I really like my friend but I am not sure about her?

[Anonymous]

I have this friend that I like like so much
We talk and text all the time
She opened up to me a lot and I kind of feel that we had this connection

She used to entrust me with a lot of her life
She was recently rejected by a guy she liked
And I recently got broken up by a girl I liked

We were both rejected for the same reason
We wanted a long term committed relationship and the other people were not ready for it

We carried each other through these difficult times

Over the next few weeks were were taking and meeting a lot alone
And I started developing feeling for her

In order to avoid surprising her
The reels I sent to her every day became more about relationships and how to build a good one and all stuff that indicates that I am interested

I wanted to meet her like unusual
But she started dodging me

We still text
But less than before
She responds once I send her something
One of those time she told me about how unlucky she was with finding a good partner

I am completely over my ex
I really want to date her
But I feel I have to tell her how I feel because I find it really hard to meet new girls when I am thinking about her

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo dude, you're in a tough spot for sure. It sounds like there's definitely some chemistry and care between you two after being there for each other through your breakups. I can understand why you'd start catching feels.

At the same time, her suddenly distancing a bit is kinda saying she may not be ready to jump back into something yet. Or could be she's unsure how to handle the dynamic changing if you confess your feelings. Either way, pushing the issue now probably won't end well.

My advice would be - back off a little yourself for now. Let things cool down and the friendship settle without that undercurrent of hope for more. Check in casually, make sure she knows you're still there for her as a friend no pressure. In the meantime, don't shut your heart off completely either - see if meeting some other girls could distract you.

Give it some time and space. Then in a few weeks, if you're both in a better headspace, sit down and have an honest heart to heart. Tell her how much she means to you as a friend first, and also lay your cards on the table about the possibility of something more - if she's open to exploring that down the road.

For now though bro, take the pressure off and let things flow naturally. With patience and care, it could work out - but only if you both feel ready in your own time. Hope this helps give you some perspective, man. You've got this!

[Anonymous]

What are u not sure about

[Asker]

I am not sure if she likes me

[Opinion Owner]

Why do u like her? Relationships built on shared griefs and bitter experiences don’t work because u don’t like them but like the fact u feel understood

[Asker]

I like her because she is caring , shy and knows what she wants
She is pure gold
She goes to club with us and never allow any guy to approach her
She is funny and she dresses very nicely
When we argue she is very well spoken
She reads a lot and she gave me some books to read about relationships that were very rich I. Information
She has rules boundaries high standards and very emotional

She is the type of girl that I can build a life with
Because I know if we ever faced a problem we will solve it logically

[Opinion Owner]

How old are u both? How do u both look.

[Opinion Owner]

Guys like shy girls?

[Asker]

I don’t know about other guys
But I like she is shy because I am shy too

[Asker]

We both look good
Based on looks
I would give myself a 7
I would give her 8

[Opinion Owner]

How do u both look

[Opinion Owner]

Heights weights

[Asker]

But I am 173 , 75kg
She is 165 55kg

[Opinion Owner]

Fuck u are short

[Opinion Owner]

Sad. How do u both look. Features?

[Asker]

Why are you asking this?

[Opinion Owner]

Curious if she pretty

[Asker]

She is pretty
But she is way more than a pretty face