So I'm black and not offended by black women who date white men. Are you racist for not doing it anymore? I wouldn't call it racist, but your viewpoint may be similar to white women who have the attitude that they don't want to date black men anymore because they "had a bad experience." Yet they will keep dating asshole after asshole who is white, Hispanic, etc. They should just admit that they never really liked black to begin with.
I think just like them, perhaps you've held another race to a higher standard based on your expectations, and when they disappointed you, you decided you wanted to cancel out all others. There are plenty of white guys who are good, and plenty of others who are not. Hell, even for me who has dated mostly women of other races, not all of them were good either. But it hasn't made me give up on them in general.
Sis, I feel you on that. As Black women they go through enough trying to navigate this world - why make it harder on ourselves?
Dating white ain't all it's cracked up to be either. We always gotta walk on eggshells, educate them on basic stuff. And god forbid you get fed up and call them on their bullshit, all the sudden YOU'RE the "angry Black woman." Puh-lease.
Ain't nobody got time for that, right? You deserve men who GOT you from jump, feel you on a deeper level. Who don't make you explain our Blackness or shrug off microaggressions like it's nothing.
And people can call us racist all they want. Funny how they only say that when we talk about OUR needs and boundaries. Why they so pressed about who WE date anyway? Not their damn business.
You do you, feel me? Keep chasing your happiness sis. Any man too shallow to respect that ain't worth your energy. We queens, period! On to bigger and better things. *fist bump* You got this girl.
Not at all. Just like there are white people that refuse to date black people, you have every right not to date a white person if you are not attracted to them.
It is racist not to date another race due to misconceptions or beliefs that make you judge an entire race over the actions of others (eg: people assuming all black women are loud, ghetto, uneducated, etc... and refusing to date them because of such).
As a black woman, I prefer dating outside my race. As bad as it sounds, I have had better luck dating white men than black men- but that is my experience; I know ultimately it depends on the individual and your choice. My point is, don't let the actions of a few rotten apples make you give up on an entire race.
Anyone of any race can hurt you, so if that’s why you’re choosing not to date black men I wouldn’t say it’s racist but it’s definitely a stigma you’ve created in your mind.
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No, it is not racist. You can date whoever you find attractive and with a good personality.
Of course not. Date whomever you want.
No not at all. I’m from Spain and I honestly have no interest in dating a man who isn’t Hispanic. It’s important to me that my partner speak my mother tongue because it’s such a big part of my identity. I’d also like for Spanish to be the primary language spoken in my home once I have children, which would be hard to do with a non-Spanish native speaker.
Racism is treating another people differently, or depriving them of their rights, because of their race. Dating you is not somebody else’s “right”. We all date whom we prefer and are attracted to. There are several categories of women (and all men, to be specific!) I would never date.
We’ve gotten to a point in society where we are so hyper-sensitive to all things race related that we’ve abandoned common sense!
date who you want.
Where is it written that if you are 1 race you have to date the polar opposite race, or a different race?
It's 2024, do what you want and don't worry about what "others" think.
That is the fun part of being an adult.
No, it sounds to me like you tried it and it didn't work out. I hope if a white guy came along and he wasn't as awful as the other ones you dated you would maybe give him a chance. When I was growing up I liked mostly black girls but they didn't like white guys and the one that said yes to a date had 4 older brothers and they beat the shit out of me when I asked if Michelle was home.
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just keep this decision to yourself, and no one will judge or comment... it's kinda standard with personal preferences that we rather don't share them with society...
Am I racist if I'm a white guy that doesn't want to date black women anymore? Your answer to my question should be the same as yours. There is generally a difference between how black and white men treat women. Your decision just helps you narrow down your hunt and save you time in life.
Are you a racist? Here's some definitions:
* Do you believe race is a fundamental determinant of human traits and capacities, leading to an inherent superiority of a particular race?
* Do you believe that your race makes you better, more intelligent, more moral, superior, than people of other races?
* Do you say and do unfair or harmful things leading to prejudice and discrimination as a result of that belief?
If you do, you might be a racist.
It's your choice to make, it doesn't make you a racist. Most people prefer to date their own race for various reasons and it probably is less of a hassle in the end. I know black girls who say they won't date black guys anymore, that doesn't make them a racist either. It just means you and those girls have the same problem. You just choose the wrong guys, regardless of race.
Preferences exist. As long as you wouldn't have an issue with say black men not wanting to date black women anymore. If you do have an issue with that then yeah kinda racist. Both are preferences
Not for that reason, but being that you are Black there is statistically an overwhelming chance that you are a racist.
I wouldn't call that racist but please don't assume we are all bad because of a couple ass holes. Every race has ass holes. But if you don't want to date white guys that is your choice if it's your preference.
No. If you haven't being lucky dating white men in your area because they aren't nice to you, who can blame you if you decide to stop dating them?
No, dating preferences should not be subject to any of that conformaty nonsense. Just date who you are willing to be with.
You can date anyone, colour and ethnicity does really not matter. If you ain’t happy dating someone then don’t.
Not at all people just prefer specific cultures. Same if an Asian person doesn't want to date a Hispanic person for examples. Different cultures, views etc
You're not exactly racist but men if other races are just as capable of hurting you as whites.
No, you have the right to have preferences. I don't date white men either and have white friends and even white family and I'm cool with them.
i think having a racial preference and racism are different things.
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