Am I a racist because as a black woman, I don’t want to date white anymore?

[Anonymous]

I am not obligated, so I don’t why people care, it’s my decision, I have been dating them forever. I just have the energy to do it anymore, I am tired of getting hurt.

[ManOnFire]

So I'm black and not offended by black women who date white men. Are you racist for not doing it anymore? I wouldn't call it racist, but your viewpoint may be similar to white women who have the attitude that they don't want to date black men anymore because they "had a bad experience." Yet they will keep dating asshole after asshole who is white, Hispanic, etc. They should just admit that they never really liked black to begin with.

I think just like them, perhaps you've held another race to a higher standard based on your expectations, and when they disappointed you, you decided you wanted to cancel out all others. There are plenty of white guys who are good, and plenty of others who are not. Hell, even for me who has dated mostly women of other races, not all of them were good either. But it hasn't made me give up on them in general.

[Oliverlogan263]

Sis, I feel you on that. As Black women they go through enough trying to navigate this world - why make it harder on ourselves?

Dating white ain't all it's cracked up to be either. We always gotta walk on eggshells, educate them on basic stuff. And god forbid you get fed up and call them on their bullshit, all the sudden YOU'RE the "angry Black woman." Puh-lease.

Ain't nobody got time for that, right? You deserve men who GOT you from jump, feel you on a deeper level. Who don't make you explain our Blackness or shrug off microaggressions like it's nothing.

And people can call us racist all they want. Funny how they only say that when we talk about OUR needs and boundaries. Why they so pressed about who WE date anyway? Not their damn business.

You do you, feel me? Keep chasing your happiness sis. Any man too shallow to respect that ain't worth your energy. We queens, period! On to bigger and better things. *fist bump* You got this girl.

[Anonymous]

Not at all. Just like there are white people that refuse to date black people, you have every right not to date a white person if you are not attracted to them.

It is racist not to date another race due to misconceptions or beliefs that make you judge an entire race over the actions of others (eg: people assuming all black women are loud, ghetto, uneducated, etc... and refusing to date them because of such).

As a black woman, I prefer dating outside my race. As bad as it sounds, I have had better luck dating white men than black men- but that is my experience; I know ultimately it depends on the individual and your choice. My point is, don't let the actions of a few rotten apples make you give up on an entire race.

[Asker]

I thought I had better luck with white men, it ain’t working out anymore after dating them for half of my life

[Anonymous]

Anyone of any race can hurt you, so if that’s why you’re choosing not to date black men I wouldn’t say it’s racist but it’s definitely a stigma you’ve created in your mind.

[Asker]

Black men has nothing to do with the post

[Blacksnake285]

You’re black so it has a lot to do with it

[Asker]

@Blacksnake285 doesn’t have nothing to do with my post. My post is about white men. I am not a black man…I am a black woman.

[Blacksnake285]

lol a white guy hurt her. These bed wenches deserve it. I’m just now read her full question. What a divester. They all eventually get played in the end. The white man was meant to be with the white woman not the black woman

[Jessica405]

No, it is not racist. You can date whoever you find attractive and with a good personality.

[Avicenna]

Of course not. Date whomever you want.

[Delle123]

No not at all. I’m from Spain and I honestly have no interest in dating a man who isn’t Hispanic. It’s important to me that my partner speak my mother tongue because it’s such a big part of my identity. I’d also like for Spanish to be the primary language spoken in my home once I have children, which would be hard to do with a non-Spanish native speaker.

[Flatmanlewis]

Racism is treating another people differently, or depriving them of their rights, because of their race. Dating you is not somebody else’s “right”. We all date whom we prefer and are attracted to. There are several categories of women (and all men, to be specific!) I would never date.


We’ve gotten to a point in society where we are so hyper-sensitive to all things race related that we’ve abandoned common sense!

[Fireguy17]

date who you want.
Where is it written that if you are 1 race you have to date the polar opposite race, or a different race?
It's 2024, do what you want and don't worry about what "others" think.
That is the fun part of being an adult.

[JayBones2469]

No, it sounds to me like you tried it and it didn't work out. I hope if a white guy came along and he wasn't as awful as the other ones you dated you would maybe give him a chance. When I was growing up I liked mostly black girls but they didn't like white guys and the one that said yes to a date had 4 older brothers and they beat the shit out of me when I asked if Michelle was home.

[loveslongnails]

Are you a racist? Here's some definitions:
* Do you believe race is a fundamental determinant of human traits and capacities, leading to an inherent superiority of a particular race?
* Do you believe that your race makes you better, more intelligent, more moral, superior, than people of other races?
* Do you say and do unfair or harmful things leading to prejudice and discrimination as a result of that belief?

If you do, you might be a racist.

[IslaTheWitch]

lmao

just keep this decision to yourself, and no one will judge or comment... it's kinda standard with personal preferences that we rather don't share them with society...

