Should you keep pursuing a woman that doesn't show you interest but hasn't verbally rejected you?

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Med_guy1978 · Accepted Answer

I think most women will reject a man initially even if they may want him. I believe the man should be persistent all in the boundaries of respectfulness and normality eg not stalking her and not being too invasive. Being correct, acknowledging her through hello or smiling or paying her a compliment and in the right circumstances asking her again for a date is okay. I feel many men give up after initial rejection and go for an easier option. a lot of females know and understand a man will respect them more if he has to put some effort into 'conquering' her. However, how does a man know where the fine line lies between her not wanting him, not wanting him but stringing him along or wanting to give him a chance after he has tried again and again? This is the problem and some girls hold out too long and every man has his cut off point unless he's madly in love or infatuated by her. I wish someone gave me this advice when I was younger and I would have surely persued some girls more intensely, obviously all in respectful boundaries. The worst thing is to be bitter and and spiteful and this is where understanding, compassion and empathy in the sense of emotional intelligence is essential.

CaptainOverthink · Accepted Answer

Depends on how well you know her.
If she's the shy type or maybe ignorant in the way where she don't take a hint.
Then better be straight-up and say it, least you'll know.

If you know she's socially attuned then chances are she sees it and is hinting for you to stop. If you catch on and friendzone her you might have chance on some of her friends, besides, we all need some female friends, can learn a lot.

Justneedtokno · Accepted Answer

Best thing is to be straightforward with her and sometimes she’s actually probably shy or awkward like me. She’s not able to actually verbally communicate that she’s saying no or she doesn’t really know how to say yes she is still trying to get it together or is she has low self-esteemor an Overthinker don’t even know you in the first place when she has so many things wrong with her her

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

You could just come out and tell her so you don't have to regret it later in life. Even if she doesn't, then you can easily get over it before you get really into her.

Finchie40 · Answer

No , don’t be desperate , you need a girl that comes to you

hahahmm · Answer

Every time I did that in life.. even if I did get her in the end, I later realized she wasn't the prize I thought she was OR I agreed that everybody isn't compatible. Sometimes she knows better than you what she wants *wink* *wink* HAHAHA. So if I could do it over I wouldn't bother.

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

Don't pursue her at all.  She needs to come to you if she likes you. You hurt your chances when you pursue. I know it sounds counterproductive but this is how a woman's mind works. It's proven psychology. You think I'm crazy? OK. Go to YouTube & type in "ignore her".  Tons  of videos will come up. You can thank me later. If she doesn't pursue you after you've ignored her like the videos say, she isn't interested. Good luck.

jshm2 · Answer

As a child one of the many lessons you learn are about "boundaries". When to stop doing something before someone fucking shouts at you, or not to start at all. Seems this lesson has passed you by.

Logan-5 · Answer

Now might be a good time to back off a little to show you have self-respect.

When she sees that, she may warm to you. Women want a guy who desires them but they also don't want the guy to humiliate himself.

RavVid · Answer

It has worked. A friend paid a lot of attention to a girl at work who ignored him. Then he deliberately stopped his attention to see how she would react. Last I heard they are still married.

PreferNot2Say · Answer

Yes. Just don't be aggressive or creepy about it. You should be ok if she hasn't made any remarks about it making her uncomfortable, but if she does then back off and ask one of her friends out. 😁

provokeesmokee · Answer

No.  Her lack of reciprocal interest is your hint that she doesn't want you.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Do you have self respect? If the answer was yes to that question, then the answer is no to your MyTake question...

Anonymous · Answer

No. Just tell her to say no clearly if she isn't interested. I did that with two women. One still didn't say no, only that she is sorry. The other one said that she was into me actually

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

You can do whatever you feel the need to do. Me however? Not a chance in hell!

Kit_Kat88 · Answer

Ask her straight up if she wants to go out with you

Yannae · Answer

If you haven't made it verbally clear yet that you like her, do it now. Maybe she's blind to hints too. If you already have, no you shouldn't.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Never do that. It's extremely humiliating to put yourself through that.  If a person wants to be with you they will at least try to get your attention and try to talk to you somehow.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Yes, until it becomes obvious by her words or body language that she DEFINITELY isn't interested. (We're boys.)

DrPepper12 · Answer

Be direct and then let it go. If this is a workplace thing, let it go now.

Gavin_Rowe · Answer

This question feels a bit targeted but logically speaking no. The signs speak for themselves

Vegasrunner · Answer

Billions of women in the world why would you do that?

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Depends on the directness of your previous approaches but generally no

AngryCarl · Answer

Technically no, since you're wasting your time.

grega239 · Answer

No. Stop wasting your time and stop giving her attention

msc545 · Answer

absolutely NOT. This is a good way to get a sexual harassment complaint.

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

Take your time and get lost. You have to work on your way.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't bother with girls or women like that, they are immature and a waste of time.

DishLady · Answer

No. If she shows no interest there’s a reason.

Peetopico · Answer

If you have self respect, no you shouldn't! If you don't then who cares? Lol

anongirl68987 · Answer

You should asker to get a straight answer tbh

sheikalana · Answer

Waste of time.

Fanfare690 · Answer

No. Take a step back.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Who dares wins.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

No. Why set yourself up for failure

JonCobretti · Answer

Not unless you have 0 self respect

nawtee_me · Answer

Just ask her to go out with you….

MacDaddyRico · Answer

Some women just like to play hard to get.

spartan55 · Answer

Dude, no.

exitseven · Answer

Never say die.

jahaims · Answer

Nope

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