GIRLS- How do you get a guy to meet your family?

[Sugar100]

I fear to have sex as a guy won’t meet your family if you have sex. I will have sex with a guy as much as he wants , but only if he agrees to be my boyfriend and agrees to meet family. As I don’t do casual sex.

so what can I say to a guy so he meets family?

one guy I’m talking to, we met once in person , but we are talking daily now, but as we are long distance, I plan visit him next month and he’ll visit month after.
But he’ll want sex and I don’t feel good as I want meet family. I never had had a guy meet family or a relationship before and I’m 26. I’m open to having sex all day but I want a good guy that can meet my family & this is how he can show he is a good guy that’s serious.

[DishLady]

When I was younger and in school, things were very traditional at home. Any guy in my life (whether romantic or platonic) had to come meet my folks and talk to them a while before I could go out. And the guys were all really good natured and complied with that... some of my dearest friends today are guys who came and spent a while in my mom's tidy living room having coffee and sweets that she set out for them while grilling them top to toe. I chuckle about it now, but back then I remember feeling SO embarrassed to put them through all that just to go to a simple thing like a movie or concert. Looking back, I'll always appreciate that the guys were good sports about it... and that my folks valued me enough to do all that.

[Sugar100]

I’m 26 and never had any guy meet my family everyone runs away 😞 never had any guy value me or come to my moms house 😥

[DishLady]

Well, I’ll put it another way — I wouldn’t have been allowed to go out if they didn’t come in and have the chat…

Today times are a bit different. Still a young man should meet a girl — pick her up and all that — if those are the values she sets as “the rules” from the start. The boys from school knew the deal from the beginning. It’s not something you just pounce on a guy when you’ve already gotten physical.

[bobalife]

Wait until yalls are official and serious enough, then, talk about meeting families. You’re just dating, that’s the time to get to know each other to see if yalls actually wanna be in a relationship together.

[RespectfulGuy]

Hi Sugar,

I've been reading your questions since like pre-Covid era.

This time, I feel happy for you that you finally found a boyfriend.

I think you should go for sex, but don't appear desperate.

And apart from meeting your parents, is there other ways that you can accept him as sincere? (Personally, meeting a parent is a big thing... Like engagement big.)

To conclude, use common sense. Empathise you newfound friend. Enjoy sex, but don't give in to desperation.

Wish you a successful romance.

[Sugar100]

I don’t do casual sex. I have fear if I hav sex he’ll deny meet family later as he got sex. My family has never met a boyfriend and I’ll be 27. 😓 the one guy I dated in my life denied meet fmaily and othrer men have denied meet my family and run away. That’s y I don’t feel good hav sex without meeting family first it’s very important to me all my r married as they didn’t have sex , I want the same I’m not a hookup girl. I’m a family girl want get married have kids

[Sugar100]

No I don’t have a boyfriend yet I have no label as girlfriend

[RespectfulGuy]

Then stick to your principle and beliefs.

Don't rush.

Find someone who will marry you.

[DJB72]

Perhaps get him to visit you first. That way you can introduce him straight away.

Talk to him about your concerns. Perhaps don't mention being willing to have sex all day, but definitely tell him you want a relationship with a future before sex comes along.

A decent guy will wait and not pressure you.

[Sugar100]

But we have met in person before and he was in my state , so that’s y I thought I cud see him next? But yea I do want him meet my family first. But I do want sex lol I cannot deny it. But I do want meet family first during my visit then have sex after all night LOL

[Sugar100]

The thing is I’ve never been able get a guy to meet family. I get no from all guys so that’s y I cannot get a boyfriend.

Only guy that agreed was a guy 15 hrs away. So my dream of meeting family neevr came true.
Then a random guy on a dating app agreed to marry me and meet family first then sex but he looked older than his age and not around my age and I wasn’t attracted to him. So that neevr happeend either.

[DJB72]

The right guy will agree to wait because he'll recognise you're worth waiting for.

[LazerBean]

If he's into you he will meet your family when you ask him to, that's it.

[Sugar100]

Why People on here r saying I can’t ask a guy to meet family and he has to ask only?

[sheikalana]

I wouldn't introduce anyone to my family unless I was about to marry my partner. Boyfriend and girlfriend doesn't seem serious enough for me to introduce them to my family.

[Sugar100]

My family don’t believe that they belive a boyfriend girlfriend is meeting family. And obviously if u want marry later down the road then u propose to her family u want marry her.

It’s stupid to meet family then get married the next day family won't approve of that.

[sheikalana]

Family doesn't have a say if you're an adult.

[Sugar100]

My family r all religious and married they all bring boyfriend home to meet family

[sheikalana]

Me and my Husband come from religious families too. We didn't feel the need to introduce our families until we got married. Me and my Husband married each other now our families.

[Sugar100]

My fmaily not like that u meet families as boyfriend girlfriend not til marriage

[DrPepper12]

I don't think him agreeing to meet your family necessarily make him a good guy. You also seem to be beholden to him for this act. I got bad vibes.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Sex has nothing to do with meeting a guys family. It's you if he feels like your worth it then he'll make you his girl. I really think your just going after the wrong type of guys

[Sugar100]

No guy in my life has ever asked me himself to meet family. I see all the time girls needing make the guy meet family. The guy neevr initiates that stuff

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's not true and girls don't make a guy do anything. If you try to force a guy to do something he's just gonna ghost you or dump you

[jahaims]

If you have to make a guy meet your family then he isn't into you beyond sex

[RedInnocent69]

You’re making it sound like some sort of approval/declaration/permission. Don’t conflate them.

[Anonymous]

"if you meet my family, i will have sex with you"

[TeraGER]

I am just honest and frank

[Sugar100]

What do u say exactly

[TeraGER]

What you feel

[Sugar100]

Give an example

[Anonymous]

sex after marriage lol