Should I tell my mom that my 13 year old half sister is having sex behind her back? I’m not really on good terms with her?

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I live with my dad and only see my mom a few times a year. My 13 year old sister and her 14 year old boyfriend are having sex. She posted videos of them doing it (the sound and her moaning) when my mom wasn’t home. She posted that she thinks she might be pregnant and skipping school and 
all of this crazy shit. I am on a fake account and screenshotted her (she has no idea it’s me and will add anybody). I censored out her face because she’s a minor. Like I seriously don’t think her mom has any clue and I don’t think it’s my place to say anything but she’s 13. She’s also a huge smartass and has a nasty attitude with everyone and thinks she knows everything. I don’t know what to do? Send my mom a text with these screenshots or leave it alone?

Denver_is_my_name · Accepted Answer

Wow. Ok after reading the comments and everything. I hate to say this about a 13 year old but damn she has a terrible spoiled brat entitled rude attitude. Like very very bratty and mean attitude. And the fact that your mother stands with her no matter what she does and gets all pissed off and lashes out on anyone who says anything negative about her. Well there's why bitch girl is she’s the way she is. That’s not how you treat people. It’s actually disgusting how much she has her mom wrapped around her finger. There’s no point in saying anything because it will turn back on you and her mother will never believe it. IF she is pregnant then her mother will just have to find out the hard way because no matter what anybody says she won’t believe it.
Your mother and sister are truly fucked up individuals and need a serious wake up call. Save your time and effort because there’s no convincing that mother. That 13 year old needs to go on the show worlds strictest parents and be sent off to live with someone who knows how to be a parent.

gummibearluv · Accepted Answer

This child is 13 years old and most importantly your sister. Despite the troubles you two have had ( I'm pretty sure you love her or you wouldn't be concerned like this) she will always be your sister before anything else and I don't know if others do this but my sisters and I have vowed to always look after and protect each other no matter what terms we're on because at the end of the day we still love each other. She may be pissed at you now if you tell your mother but she also may thank you later. Sometimes you have to come off looking like the bad guy but if that is what keeps the person you love out of trouble or harm's way then so be it. You have every right to say something. If you don't who will? I wish there was someone that could've told my mom what kind of crap I was doing at 13 but no one cared that much. Be the sister that cares that much.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well it seems like she knows the consequences of having sex at her age and still went ahead and did it. Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon in this day and age for kids as young as 11-13 to be sexually active. My mom is a middle school counselor and she hears all kinds of things like this and the principal gets involved and it’s crazy. I would send it to your mom and see what she has to say, if she wants to start fights and stuff then be like sorry I told you I thought you would wanna know what your 13 year old daughter is doing apparently I was wrong. Never again. Or you could let it be it’s own surprise when she ends up pregnant and IT WILL show.

Queenbeast22 · Accepted Answer

Yeah go time. Tell it. Don't wait. It's unsafe, someone's going to get hurt real bad, involve the adult and make the calls to make sure your sister will be okay.
Honestly as a sister myself I go beast mode and I would have told on her ass, gone after the boyfriend to tell him if they hook up again I will call the police because she is a minor, sat down with her and had a talk with her about the dangers of what she is doing, and made all the calls to end that B. S. going on online even if I had to break her phone and hack her accounts.
Not. On. My. Watch.

N192K001 · Accepted Answer

Oh gosh, have her take it down IMMEDIATELY! In many jurisdictions, posting the video of underage sex constitutes as child porn!

If this is discoverers by the police (and/or any adults legally obligated to report it to them, like school personnel), she’s going to jail for creating, possessing, and distributing. She’ll also be on the national sex offenders’ registry for life! She has REALLY messed up the situation.

jacquesvol · Accepted Answer

No importance how you do it, by alerting your mom or by taking her to the obgyn, but she NEEDS to get on BC asap.

Anonymous · Answer

Well it appears that the mom doesn’t give a shit about what her daughter does, I mean how blind can you be to what your 13 year old does? And it’s bullshit that anybody who confronts her about the 13 year old is the bad guy! You’ve gotta be kidding me!! The boys parents should be ashamed and beat his ass. Her snapchats are just petty and bitchy. You are 13, you know NOTHING and neither does your boyfriend. Don’t like getting backlash don’t put this out on the internet! It’s not OK, period. I would leave it alone and let the mom get a taste of her own medicine because her precious 13 year old daughter can never do wrong

Anonymous · Answer

God what the hell is wrong with kids today? And before you attack me, NOT all kids are like this but a lot are. Tide pod challenges, no coping skills to adversity, mental health increasing, swearing to anybody and everybody, no respect for anyone not even themselves, posting literally everything on social media, school shootings for no reason, KIDS having sex, KIDS getting pregnant, young adults acting like children and not knowing how to be an adult with anything, KIDS And young teens looking way older than they are and dressing older than they are, I mean the list can go on.

BuckU · Answer

The real question is -- "Why doesn't she talk to you, or your mum about it but instead has to turn to social media posts (not even PM's)"?

She clearly doesn't feel comfortable talking to anyone she knows in confidence, and that's a much bigger issue.

That said a) lmao she didn't use no condom she lyin', b) might not even be pregnant, c) sexual activity with someone her age is perfectly healthy for a lot of people.

