Should I tell him how I felt when I found out that he cheated and played with my feelings?

[cadyyyyyy]

I broke up with this man because he treated me like i was nothing , took me for granted and just never gave me time or attention but gave it to other girls whom he said was just a friend but he never made me check his phone. But i didn't had the proof of him cheating on me. But just few days back after break up i found out that he cheated on me with all the girls he told me are his friends, it was just not a one night thing, he pretended to be single and was in a relationship with two of them while we were together. All these times he told me i was too insecure and overposessive and called me a psycho just because i asked him to show me just a message with that so called female friends of him. Now im very very hurt , and i had been ignoring his messages since the day i found out, i caught him red handed infront of him i was reading all those messages. And he acting as if he didn't do anything. I acted as if i didn't care bt called him out for cheating telling him i felt disrespected. I never told him i was hurt because i don't think he deserves to know that im hurt and depressed and cried everyday for him. Should i tell him how i feel? Or should i just move on and never talk again without saying a word to him? He's texting me telling me im the bad one because i ignored him even after knowing i caught him cheating and he's saying shits and denying it. Should i tell him how i feel or won't it matter at all so i should just leave him like that and move on?

[WonderBell99]

What do you think will happen if at all you tell him how you feel? Do you think he would change because you were open about your feelings? No, cheaters rarely ever change. Why do you want to get back together with someone who has absolutely no respect for you or the relationship? This boy is trouble. Stay away from him for the sake of yourself.

I know how guys like him act. He will try to gaslight you and put all the blame on you if you try talking to him. He will try to downplay your emotions and make it seem like he was not at fault. What you should do now, is tell him to fuck off and block his phone number, social media etc. Make sure that he has no means of contacting you. If he tries to contact you again, keep him blocked. He will try to manipulate you and it sounds like you were in an emotionally abusive relationship.

Do you really want to be with someone who does not deserve you? If he truly loved you, he would not have cheated on you with multiple women. He sounds like a lost cause. I bet he would cheat on the next girl he starts dating as well.

Learn to identify the red flags early on in your relationships. You’re still young, and I’m not invalidating your feelings, but as you grow older, you’ll learn to be cautious of these types of guys more. You will be able to identify them easily.

If you try talking to him, he will not listen and he will not empathize with your feelings, nor will he feel sorry for what he did. My best bet would be to block him and move on. I know it’s easier said than done, but if you have friends and family, you can turn to them for emotional support. Socialize with people, do what you’re passionate about, develop new hobbies, and most importantly, learn to love yourself and don’t settle for less than what you deserve. Good luck!

[itsalyssaagain]

I think you should tell him because it will help you release the anger I can see that you're keeping inside you and that he's caused. Do whatever is going to help you release that anger, because the longer you hold onto it, the unhealthier it becomes for you both physically and emotionally. But remember, whatever you do, never get back with him or give him a second chance. Regardless of how hard it is. Remember all women go through or have been through this (myself included!!) and we manage to make the decision to leave and we recover. Some more easily or quicker than others, but we do recover.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I am sure he'll be very understanding... I don't know what you're expecting If you want the bad boy go back to him and stop trying to get sympathy from other people.

You're upset he doesn't give you attention, but you don't mind being with him and letting him use you and then you want sympathy from people that don't care about.

If you don't have any respect for yourself and won't choose a good man then why should any care about how you feel?

Just go back to him and stop wasting everyone's time telling then about it with your pity party.

You just enjoy the sympathy and attention you get from other people. You pick loser men because people will look at them because they're loud and so obnoxious people will ignore how childish and immature you are. You're the one who picked the "bad boy" and now you want to go back to him so you don't feel responsible and like it's your fault again.

Just stop complaining and just stay with the boyish brute. You can't handle a high value man anyways so stay with the little and keep living in a Disney fantasy.

Sorry I am not going to tell you "everything is going to be alright and that's You're a good girl and nothing is your fault" like everyone else.

[cadyyyyyy]

Excuse me i didn't know he cheated on me I broke up after i knew it. But i didn't express the anger i acted it cool and just left it like that without drama. But not expressing my anger was killing me instead. And also talking about accepting good guys i accepted him thinking he was a good guy i don't give a shit about bad boys.

[cadyyyyyy]

Every man pretends to be a good one why would any girl give a chance to a guy who would break their hearts dumbass

[cadyyyyyy]

and just read it properly i never said i was going back to him i said i wanted release all my anger out to him. Have u ever been cheated by a girl? or u have cheated numerous girls? Sounds like one.

[EmmaMary]

I know it's always easier said than done, for you really, truly need to forget and move on.

Do you honestly want a disgusting piece of shite like this in your life... I bet the answers NO.