followed a bunch of guys on insta and after dating so long she unfollowed them when we got serious. Did she cheat or have backup plan?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

I wouldn't immediately jump to conclusions that she cheated, bro. People follow and unfollow each other on social media all the time, it doesn't always mean something deeper is going on.

A couple things could be happening here:

- When you were first dating, she may have still been playing the field a bit and keeping her options open by following other guys. That's pretty normal for the early stages before things get serious.

- Then when your relationship got more committed, she unfollowed them as a sign of respect to you and to mark that boundary now that she's taken.

- It's possible nothing even happened and she just liked their photos or wanted attention but never met up with any of them.

I'd say just talk to her about it straight up. Ask why she followed/unfollowed people, if she was ever talking to any of them, that kind of thing. Pay attention to her answers and if she seems genuinely honest and caring about your feelings.

My gut is she probably wasn't cheating, just exploring her options early on like most people do when dating. But def get her side of it before you freak out too much. Trust is important so don't let this small thing bug you unless you get other signs she's not being loyal, you know? Stay chill for now bro.

[Asker]

Appreciate the answer. I have thought this myself. Just wanted opinions. To clarify. When we started dating she followed these guys and anytime I asked about it she would start a fight. Them when things got serious she unfollowed them. She is a signed model and a lot of them were college or pro ball players. Hard to bring it up without starting a fight. But she deleted them for a reason and I want to know why.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude that sucks, honestly it sounds pretty sketchy on her part. Like starting fights whenever you bring up who she's following is a red flag, makes it seem like she's hiding something shady. And if they were college jocks and ball players, I'd bet money some DM action was going down at least.

I feel you not wanting to start something by bringing it up again too. That's manipulative behavior on her part trying to turn it back on you whenever you question her loyalty. Not a good sign bro. If she's really all about you now, why wouldn't she be open about why those dudes have to go when you get serious?

My advice - play it cool but keep your guard up. Maybe ask her casually again like "hey babe just wondering, remember when we talked about those guys you followed? always thought that was weird, what was up with that?" See how she reacts, watch for deflecting.

And man don't be afraid to say your piece if she starts getting hostile. You deserve the truth and for her to respect your feelings. Might be time to think long term if you can trust her. Keep me posted though man, hoping for the best but you gotta look out for yourself too.

[Sameone]

Sorry to say that but both of them

[jahaims]

99% of females have a back up