Should I tell him the truth?

[Anonymous]

The thing is we have been friends for like a month. I asked him if he wanted to hang out (like he said we would. Then he asked who is gonna be there. I said just u and me. He said “Like a date? I’m sorry but I’m talking to someone” and I said “no just hanging out” (I did mean as a date but that was a defense mechanism). Then he said, “oh well I don’t really have a set schedule” I don’t want to lose him as a friend but I also have so many feelings towards him and want to explore that. Now I feel bad that I said no, when I really was just trying to put a wall up.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl that's such an awkward situation! On the one hand, I totally get why you put up the "just friends" defense in the moment. Admitting feelings is scary!

But now you also don't want to regret not being honest with him about how you actually feel. My advice would be to open up and tell him the truth - something like:

"Hey, I just wanted to get something off my chest. When I said I just wanted to hang as friends, that wasn't completely true. I do really enjoy spending time with you and was hoping it could potentially be more. But I understand if you're talking to someone else already. Either way I still value your friendship."

Be confident but also casual about it so it's not a big dramatic confession. Give him an out if he's not interested that way.

At least then you'll know you took a chance on finding possible something great. And being honest now means better chance of staying close friends regardless of what he says back. You've got nothing to lose!

Let me know how it goes when you talk to him! Fingers crossed for you sis.

[JacobJordan]

Well you have a choice. You tell him and hope it is both ways or you don't and he is going to find someone else.

[JayBones2469]

You should find someone who is single and interested. If you can't put aside your feeling you will not enjoy the friend zone.

[laly520]

move on
he is taken