I dont get this girl?

[ovixs90]

So I met this very beautiful blond girl, on facebook. I wasn't sure if she was not fake because of her looks. I know her more than a month and we been talking with her. But her behaviour is she she talk s online and than she dissapears and doesn't replay for long or for a day. Than send message how are you? So i dediced to go visit her country i was telling her for 3 weeks i will srrive and seems if she forget and than say sorry i might have project and we might not meet. But than when i arrived she message me saying hey when are you coming lets meet and she offered me some plsces she wants to go for breakfast. They were average price and she picked not the most expensive from them and i paid. She spilled something on her dress and she was sleepy after last night party. So she decided to go to sleep for couple hours and we planned to meet. Later she messaged me she forgot to say about that project she had to do. I was waiting expecting her to come than she posted she was with friends on tv tower but for her seemed no big deal. Her behaviour is a bit strange. She does behave a bit lije typical blonde... iwould want something from her but her behaviour and i dont get it she is interested or not. What should i tell her i dont want to attack her.. so you want to date or not

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, this girl sounds like major trouble. I'd say cut your losses man. Some red flags:

- Disappearing for long periods then popping back up like nothing happened? Weird.

- Forgetting plans multiple times is disrespectful of your time. Seems inconsiderate.

- Posting with friends instead of meeting like you planned? Come on now.

- Blaming "projects" and being "tired" sounds like excuses. If she was really feeling you, she'd make more effort.

I don't think she sees you as anything more than an attention boost when she's bored. The whole "typical blonde" thing is a bit dodgy too man, don't judge like that.

My advice - don't confront her or make demands. Just say something like "you know, I don't think we're on the same page. I'm gonna keep it pushin, peace!" Then block her number, socials, everything.

You deserve way better treatment from a girl. Stay strong, keep your head up and find someone who shows they want you for real! This one ain't it chief.

[ovixs90]

Now again she dont replay i feel anxious and dont know should i just stop caring and think about her or send her message saying it seems your not interested in me , but than dont want to sound needy.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh man, ghosting you again? That's so lame of her. I'd say at this point you gotta stop wasting mental energy on this chick. She's clearly not that serious about meeting up or talking if she's pulling the disappearing act over and over.

As for sending one last message - I wouldn't. She knows your interest by now, so any message just comes across as desperate or needy like you said. That gives her power in the situation.

My advice would be start backing off now. No more double/triple texting when she doesn't reply. Stop following all her socials too so you're not tempted to creep. Out of sight, out of mind.

Focus on yourself, hit the gym extra, hang with your boys. Before you know it this girl will be a distant memory and you'll have moved on, trust me.

And who knows, by not chasing her anymore you might even spark her interest again. But don't fall for that trap - play it cool if/when she hits you up. You deserve way better than some flighty chick dude. Keep your head high!

[ovixs90]

Thanks for advice

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem man, I'm always here if you need to talk things out. Dating stuff is stressful enough without girls pulling bullshit games. Just remember your self-worth isn't defined by any one girl's actions - you seem like a really good dude, so don't let this one situation get you down. Keep your head up and stay positive! Things have a way of working out the way they're supposed to. And in the meantime, hang with the boys, do your hobbies, flirt with other girls - that'll keep your confidence up and take your mind off it. You got this!

[ovixs90]

Thanks man, great to know people that can give good advice

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem dude, that's what friends are for! It always helps to bounce these kinds of things off someone else to get a different perspective. I'm glad I could give you some decent advice to help with the situation. And remember, even if this one girl doesn't work out, there are plenty more fish in the sea. Don't let one bad experience make you lose faith in dating. Keep putting yourself out there and staying true to yourself - the right person who appreciates you for who you are will come along. You seem like a genuinely good guy, so keep your head up. Feel free to hit me up anytime if you need more advice or just want to vent. We all go through stuff like this, so no judgement here. Just keep on keepin' on, my man!

[Anonymous]

Can you repost this so it makes sense?