[JustAnotherGuy09]

Am I racist if I'm a white guy that doesn't want to date black women anymore? Your answer to my question should be the same as yours. There is generally a difference between how black and white men treat women. Your decision just helps you narrow down your hunt and save you time in life.

[Asker]

I honestly don’t care you don’t want to date black women anymore, that’s your decision. I am tired of getting hurt…don’t what matter what type of guy that white guy is, they all got motives…

[Staximus]

It's your choice to make, it doesn't make you a racist. Most people prefer to date their own race for various reasons and it probably is less of a hassle in the end. I know black girls who say they won't date black guys anymore, that doesn't make them a racist either. It just means you and those girls have the same problem. You just choose the wrong guys, regardless of race.

[patois]

Not for that reason, but being that you are Black there is statistically an overwhelming chance that you are a racist.

[Cristinaissweet]

This chart doesn't make sense. It looks like they asked more black people this question to twist the results. According to the chart they only asked 10 white people this question as opposed to 74 black people, so of course the results wouldn't be equal. They should have asked the same question to same amount of people in each race to get something close to accurate.

[Cristinaissweet]

Sorry they asked 15 white people.

[patois]

@Cristinaissweet try reading again. The forth line indicates that the numbers represent percentages within a group.

[Cristinaissweet]

Ok, so where does it tell you the gross amount of people per race that were asked this question? Unless it's equal per race the chart isn't accurate

[patois]

@Cristinaissweet Contact Pew Research if you want more details on their study methodologies.

[patois]

But please say it's right-wing propaganda or something like that when in 2020 Pew charitable donations were 98.41% to Democrat politicians which Black Americans vote for roughly 90% of the time, it's the most widely used public polling organization utilized by main stream media which less than 10% of Republicans trust and over three fourths of Democrats trust... That out of the way stratified sampling is commonly used in statistics.

[JacobJordan]

Preferences exist. As long as you wouldn't have an issue with say black men not wanting to date black women anymore. If you do have an issue with that then yeah kinda racist. Both are preferences

[Asker]

I honestly don’t care what back men do with their lives, not y business. And the post has nothing to do with black men. The post is about white men.

[JacobJordan]

I know I was providing an example so you could see what would make it potentially racist. Another one could be would you be mad if a white man said he didn't like black women? If so then yeah kinda racist. If not then nah you good

[Drew-1990]

I wouldn't call that racist but please don't assume we are all bad because of a couple ass holes. Every race has ass holes. But if you don't want to date white guys that is your choice if it's your preference.

[CALIGVLA]

No. If you haven't being lucky dating white men in your area because they aren't nice to you, who can blame you if you decide to stop dating them?

[sawno]

No, dating preferences should not be subject to any of that conformaty nonsense. Just date who you are willing to be with.

[RebelinSteel]

You can date anyone, colour and ethnicity does really not matter. If you ain’t happy dating someone then don’t.

[Metalbarbie]

Not at all people just prefer specific cultures. Same if an Asian person doesn't want to date a Hispanic person for examples. Different cultures, views etc

[sheikalana]

No, you have the right to have preferences. I don't date white men either and have white friends and even white family and I'm cool with them.

[swettannie]

absolutely not racist at all, do what make you happy !

[tzdc21]

You're not exactly racist but men if other races are just as capable of hurting you as whites.

[genericname85]

i think having a racial preference and racism are different things.

[DextroShade]

No, it's not racist to have preferences; I wouldn't date a black woman.

[nawtee_me]

It is called preference not racist…. Racist would be hating white people because they are not some other color.

[Nerdvana]

No, it's a personal choice and you deserve to be happy.

[handsomelad70]

Whether you're a racist or not, your choice of partner is your choice.

[Anonymous]

I could care less. Date white, or don't date white. Or don't date ever again. It's not going to change my day one iota.

[Blacksnake285]

You dated white because you couldn’t find the black man you wanted

[Asker]

Nope, just never been interested

[Blacksnake285]

Trust me, that’s what they all say. Just an excuse. A self respected black man wasn’t checking for you. They wanted a Latina or white girl.

[Asker]

lmao, I don’t be checking for them…so it don’t even matter.

[electromagnetic]

You’re allow to have preferences

[slatyb]

That's your choice. You don't owe anyone a date.

[Anonymous]

What happened? What did they do to you?

[Asker]

I have been dating them for so long, it ain’t the same anymore…especially with the ones that actually date black women. I am tired of getting played, being kicked to curb when I have done nothing to them.. so many lies, hung up on their exes, got a kid on the on the way, be lying about having a whole girlfriend and a child. I just can’t do it anymore with them. I don’t care how people feel. I tried, and the last guy I was seeing broke the camels back, I am done.

[Opinion Owner]

That stinks a lot of black men are losers too. Try Asian

[TallAnon]

Having a preference is not racist.

[Zlantur2]

Not racist. It's your preference.

[Reijen]

No, you are not.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No..