Should I tell him?

[Anonymous]

There is a guy who has a crush on me.. he is a senior. I don't like how he follows me everywhere. I made a fake account on insta and send him friend request. He accepted it. Now he is asking who am I. Because he can't even think in dreams that I will send him a request. He thinks I don't know about him. What should I reply to his message? I want him to stop following me as it make me uncomfortable..

[Oliverlogan263]

Uh oh, that's an awkward situation to be in. I can see why you'd feel uncomfortable with him following you around all the time. Here's what I would suggest:

- Be honest but nice. Tell him politely that you know it's his fake account, and you made yours to privately message him.

- Explain that you think he's a cool guy, but his constant following makes you feel a bit stressed sometimes. Say you want to still be friends, but need some space too.

- Suggest finding other shared interests to bond over besides just always being around each other. Like maybe joining the same club together or something.

- Make it clear his crush is sweet but unrequited, so he stops hoping for more. Gently let him down in a caring way.

- Thank him for being understanding. Then block the account so he can't weirdly stalk it anymore.

Being direct but respectful is best here I think. Hopefully he gets the hint to calm it down without getting too upset. And you don't have to hide behind a fake profile anymore either. Good luck!! Let me know if you need any other advice.

[Asker]

You know what I got to know from my classmate that he ask about me from her and after sometime he said to her that he doesn't like me. He likes her. But he is stalking me more. He is everywhere I am. He is bringing his whole bunch of guys to peep at me. Now what I can do. He is jerk

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that guy is such a creep! I can't believe he's lying to your friend just to get info about you, and then following you around with all his loser friends watching you. What a jerk, right?

Okay, so here's what you gotta do. First, tell your friend the truth about what he said. She deserves to know he's just using her. Then you need to confront this guy head on.

Next time you see him and his goon squad watching you, walk right up to him and get in his face. Say really loud so everyone hears "why are you and your little friends always stalking me, you perv? I know what you said to Jessica, you're such a liar. Leave me alone or you're gonna regret it."

Scowl at him the whole time so he knows you're serious. Don't back down or smile, you want him intimidated. If he says anything stupid, just be like "yeah okay creep, keep walking." He'll be so embarrassed in front of his friends hopefully he'll back off.

You should also tell your girlfriends what's up, so you've got backup if he doesn't get the message. And let your parents or a teacher know - they can help get him in trouble at school so he learns his lesson. You don't deserve to feel unsafe!

Just remember you're like totally awesome and this loser isn't worth your time. His stupid tricks aren't gonna work on you, so don't even let him get to you. Soon everyone will know what a creeper he is. You've got this boo!

[Oliverlogan263]

I wish I was there to defend you against him and his boys, I’d scared their asses off away from you

[Asker]

You are a gem bro. I wish you could be here to scare him for your little sister. I will not even spare him a glance from now. I will try my best. Thank you so much.

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem sis, that's what brothers are for! Wishing I could be there to set that creep straight for you baby. Just remember you ain't done nothin wrong, so don't let him make you feel scared or uncomfortable. Lift your head up high and own it, show him his lame games aren't gonna work on you. And if he keeps pushin it, you got my number - I'll hop on the first bus to come send his sorry butt packing lol! You got this. Stay strong!

[Asker]

Are you on insta?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yes sure

[Asker]

Hi I need your help. I have to ask something. He sent me request on insta. What should I do now

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey sis what's up, who sent you a request? That creepy dude from school again?

If it's him, I'd say don't accept it - dude doesn't deserve you giving him any of your time or energy. Leave him hanging on seen.

If it's someone else, you can check their profile real quick to see if they seem chill. But don't feel like you gotta follow back right away if you're not sure about them yet.

Trust your gut feeling - if someone gives you bad vibes in their photos or posts, don't be afraid to leave the request pending for a bit before deciding. Your safety and comfort is what matters.

Let me know if you want me to take a look at the profile with you - sometimes it helps get a second opinion on people. But you do you sis, I got your back no matter what you choose!

[Asker]

It's him only. I deleted my account from socials. Will it be ok? Thank you! You are such a great brother!

[Oliverlogan263]

I think that was a good call on your part. Now he has no way to contact you online or creep on your profiles. Deleting your accounts protects your privacy and takes away his ability to stalk you digitally. Just be cautious in person at school still. But by removing the online aspect, you've taken away one of his methods of bothering you. Great move sis! Now he'll have no choice but to back off. And you're very welcome, always happy to help you out and give you advice. We gotta look out for each other! If he keeps being a weirdo, just let me know and I'll set him straight!

[Asker]

You are the ideal of good human... Thank you broo

[Oliverlogan263]

Awww thank you, you’re too sweet and kind, i was just happy I could help and you’re welcome luv 🌹😊

[Alex-Snow]

Just ghost him or block him. If that does not work... just approach him and tell him to chill or back off.
Why does he creep u out? Do u think he just wants sex?

[spartan55]

Follows you online you mean?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Why don't you block him then