How do I ask my fiance to shave her forearms for our wedding. her dress is white and her arm hair is black? ?

[luckyguy2024]

My Fiancé’s arms are extremely hairy. We are getting married next month and my sisters and friends asked me what is she going to do about it.
To give context her arms are much hairier than mine and hairier than most men’s arms as well.
Our wedding dress is white and her arms will be showing from the elbow down my sisters keep hinting and say that her arms will be a distraction from the wedding photos.

How do I ask her to remove her arm hair?

Updates

+1 y

Hey everyone responding. Is it possible to either answer my question or move on? I didn’t ask for anyone’s opinion or their thoughts or opinions. This isn’t your social media page this is Girls Ask Guys/Guys Ask Girls not Guy ask question and people give their unsolicited opinion. I didn’t ask your opinion, I didn’t ask how you felt about it honestly NOBODY CARES, I asked How do I ask my fiance to shave her arm hair? That’s it either answer or move on I don’t want your opinions. Thank you!!!

Updates

+1 y

I asked her and I think it hurt her feelings. She asked me if the hair on her arms, stomach and back make me less attracted to her? I said no because it doesn’t. It’s just it shows up a lot on photos.
I finally told her I didn’t want her to shave it or remove it that I do love her the way she is. I don’t know what I was thinking. Insecurities I guess because my sisters said it makes her arms look “manly” or “gorilla arms”, I never thought of her in that way.

[JacobJordan]

Firstly 10/10 update mate loved it. That is exactly how one should respond to people trying to pry into a private relationship. Now as for your question. I would address it directly but nicely. Focusing specifically on the camera portion. In fact try having her wear a white shirt that stops at the elbows and then take her picture with decent lighting. Then you can look at the picture and use that as a way to bring it up. It may come out that it isn't super noticeable. Good luck on your upcoming nuptials mate hope the advice helped

[luckyguy2024]

Thank you. I really appreciate the advice and the honest answer. Finally someone that can read, understand what is being asked, can respond accordingly. You said Mate so that tells me you are from Australia, that is why. Here in America everyone thinks people care about their opinion of strangers and nobody does. Oh wait, but because it’s them it’s different as if they matter in the very least. They don’t even matter that much in their own lives much less mine, but somehow they think they matter. It’s amazing.

[JacobJordan]

Not from Australia just older. Mate was used a lot growing up. I keep telling people a private relationship is private and should be kept that way. Your question didn't even share details to make it a public relationship situation. Which is crazy cause you generally see the "oh a relationship with a lot of details known allow me to insert myself and be part of this" directed at people who are too open with relationships. Inserting themselves into private relationships is new and crazy. I mean honestly your question included 2 singular points of information. There is a wedding and she has hairy arms. In what way is that enough for anyone to go "yeah he needs my input on how he should feel, act, how his soon to be wife should feel and act"

[luckyguy2024]

Exactly. People want to tell you how you should feel and think and it’s mostly the younger generation. The government has them believing that their opinions matter and social media has allowed these people to think that someone should actually listen to them about how to live their life. Thank you again, you get it, you give me hope for this country, but again you said older so that must be why. My generation is pathetic unfortunately. We have dropped the ball.

[JacobJordan]

If we are being honest. A fair amount of the blame falls on the parents of your generation. Which is between my age and my parents age (40-70s) in addition the increase in public schooling from when I was younger seems to have had a pretty bad impact. When I was in school teachers were an extension of the parent. Now teachers are advocates for whatever political agenda they support

[The_Sexpert]

I like the update.. some people just can't move on without passing some hate comments on the asker

Now coming to the question.. my opinion wpuld be thag since you both are getting married there must be no, absolutely no gap in communication between you two

Both of you must never hesitate to talk about anything to each other but at the same time make sure to express it politely

So I'd say just sit down with her and politely talk about it and open up...
Good Luck

[Anonymous]

It's important to approach this topic sensitively and with care for your fiance's feelings. Instead of asking her directly to shave her forearms, consider having a conversation about wedding preparations and express your concerns about the color contrast between her arm hair and the dress. Approach the conversation with empathy, understanding, and a focus on finding a solution that makes her feel comfortable and beautiful on your special day.

[luckyguy2024]

Thank you for answering my question instead of giving me everything but what I asked like everyone else. I did not ask if they agreed I asked how to approach it.

[luckyguy2024]

You answer made me change my mind about asking her. She’s perfect the way she is.

[blizzybuttercup]

You can have a conversation with her about it but if she’s comfortable with being that way, it should be respected. you should always be yourself regardless of what people want you to be. maybe your relatives think she should shave because of it being so traditional

[luckyguy2024]

@blizzybuttercupThank you so much for your thoughtful reply. I appreciate it. You answered my question and I will respect that and go with that. Best answer

[poshspice123]

You don’t! Do you care about your pictures or your image? You lived her the way she is so accept it.

[luckyguy2024]

Thank you.

[luckyguy2024]

You didn’t answer my question. Read much?

[poshspice123]

I’m glad you provided an update. I’m glad my answer was helpful

[slatyb]

Are you sure you want to marry her? Tell your sisters to go F themselves.

[luckyguy2024]

Wow can you not answer a question or just here to give your opinion?

[slatyb]

You have multiple people giving you the same opinion but it's not what you wanted to hear. If you ain't want answers, don't ask. Your fiancee is making a huge mistake. I give it about two years.

