Guys, would you date an overweight girl as she is trying to lose weight?

[Anonymous]

The guy I am currently seeing I know for a fact does not like overweight women. I am 5’10 and weigh 220 lbs. I don’t have huge arms or legs but I definitely have a stomach. I’m still losing more weight but I know it takes time and patience. I don’t understand how he can be physically attracted to me if he does not find overweight women attractive. He has told me he is attracted to the “effort” I put in so I guess he see the potential of what I could and will be one day? He has even said he does not want to lose me and can’t fathom the thought of losing me. Still, he could have dated a healthier and more fit woman. I’ve seen the women he has dated before.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

It kinda sounds like this guy you're dating is making an investment.

So let's say right now you're a 4, and your boyfriend is a 7. But he thinks you have the potential to be a 9 if you keep working out.

Your boyfriend could probably never get a 9 on his own, but if he dates you in your overweight phase, he's hoping you'll stick with him even when you're hot enough to get a guy way hotter than him.

The risk he's taking is that maybe you won't become a 9, or maybe you'll become a 9 and then leave him for another 9.

So that's what I think is happening. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's my guess.

[Miristheiss]

A lot would depend. How overweight? I mean there is a difference from trying to get from 300lb. down to 200lb. and someone who is 160 getting down to 125.

Also, some girls that are a little thick, a little on the chubby side are still as hot as can be. They are still somewhat toned. They have a curvy/fit look and an hourglass shape a stomach that isn't too bad and you can have another girl who is the same height and weight and she is all fat rolls and a gut hanging over.

So, if I already thought she looked good and thought "she just needs to tone up some" I probably would have

[Avicenna]

I once dated a woman who was exactly your height and weight. There is more to dating a person than dimensions.

[RingOfFire]

I personally would not because I just don't find it attractive, but I can appreciate that this person you are with cares about you a lot and that's something you want to hold on to because it doesn't come along often in life.

I also respect your attitude. Too many people who are overweight are constantly rationalizing and making excuses rather than making an honest effort to lose the weight. How much a person weighs or whether or not they are overweight is their business and no one else's, but I find it particularly unattractive when overweight people come up with excuses to rationalize their condition and claim that it's not possible for them to lose the weight. So they are acknowledging that it would be desirable to lose the weight but fantasizing that they cannot. This attitude is a real turn-off to me.

[Billlewis]

Yes, but I'd much rather date her when she's at or near her highest poundage, with no beliefs, desires or expectations that she plans on shedding so much as a 1/16 of an ounce. I love plus sized women, and I'm an ardent proponent of a person maintaining their true, or natural weight. In fact, under the right circumstances, if she wants a good fattening, I'll gladly load up her plate at every meal.

[Anonymous]

I don't see an issue with it. On that same token, you don't need to lose much to be the correct weight per your height.

For example I'm 6 feet tall and about 215 pounds. The bmi chart says I'm over weight, but my body fat percentage, 5%, says I'm good.

[MisterWack]

Yes? If she has a kind heart and a beautiful pure soul, both full of love to give then yeah! Idc about body type or whatever, just heart & soul.

[BonzoInBitburg]

I wouldn't date someone who weighed more than me. I would look for someone who weighed half that

[SotiCoto]

Sure. Why not? It isn't like most of the effort to lose weight ever amounts to anything.

That said, if her BMI dropped below 20 I'd probably get grossed out.

[Dongie]

It would firstly have to be her personalty. im 5'8" 186 so she would probably not be interested in me. But if she was, we were young like you and we liked each other I would and exercise with her.

[Nerdvana]

I absolutely understand the guy, I am the exact same way. I would be attractive to your effort. I am sure you are very sweet person. You are more than your weight or height.

[rebeliouse]

yes of course pot bellies are sexy and im guessing you have boobs bum and vagina so whats not to like about you :D

we could put more effort into your weight loss with lots of sexercise :D

[Twalli]

There was a friend I had who was the same way, just a girl with a guy losing weight. She agreed to date him on thr condition he continued to lose weigh, as he'd been doing when they met.

[Loner111]

I would, as long as she is a respectful woman towards me.

Honestly, I don't care how good looking a woman is, if she doesn't treat me right, she's out of there...

[andreasderjuengere]

Nope.

Show results first.

Make them last, too :)

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. Obesity is normally my one physical deal breaker, but if she is genuinely trying to get healthy I will date and encourage her.

[es20490446e]

I don't assume people have the right mindset to achieve something till they actually do it.

[genericname85]

i pick my partners for who they are today. not for who they're hoping to be in the future.

[jahaims]

Nah, her letting herself get fat is a sign of her having mental health issues

[Anonymous]

Wow 5'10! I'm 6'3. 220? You're just all kinds of sexy. You tone that up you'll be at 190 or 180 soon. Be strong, aim, you'll get to your goals. But don't do it for us, do it for you.

[Anonymous]

Nah. I'll wait till she's succeeded. In the meantime there are plenty of other girls to date.

[handsomelad70]

I wouldn't, but that's me.

[bobby_bush_eater]

I wouldn't but I think age plays a factor

[Pohjolan]

Overweight possibly but not morbidly obese.

[msc545]

Maybe. Probably not.

[hunterhan]

of corse date even fuck...

[Guyaskgirls6969]

depends