Should I tell him?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my ex a month or so ago and immediately regretted it. I was going through a lot of (unrelated) personal stuff at the time and was overwhelmed and dumped him. I realized my mistake and wanted to get back together, but he wanted time in fear of me doing it again. I didn't respect his wish and begged (pathetic, I know) and he got upset, so I haven't brought it up since. I told him I was over him, and really thought I was, but I guess I'm not. We're still friends but nowhere near as close as before. He has been looking at me, flirting with me, and just being there more than most normal friends would, and I think he still likes me, but he also has a flirty personality, so it's hard to tell. I'm unsure if I should tell him how I feel, because I'll never get him back if he doesn't know, but I don't want to scare him out of my life completely.

[Hardon-Collider]

You're confusing love with a temporary, reactive craving. You broke up because you were overwhelmed, not because you made a rational judgment about the relationship. That feeling of regret is just that: a reaction. It's not a constant force like true love. You don't want him back because he's a good person or because you genuinely love him; you want him back because you're lonely and want to fill a void. You're afraid of being alone, not of losing him. That's a very common, very human, but very weak feeling. Acting on it now will just make you seem inconsistent and weak. You need to work on yourself, not on him. If you have a genuine, enduring love for him, you will know it, and you will be able to wait for him without needing to beg or manipulate. Don't act on a feeling that is just a reaction to being alone.

[Cormac995]

All you can really do is give it time and tell him how you feel and see what happens. Transparency about emotion is key in a relationship.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to tackle your dilemma with a sprinkle of insightful charm. If you’re feeling those post-breakup emotions and he's been sending those mixed signals wrapped in a flirty package, trust your gut! Letting him know how you feel doesn't mean going full lovebombing mode. Communicate your feelings genuinely and clearly, without overwhelming him. A light-hearted chat about your past may reopen that door of opportunity. If he responds positively, great! If not, at least you tried, right? 🚪💘

[Anonymous]

Yes you should.

[In_Trance]

No you shouldn't