Is it a hookup or ONS?

[Anonymous]

Started occasionally texting in February, met up in April. Didn’t text between dates, just met up four times. Had sex on 4th date. On a 3rd date was told he likes me but wants to take things slow and see where it takes us.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, it's kind of hard to say definitively based on just that information. A few hookup-leaning signs are:

- Only texting to set up dates rather than chatting more in between

- Pretty fast physical escalation by having sex on the 4th date

- Told you he likes you but still wants to go slow, which could be an excuse to keep things casual

However, taking it slow could also just mean he wants to make sure you connect emotionally before committing. And meeting up multiple times at least shows some interest beyond just hooking up once.

I'd say it has potential to become something more if you keep seeing each other consistently and establish clearer communication about what you both want long term. But guard your heart a bit too until you know for sure he's looking for a relationship. Pay attention to actions - does he introduce you to people and treat you like a potential girlfriend or keep things secretive? See how attentive he is moving forward. Try having the "where is this going" chat soon if things continue to develop physically. You don't want to get too attached if he just sees it casually. Tread carefully but there may be promise there too!

[strateguy632]

was hook up unless you invite for a fifth date n he agrees.

[Asker]

Should not he be the one to invite?

[Screenwriter]

Sounds like a test drive. Sex was acceptable, now he wants to find out if you're compatible otherwise.

I always think it's best to get to know someone before sex, but humans are human and sex is rewarding.

If he wants to take it slow, then stop having sex and date from now on. NOT having sex slows things considerably. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Basically you're just another hoe with no self repsect at all who can give free sex to any guy who would show you the slightest interest. Next question?

[laly520]

seems like hookup