Why is dating with guys so hard nowadays?

[cindykugis]

[Finchie40]

Because dating girls’ these days is hard as well , sadly most people in general these days , have very selfish mindsets that only want things to go their way , if things don’t go their way , they pretty much jump on the highway. Most people have a very hard time admitting that they are wrong , it’s always someone else’s’ fault , I blame social media for a lot of it , by damaging people’s mindsets that everyone is a liar, everyone is a cheater , everyone back stabs and betrays each other, sadly relationships aren’t like they use to be back in the day. Most people say they want to fall in love and meet someone that loves them back the same , but when they meet that someone , it’s only good for a short period of time until they feel like they are missing out on something , thinking grass is greener on the other side , no relationship is going to last if both people aren’t on the same page with things , Most people today have very high expectations and preferences of what they will accept and not accept in a relationship, if they do not get their way , they will run to someone else , people sadly do not know how to give the same way they want to receive and that’s why so many relationships fail these days , because of selfish mindsets , that think they are never wrong

[Lionman95]

I would say because men a lot of guys don´t know how to date and they don´t know that dating might need preparation on their side. Some guys know what they want they just don´t know how to get it other guys go dating because they think that´s what adults and they feel a need for a partner so they just give it a try. Other guys would like to take the lead they just don´t know if they are allowed to since guys taking a lead could be seen as controlling and oppressing her aka as bad behavior from his side.
The problem is that especially young guys are often confused about their role in life and dating. They don´t know what they should do and so you meet guys experimenting what works and what doesn´t. You meet guys that might want to know what they like to do as a date but they´ve taught to listen and ask for your opinion so it seems like they can´t make a decision.
But there are guys too that need to make a change in their behavior and habits because they have a porn or video game addiction, they are over weight and can´t take care for themselves.

[Yazu-chan]

Best answer! Except for the overweight part, because even looks isn’t a factor in this. Many of the other guys answering aren’t getting it. It’s not about being able to walk outside and get a date or getting on some app and going out with whoever dm’s first. It’s not a quantity problem, it’s QUALITY. It’s difficult to find someone mature, and considerate.

[Lionman95]

Thanks for your comment. I would disagree in that way that looks isn´t everything sure but to me being in a healthy shape and having a decent style of clothing is a part of being mature. To clarify I wouldn´t say all guys should look like the Rock or should go in hard core bodybuilding and develop a bulking body but no one can tell me that a guy with a fat belly is attractive.

[Yazu-chan]

I agree with you that people should take care of their health and bodies. However, my point was that for women, it isn’t a physical issue, it’s a personality and mentality discrepancy. I’d choose a sweetheart with a teddy bear build over a conventional fit hot dude with a disrespectful disposition any day.

[Lionman95]

@Yazu-chan yes sure I understand why.

[sage2021]

I guess they get their hot dating tips on social media and some people believe what they read.

There are just too many things that people expect from each other.

Itf only you could have been dating before the internet set up all these rules and expectations.

[DishLady]

Slim pickings paired with social conditioning to make everyone so paranoid about dating that it’s no fun anymore…. Mind you, the guys can probably say the same about dating girls.

[Justneedtokno]

It seems like everybody is looking for the exact same thing but not any each other. It’s very crazy. We all want trust we all want to build a great relationship, but have you seen this balloon test thing it’s crazy it’s about appearances and every other thing then what concrete relationships are about

[LiamJHayden]

1. Too many "give it up" so quickly that men do not have to put in effort.
2. Too many other women expect 5-Star treatment on a first date.

Women who do not fit either of the aforementioned often still end up suffering because of those two things.

[Anonymous]

Y'all girls and women in the west have extremely high expectations especially in Canada and the US. I've heard people tell me go find European girls or girls in the Middle East, their attitude is so much better then girls in America or Canada, I'm starting to realize that is true and I stand by that.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Has absolutely nothing to do with today's era as sorry people are in abundance since the beginning of time.

If you constantly attract men that suck is because something within you is attracting them to you so you have to fix yourself to attract better men towards you.

[northerngal]

Social media has screwed up most human interaction. Its not just a guy thing. Everyone seems to be losing touch with how to behave and interact with other humans.

[northerngal]

Said the woman who is on GAG (social media) right now! lol What a hypocrite I am...

[Kaneki05]

The first problem is thinking it wasn't always this way. Saying these days is just a sign of someone who understands nothing and has nothing to learn other than blaming everything but themselves.

