As a man, do you think a woman with kids is a deal breaker?

[Anonymous]

For example if you’re dating a younger woman or someone who’s 20,21 and they have kids with someone else. Is this a deal breaker.

[Avicenna]

Because she's still young, she would still be able to get a guy; however, she's got two of some other guy's kids and she probably doesn't make much money, so for most women it's a dealbreaker unless she just wants something casual or friends with benefits.

[Avicenna]

* for most men

[Anonymous]

It could be. If she had one, maybe two I don’t see it as such a big deal. But what could be a real deal breaker is how she takes care of her kids, she trying to be their friend or their mom. Does her ex’s children’s father create chaos for her, meaning for me as well. Am I going to be allowed to discipline the children as well? I know she may say she’s not looking for a father for her kids especially if he’s in their life, but you can’t expect the man to do nothing if the child does something wrong or disrespects me or his mother. Women who tend to have kids aren’t really looking for a partner, they’re looking for help as far as helping w cooking, cleaning, bills, as well as everything else. Also is she mature or does she act like a Princess, acts worse than her kids? There’s a lot of possible reasons it could be a deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

It’s not a debate because everyone is different. Some men don’t mind kids, others only want to deal with their own.

[Berethor]

Yea it's a dealbreaker to me, why would I want to raise other man's kid? too much baggage.

[bamesjond0069]

Total deal breaker. She's not suitable for anything more than a friends with benefits. I'm 36 so I'm a good age to have lots of selection, so I won't select someone with kids. Maybe when I'm 50 or 60 I'd take a 21 year old with kids.

[Avicenna]

No you almost certainly won't because you'd have three people to support (she's been busy having kids rather than building a career) and you won't want to support someone else's family.

[Avicenna]

I meant you also won't when you're 50 or 60

[bamesjond0069]

@Avicenna depends. Maybe 70. I just like that 18 to 24 yo pussy so maybe I'll throw in the towel then. And I won't marry her so maybe I can find one with child support and alimony.

But they always get last place out of literally any half decent woman that doesn't have kids.

[Avicenna]

Alimony? Fat chance she'll be collecting that- at that age she had kids out of wedlock, and probably not with a guy who can pay child support. Heck, she might even have kids with two different men.

At 70, you'll be even less interested in helping her with her kids and her shoddy finances. If for some reason she's in decent financial shape, she won't need some 70 year old to bail her out.

[Avicenna]

You'll be able to find a woman without kids, even at 70.

[bamesjond0069]

@Avicenna oh for sure. I'm hot asf and well off. So I'm not personally worried like that but tbh I'd rather only have sex with younger women. Not into old fat chicks.

[Avicenna]

No need to mess around with single moms if you want sex with younger women. And no matter how much money someone has, who wants to piss some of it away on someone else's kids instead of their own?

[bamesjond0069]

@Avicenna well friends with benefits with single moms is just fine too. I've done that before. What do I care? I like kids so it doesn't bother me to have them around once in awhile as long as I don't have any responsibilities.

[Avicenna]

yeah, well, I am skeptical that you can fully evade requests for money or other forms of assistance, plus what happens when these single moms "accidentally" get pregnant, a situation you don't want any kid of yours in.

[exitseven]

If they are little kids I would say no but if they were older I guess it would be okay.

[Marked_Man]

It's definitely a deal breaker. I don't raise another guy's kids. I want my own.

[Anonymous]

It's not 100% a deal breaker, but it's definitely a big red flag.

[notwoke]

most men figure this out too late

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Yeah, unless she's a widow.

[ThomasDavid1989]

Yeah, since I don't want kids

[In_Trance]

Most likely is

[Anonymous]

Yes.