Considering getting back out there after a long time of counseling friends and relatives. Suggestions?

[Anonymous]

I chose not to date for a full decade because the pickings around me are slim, work was rather overwhelming … and yeah, COVID didn’t help. Now I’m rethinking the choice but I’m not a fan of the apps. Advice?

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True. And I don’t. I’m just not a fan of the hiking experience itself.

[slatyb]

Join outdoor activity groups if you have any interest. Lots of single men there, few women.

[Asker]

I’m not exactly Jane of the Jungle, so the guys who are really into the outdoors are too much for me. I did go hiking a few times in the past with my church group and always ended up around the same guy who I like a lot as a friend but can never date because I dated his brother for a long time previously so it doesn’t feel right to be with this guy, however awesome he is.

[slatyb]

You don't have to be experienced, just able to participate. People will be easier to help if you don't complain.

[Anonymous]

You live in a fallen world full of sin and demons. The only way to meet a decent person is by being a woman of God and seeking a man of God. Period. dating apps were designed by the devil...

[Asker]

Maybe… honestly, I’m very faith-based but am never impressed with the guys I see every week. Their souls and convictions feel paltry. I want to find a guy with good energy like me. (I made the mistake of picking a guy who had the wrong energy. I can’t do that again.)

[butterly248]

What @slaytb said is a good idea

[butterly248]

@slatby *

[butterly248]

@slatyb

[butterly248]

Got there in the end lol. Bloody dyslexia 🤣

[Asker]

Lol. It’s all good. Thanks for posting your agreement with @slatyb! 🌸🌸🌸

[Danny_dan92]

As in dating or?

[Danny_dan92]

My bad, didn’t read the details.

Not sure. I have been and am in the same boat you were in, although mine was primed prior to covid. Covid just embedded the idea in my head

[Asker]

Yeah, I think I would have still stayed single during those years anyway, regardless of the pandemic. Someone was making heavy advancements towards me just before everything started shutting down from COVID, but the feelings weren’t mutual and I didn’t follow up with him. I just didn’t want anyone in my life. Even now, I question whether it’s the right thing to do. I enjoy my friends, my solitude and my life path. Do I really need to add a guy to the mix? 🤷🏻‍♀️