Do you get mad if someone doesn't ask you out after throwing them signals?

[scott04sa22]

[Nikki1989]

The problem is men think there are signals when there are usually none at all. Look at the amount of men on here who get worked up when a woman just looks in their direction.

[scott04sa22]

Perhaps I'm not in any type of rush or anything right now. I'm not used to getting a lot of attention. I'm finding ways to cope with the breakup and politely letting people I'm not ready for datings. I just want to heal and recover naturally.

[HappyWoman34]

No. I get confused if a guy shows signs of interest then gets distant when I return that interest.

[scott04sa22]

It's probably better to be direct with him than leaving him confused.

[HappyWoman34]

True. I was indirect. Then when I was direct, he freaked out and told all our guy friends that I was weird.

[HappyWoman34]

However, I should’ve just said how I felt when I felt it, which I did, at the time.

[scott04sa22]

There could be lots of reasons why he's freaked out. Years ago, I rejected a coworker because the times were different in the 2000s Era

[HappyWoman34]

Oh well it was a long time ago.

[HappyWoman34]

What sorts of reasons?

[scott04sa22]

He probably had relationship fears. I had relationship fears when I started dating my ex-girlfriend number 2 then those fears came to the surface after she dumped me

[HappyWoman34]

Hmmm. Maybe. Yeah, there are some rotten human beings in the world.

[HappyWoman34]

I figured he wasn’t interested and was being a jerk about it, to get me out of the social group.

[scott04sa22]

He probably wasn't interested but Yeah, I don't have too many people I could go to nowadays after my ex-girlfriend number 2 dumped me

[HappyWoman34]

How do you know, if you haven’t given it a shot?

[HappyWoman34]

There are good people in the world. I’ve known all kinds of scum but I’ve known some great people, too. I won’t say there’s someone for everyone, as I doubt that’s true. But there may be someone for you.

[HappyWoman34]

What did your ex do to you? To make you fear women?

[scott04sa22]

here's an example: she'll like me at first, and then later on, after she gets to know me, she'll loses interests and then ghosts me.

It's very hard to find friends nowadays, and finding someone with the same capability as me is very hard.

Ex - girlfriend number 2 dumped me for another man. She moved on very quickly. She's engaged now

[HappyWoman34]

Sorry, I was out doing errands. That sucks. So it sounds like men and women aren't that different from each other, if guys and girls have similar hang ups. You sound like you might be an interesting person to get to know better. I'm going to send you a following request.

[HappyWoman34]

Hopefully you'll add me, back. I just sent it... followed you.

[HappyWoman34]

Oh this isn't for dating. Just looking to make new friends. ;)

[scott04sa22]

You're fine. People don't hang around with me too long after a while. I'm ok with friendships. I'm not looking for any relationships, fwbs or long distance relationships.

[HappyWoman34]

Fair enough 😊. I just messaged you privately 😊