[luckyguy2024]

Actually if you knew how to read you didn’t answer my question. If you listen real close it might help you with your job too. My question was: HOW DO I ASK HER TO REMOVE HER ARM HAIR? NOT if I should ask her? NOT If you felt that I should ask her? NOT what your opinion was? That is for your social media account, right. My question was how do I ask her? If you have an opinion keep moving. This isn’t girls give opinions right? This is girls ask guys and vice versa. Not whatever you want to turn my question into. Fair enough?

[luckyguy2024]

@slayb In addition to the above I have multiple people living my update because people like you and the others don’t answer questions but push your opinion. Douche thing to do

[slatyb]

See a counselor for your anger issues.

[luckyguy2024]

@slayrb not angry just trying to help you out with your issue.

[slatyb]

Me and all the other people who told you that you should not ask? Multiple have you the same advice but it wasn't what you wanted to hear.

[luckyguy2024]

@slatyb but that was not my question. Where did I ask if I should ask her? My question was How do I ask her. I assume English is not your first language. There is a difference between IF I should ask and HOW do I ask. If is a conjunction and How is an adverb. Please read up on their difference in either the Webster dictionary or Cambridge Dictionary. Again only trying to help. I would hate for you to continue to answer the incorrect question at work. My apologies if English is not your first language.

[slatyb]

It's a public site. People can say whatever they please. You asked a question. You got an answer: don't ask. You didn't want that answer. Too bad. It's your relationship. Good luck.

[luckyguy2024]

You are so stupid. You gave me an answer to a question that I did not ask. Look at all of the people that loved my update regarding people not answering the question. We are sick of ignorant people giving their ignorant opinion and not answering the question. Save your opinions for your social media. I might hurt her feelings on purpose now and call her Bigfoot just to piss people like you off. She loves me and where she gonna go? People like you make me want to be an asshole just for spite. I love going the opposite way you want me too, just to piss you off lol.

[luckyguy2024]

I apologize. Although I did not ask for that bit of commentary. I did just that. When I asked my fiance if she could just for the pictures her eyes welled up with tears and she said, “I thought you didn’t want to change anything about me” At which point I apologized profusely, told her other people had asked me and so I asked her. I told her not to and everything about her is perfect for me, took her to dinner, bought her a bracelet yesterday and had roses delivered to her work today. BIG RHANK YOU FOR SETTING ME STRAIGHT even though that was not my question, it made me stop and think for a moment.

[Peridot25]

You seriously let your sisters and friends get a say on your fiancée?

[luckyguy2024]

You didn’t answer the question. Do you have reading comprehension problem? Where did I ask for this response? I didn’t. I asked how do I ask my fiance to shave her arms. Why did you give your opinion? If you have a question why don’t you ask your own question in this forum instead of asking me a question?

[Peridot25]

Oh! Did I strike a nerve there? 👀

[luckyguy2024]

Nope but people that can’t read bother me a lot. It shows me that you are contributing to illiteracy in America. I worry about the future when people give opinions rather than answer the question. If you struck a nerve you would know it. I would be right behind you. Have a great day.

[Peridot25]

Then I hope your fiancée chooses to not shave her arms. Have a great marriage.

[luckyguy2024]

I know you do. You are a typical American, you Wish your values on others as opposed to freedom. You want everyone to think like you and act like you but that’s not how the world works. Maybe in make believe land or Millenialville or Generation Z town but in reality nobody does.

[Peridot25]

Wow! 🤣 I really pissed you off.

[Peridot25]

If you’re really concerned about your fiancée’s arms, why not figure out ways yourself? I’m sure she’s already aware how hairy her arms are and maybe she’s already planning to shave them.

[Peridot25]

And all I asked is why your sisters and friends are involved.

[luckyguy2024]

No you did not puss me off at all that is what I am saying. You wanted to because you don’t like the fact that people in my family have commented about my finances arms in wedding photos. You took it upon yourself to comment on them and the situation as opposed to answering the question. I’m
Not offended. You wanted to strike a nerve I was letting you know your inability to answer an honest question without giving your opinion or asking me a question is offensive but you did not strike a nerve at all nor am I pissed off. That might have been your intention but I am not angered by such minor things as peoples inability to read and comprehend.

[Peridot25]

Apparently, I can’t have an adult conversation with you without you insulting me. All I did was ask you a question and you couldn’t do that.
I hope you two have a happy and healthy marriage.

[Dbtr99]

I’ve never heard of people shaving their arms , except swimmers.

[luckyguy2024]

Many women shave or wax their arm hair or have it lasered. It’s huge here in Florida.

[Dbtr99]

Must be a recent trend.

[luckyguy2024]

Nope most Hispanic women have done this in Miami for years or they bleach it called sugaring

[Dbtr99]

I didn’t know that

[In_Trance]

Arm hair is going to make or break the day?

[luckyguy2024]

I guess you can’t read either. This is really disappointing.

[In_Trance]

You should seek help for your retarded behavior

[luckyguy2024]

You should learn to answer a question. If you want to give your opinion use your social media you twit.

[In_Trance]

Suck it bitch

[dragoblack]

Get waxed with her.

[luckyguy2024]

I didn’t ask that. I asked how to ask her.

[dragoblack]

Let me rephrase."wanna go get waxed together to prepare for the wedding?