Im moving out and the roommate I slept with said he wants to wait until I move, how can I tell him I want him to chase me like before?

[Anonymous]

I moved in about 2 months ago and hooked up with my roommate twice, I wanted it to continue, but he voiced concerns he’s about 10 years older than me, if he is honest and does want to try after I’ve moved, how can I text him to let him know I want to get to know him without spelling it out? That I want him to chase me like before? I was thinking of saying this if he does text. Hi, I want to have the flirty vibe we had before and when I moved in, now that I’m out I want you to see me as more than just a roomie and know me. I don’t know, any thoughts on what to say? I talked to a guy and they said you shouldn’t have to spell it out.

[SallyTho87]

He IS interested, but he is also not. He's "on the fence" as we call it, because he cannot makeup his mind.
On one hand, he sees this age gap as too drastic, and maybe HE is seeking something long term relationshp wise, but since this is a big issue for him, he doesn't know if YOU are worth his energy, time, commitment, etc. Due to reasons of his own and his discomfort with the age issue.

On the other hand, he DOES want to give this fling another go, to see what comes of it. Though he sounds doubtful that he can follow through and actually commit, because his concerns.
He has the right to feel uncomfortable with the age gap, and if THAT is the deal breaker for him, there is nothing you can actually do, unfortunately.
If he is infact interested, and actually makes an effort to see you, continue building the relationship once you have moved out, then you know he is interested, genuinely.
If not, and he doesn't "chase" you, it's a clear sign he does not have intent to continue keeping the relationship going.

You can certainly text him if you feel it will help, but he has already made his discomfort and concerns clear to you.
You cannot make someone chase you. If they want to, they WILL.

[Asker]

Should I just kind of surrender, I plan on seeing if he even texts me. I just don’t know if this can be something after we just hooked up. But he’s said he wants to, I just don’t know if it’s just talk.

[Asker]

Ohh and the concern was not the 10 years it was that we are roommates and he doesn’t want to make things complicated

[SallyTho87]

Definitely give opportunity to figuring out what he is interested in relationship wise, with you. I would focus on that, he clearly wants to keep connected as he informed, but let the move happen first. Sometimes waiting is better, as it gives him space to figure out what HE wants out of this hope / intent of building relationship with you.
If YOU feel like it's worth telling him your feelings, and having an open discussion - you can also do this and communicate your side of things. It could be beneficial to him to hear it!