Who else thinks that a woman having children with another man is pretty close to a dealbreaker?

[Anonymous]

unless she’s a widow, I just feel so awkward.

[DarkLegacy]

It is the ultimate dealbreaker, i do not want to be with a single mum and bring up someone elses kids. What if the father is toxic, what if the kids don't like you. You will always be undermined with regards to the kids discipline. it is quite likely that the mother won't want anymore kids and you will be in a relationship where you will never be put first. And the mother will want you to finance her kids as well.

[Asker]

She’s an ER doctor.. she doesn’t need my money

but still

[Billlewis]

I strongly disagree with that belief. In fact, I consider it a bonus if she has a child by another guy, and I wouldn't be at all hesitant to assume financial responsibility for the child, if I'm confident in my ability to make the relationship work.

[LazerBean]

It would be for me, but I don't think that anyone who has sex outside of marriage (therefore people who are high risk for having illegitimate children) should be very judgmental over others who are doing the exact same thing

[Asker]

that’s why being in to older women is nice. Not likely

[RebelinSteel]

Why does it matter if she’s a widow or not.
if it’s a dealbreaker her having kids from another guy, then that’s it.

why does it matter if he’s alive or dead

[jahaims]

Because one means her s/o died and the other one means she makes poor decisions

[RebelinSteel]

@jahaims how did she make a poor decisions, unless you are psychic you don’t know that the person you date, get into a relationship and then marries will cheat on you. what if the guy cheats on her because he can’t have sex for 6 months?