Im moving out and the roommate I slept with said he wants to wait until after to continue, how can I tell him I want him to chase me like before?

[Anonymous]

I moved in about 2 months ago and hooked up with my roommate twice, I wanted it to continue, but he voiced concerns he’s about 10 years older than me, if he is honest and does want to try after I’ve moved, how can I text him to let him know I want to get to know him without spelling it out? That I want him to chase me like before? I was thinking of saying this if he does text. Hi, I want to have the flirty vibe we had before and when I moved in, now that I’m out I want you to see me as more than just a roomie and know me. I don’t know, any thoughts on what to say? I talked to a guy and they said you shouldn’t have to spell it out for him.

[Anonymous]

He didn’t chase after you drunkenly spilled your guts with that text, now he’s talking about trying after you move? How fcking regressive is that? Whole point is of dating and relationships are to eventually move in together one day, right? Get married start a fam? He had the conveniency of you actually living there, affording to pay your part of rent, like it was all set up. He just doesn’t want to actually try and he’s not going to chase you. I don’t even think you should wanna be chased but put in the same work you expect him to.

[boggboss]

I honestly don't see him chasing you at mist it was just fun I don't see him wanting to date or do anything longterm because he isn't looking for long term

[Asker]

So just let it go even if he does text me when I move? I don’t know if he will but he says he wants to. But no move’s made I’ve never had a Man shrug off advances ever in different environments, this was definitely such a trip. A