[ProbablyClueless]

I mean... let's be real... no one can be bothered to put any friggin effort into anything anymore. And most of us have given up trying to be what the other gender claims to want because the effort is NEVER appreciated when we do do it.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think people make it difficult when it doesn't have to be. I would rather spend time having a great day with her than having a drama filled day for no reason at all.

[OtterMan68]

boundaries are not set. No one knows what they are today. Is it OK to lean in for a kiss without asking first?

Is it OK to open the door for your date?

Is it OK to pay?

What subjects can you talk about?

[9in_Serpent]

Because life and society is becoming increasingly hostile these days it feels like we are all slaves working to death and getting nothing in return while a few are pretending to be gods of the earth at our expense

[laly520]

vast majority of guys n women only looking for sex
sex only would never be enough to have a real date or relationship

[RebelinSteel]

Likely depends on where you are and how you do it.

[ManInChains]

Women are self centered and independent and men are too cautious

[sheikalana]

I've said this many times. I truly believe social media and dating apps ruined the dating scene.

[Sugar100]

Can’t find guy that wants meet family they only want sex. It hard find a boyfriend. No guy ever asks for dates either.

[Pohjolan]

Statistically most guys seek a long term relationship.

[Nifrayu]

No gal ever asks for dates either.

[scott04sa22]

Social media pretty much ruin the dating scene. Plus there's too many ridiculous rules, tests and games women pull nowadays.

[Anonymous]

It's difficult because most men are addicted to porn and ungodly, and most women are ungodly and condone porn addiction.

[Fireguy17]

because for them dating women is a complete pain in the butt.
It is easier to stay single.

[hafinjun]

Too many rules to much texting not enough face to face

[hafinjun]

Thank you

[handsomelad70]

Apps, friends with benefits and other 2020's relationship aspects make dating (lad or lass) difficult.

[Anonymous]

You have to dig through a lot of trash to find the gold these days.

[monorprise]

Is that because your far too much bombarded by what your not looking for, or what your looking for is soo rare?

[DextroShade]

You are choosing the wrong guys. Stop expecting Chad and Tyrone to commit.

[Dan_5001]

Most women don't get it up here 🧠

[Pohjolan]

Hard? In what way?

A literal table will get matches on Tinder if you choose its gender as female.

[Yazu-chan]

Quality not quantity obviously.. read in between the lines bro.

[Pohjolan]

@Yazu-chan
OP didn't provide any lines to read in between in the first place.

[Yazu-chan]

Nevermind, you don’t get it and that’s okay, son.🙂‍↕️

[thisAppIsGarbage]

Because women have nothing to offer. There are men pretending to be women that are better looking and are better at sex.

[Justneedtokno]

OK, what do men want?

[thisAppIsGarbage]

Peace and their dick sucked

[Goahead76]

@Justneedtokno Most guys are saying they want traditional, as in supportive, loyal, feminine, low body count, and divorce laws changed so as to not wreck men in no fault divorce states, aka she can leave for any reason and take half.

[Justneedtokno]

@Goahead76 Part of that same sensible, but why are you already going in with divorce in mind. to plan ahead, get a prenup. That protects you. I don’t think equally a guy would have the same things, low body count or building houses or handyman or some of the same qualities as my father would do or grandfather go fishing with me. Handle spiders it all depends or have the emotional intelligence to sit down with me, and let me cry. Supportive those things take time to build trust in a partner

[Justneedtokno]

In a perfect world, right lol 🫡

[VV3ZZY123]

That's just people. Lots of toxic people out there. Like 97% of people just suck.

[Anonymous]

It's not that hard to date as a woman, all she would need to do is make an account on tinder with a picture of herself and she's got lots of guys texting her.

[whistlingwh0res]

it's been like that for centuries. men = scum

[Anonymous]

Boys are girls and girls are boys. Haven’t you heard? It’s the latest craze.


I feel sorry for normal young people nowadays.

[Anonymous]

Because Women are Attracted to the wrong types of Guys.

[rosemilk]

because their main goal is sex.

[liggang]

What is hard about it exactly?

[jahaims]

Poor societal and cultural values

[convo_king89]

Catfishing, the internet,

[In_Trance]

Harder than it was for you before?

[Serkee]

In what regard (s)?

[Bluegreen3737]

Why?