So tldr you're dumb and posting about how your whole family is failing her, and then you're doing the exact same shit you're mad at her for by asking social media instead. Doubly, you then go on to share said "objectionable" content (she actually seems quite well adjusted for her age) in full, breaching her very limited confidence on one of the shittest Yahoo Answers! style sites on the internet.

Bravo, big bro.

Tonga · Answer

I say talk to your sister make sure she’s safe and USING PROTECTION, and that she’s mentally stable for this, I’m 15 I’m not ready, she may not know what she’s getting into, as long as she’s safe that’s all that matters right?

If I put myself in the position of the kid having sex it’s hard to tell the parent (they freak out over a kiss) you know how this age feels better than them, guide her and if she doesn’t accept at least make sure she’s being safe

dandiecandie · Answer

I say approach her yourself and help her. she's your sister. Telling your mom will just make her embarassed and hurt her more. Just be there for her if you find that you can't do anything to help her on your own then you can tell your mom. But confront her face to face about it first. Otherwise its a huge shock for her.

maheen69 · Answer

I mean I'm 13 aswell and I get you at this age right now your all up in the clouds thinking that ur gonna be with that one guy forever and I tell your mother sure if I was in this place I wouldn't like it but make ur mum be Aware of what she's up to like dunno if ur from the states or UK but in the UK if ur having underage sex ur parents could be in trouble as is social services get involved making decisions to see if your mum is the appropriate adult to be in charge of kids if she don't know what your sister is up to make the good choice and tell her

qupid911 · Answer

I swear if everything goes well and she's punished, make sure the boyfriend's parents know and that every form of technology is taken from her. Her life will become boot camp. Hell send her to boot camp, or beat that ass into next week she's only 13 for crying out loud

Lunar_Yokai · Answer

Well you have a right. you're her sister and obviously you care a lot, especially if you're this concerned for her. If she was over 18 then it's her business but she could possibly be a pregnant minor. Or you could take her to a gynecologist and see if she is. If so then go to you're mother. If not then teach her the consequences and risks of being sexually active at a young age

JimboGB · Answer

Please tell me why you would expose such a decision to a bunch of strangers online? And you outted your 13-year-old sister to such strangers? Seriously? Her name of her snap is on there? Maybe she isn't making great decisions because she had a bad role model.

SongBird3 · Answer

13 is waaaayyy to young and immature.
Id say tell your mom. And you could even send it anonymously because she’s already bragging about it on the internet. She shouldn’t even have a boyfriend at this age

1truekhaleesi · Answer

I was going to say as long as she is being safe it's not your place. But her entire behavior is disgusting. Posting a sex tape and talking about it on social media is immature and beyond disgusting.

timgroot51 · Answer

I don't consider it snitching, it's for her own good, if she was 18 or something I would say it's not your place but she's 13 and does not need to ruin her life right now

Anonymous · Answer

Of course if she fucks up it's her parents who have to deal with it so they should know what she's doing. by the way why does one of the screenshots say 2004?

Anonymous · Answer

She needs to know the dangers about doing this, such as pedophiles following her online and stuff, whatever you choose I’m sure you’ll make sure she’s safe. I do feel that you should tell your mum

MayBlythe · Answer

With that kinda shit she's posting, yeah you should tell your parents

Galactic_Star · Answer

You should tell your mom. I'm not sure but I think that having sex at the age of 13 is illegal if you live in the US. I'm totally disgusted by your half sisters action. At least she'll learn if she ends up pregnant

hise-DepartmenT · Answer

That's a typical person who has sex would say. Want to do the sex but hate the hex. A baby is part of your responsibility if you're pregnant. It's nature and it can't be changed by nature.

Sorryfurries · Answer

if i was you i would let it happen then when she is pregnant she can explain

redreddyred · Answer

What the fuck. This is what’s wrong with these kids today... tell your parents NOW!

lowbrow · Answer

God why would she be posting this on her snapchat for everyone to see

Anonymous · Answer

"C" Can you be Family and just Be there for her anyways? She needs YOU.

AustColombiangirl · Answer

I was having sex at 11. Did I know what I was doing? sure did

TrustOfWorthington · Answer

The World is most utterly fucked up What makes such young people think that way?

40moss · Answer

IF 2 PERSON WANT TO FUCK. . AND NOBODY GET HURT... DO IT... WE DID IT.. WE LOVE THE MEMORY.

rmaster89 · Answer

Tell your mum she is commiting a felony and could end up in jail

Anonymous · Answer

She needs be educated on the matter. Tell your mom to go easy on her, and to get her to listen

EspressoTeen234 · Answer

Tell her boyfriend to use a condom

thenewgirlll · Answer

PLEASE TELL YOUR PARENTS

spacemoth · Answer

She needs to be stopped at all costs

Giggletr0n · Answer

Dude has no staying power if its only 6:30-7

ovoxo_ · Answer

Ridiculous. Send your mom and your dad both.

hggggbı · Answer

If your mom had sex with someone 14 years old?

John109 · Answer

Tell your mom if you are virgin.

KarimM · Answer

Yea you should tell your mom.

Anonymous · Answer

Her mum needs to know

ottawahuman · Answer

Yes.

Nora_Sutherlin · Answer

You should tell.

Hungry_Shark · Answer

Tell the mom

cupidkisses · Answer

Tell your mom.

daddysir77 · Answer

Wheres the video😉

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