I don't mean morbidly obese, just carrying a few extra pounds, photo is example of type of weight i mean.
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The girl in picture is on the heavier/curvier side but she doesn’t look obese to me I actually think she is attractive looking.
With that being said I’m on the thinner side and work out a lot so I’d definitely prefer a girl who has at least slightly moderately fit frame. I also live an active lifestyle of so I think someone who is overweight just wouldn’t match with my personality and lifestyle very well. I mean girls have preferences for fit guys as well I think it’s completely fair for me to prefer one too. She can be a little curvy but as much as I try I just simply am not attracted to obese women.
My worry with heavier girls too is that they will gain weight later on in their life and get really heavy which would he bad because as much as I try to I can’t control what I’m attracted to and obesity just isn’t attractive to me.
On another note girls don’t need to be VS model thin to be attractive and look fit they just gotta be average fit and not overweight. I know for a fact that 90% of my friends have fantasized and gotten off to the thought of a curvy woman. It’s really just the obese women that we aren’t really very capable of being attracted to.
5-10 pounds overweight, no problem. More than 20? No way.
While there is the medical condition argument, it surely doesn't account for almost 50% of people being overweight, but we're expected to walk on eggshells around (all of) them in a futile attempt to make them feel better about it? Sorry not sorry, but nope, I just don't talk to them unless there's a job function that requires me to be civil. Otherwise, I don't want to talk to her or even know her.
Sorry, but it's lazyness, overeating, eating garbage, etc.. that does it. Portion control and eating healthy food is actually cheaper than cramming whoppers and ice cream in your pie hole. Exercise works if you practice healthy eating habits. Exercise will not work if you don't. It's really that simple. If they can't do anything good for themselves, then what do they have to offer me (in a relationship)? Sex? No thank you.
I also wouldn't (seriously) date a girl who isn't college educated, has her OWN job, car, and place. Feminists wanted equal ground, so surely it's okay for me to say I want those things in a woman since women have always said that about men, right?
Yes, many of them would date slightly overweight girls. I get more attention when i gained weight but i dont understand it. I get more male attention with my 56 kg than with my 46 kg. So i gained 10 kgs within 5 years. But i already loose weight and i want to lose more weight to be my ideal weight.
That’s true while attractive is subjective I’ve seen plenty of before and after photos where their face was much more attractive rounder when they were heavy than super angular when really thin.
Plus like Kevin Smith when you’re used to seeing someone at a certain weight and they lose a lot of weight it just doesn’t look right.
Never meant to imply otherwise just being supportive in general. Too often people are horrible to people they perceive as “overweight” on here so trying to be a positive counterbalancey to all that negativity.
They don't lose attractiveness, they just look different.. But most overweight people look better when they lose weight.. There's a few who have a nice face while overweight and when ylthey lose weight you find out they have big foreheads or something along those lines..
------Men and women carry weight differently. It's all about whether or not you are attracted to them not if they are over weight. The answer is yes if the attraction is there.
@YOLOIFIC Are you looking at the same picture? That girl is overweight. If you like girls "with some meat on their bones" that's fine, but she is not at her ideal weight. Not just five pounds away from it, either.
Yes, the difference is you’re using ideal weight aka whatever you made up in your mind based on your personal tastes and I’m using actual science. While it is a guesstimate since I don’t have her exact weight and height I’m very confident her BMI isn’t over 25 which is the clinical definition of overweight.
Realistically since BMI is absurd and not realistic in any way or form, not to mention backed up by little if any hard science at all. This woman at least in the US and Europe is below average in her weight.
@YOLOIFIC Okay, you have bad eyes, I guess. I did a Google search for the photo and identified her as Alessandra Garcia Lorido, a "plus-size" model and actress. She is 5' 3" and 150 lbs. fashionwomentop.com/alessandra-garcia-lorido/ I calculated her BMI and it is 28.2.
To refresh your recollection:
BMI Categories:
Underweight = <18.5 Normal weight = 18.5–24.9 Overweight = 25–29.9 Obesity = BMI of 30 or greater
Nothing wrong with my eyes, again it’s a partial photograph and there I no way to accurately tell her height or weight. It’s okay that your like people to look very thin. No need to flip out.
@YOLOIFIC It is not MY BMI scale. It is on the NIH website. I'm not flipping out. I'm just laughing that you clam she isn't overweight and according to the NIH, she is clearly overweight and very close to obese. And, no, I don't expect you to admit you and your "actual science" were wrong.
About 25 - 30% of people in the US are overweight last I checked, since there are 330 million Americans that is technically a lot but that’s irrelevant to the fact you’ve been wrong and contradicted yourself with your own sources that she ain’t just a few pounds overweight when she is.
Wher did I say I used science to determine she wasn’t overweight? I said the exact opposite repeatedly, 159 or 150 is is just a few pounds overweight by any rational decision, 18 pound or 9 pounds.
So still waiting for you to ask it you were wrong too. Guess I wait forever.
"Yes, the difference is you’re using ideal weight aka whatever you made up in your mind based on your personal tastes and I’m using actual science.". Your words.
@YOLOIFIC I dated a 5'3" woman who had WAY BETTER proportions than the woman in the pic: small waist. She didn't look fat at all and she was high 150s. I know because I saw her on the scale. There is no way the woman in that pic is 160 or less. She lies about her weight. And proportions matter... who cares if a woman is only 110 pounds.. if she's shaped like a hot dog or a rotten tomato it doesn't matter. It's still nasty.
Woman I'm thinking of had well toned legs. muscle weight, bone weight, fat weight all can be in different proportions. OP's pic is of an overweight woman who loves to eat donuts and ice cream more than exercising.
If that’s what you feel about her appearance that’s your opinion and it’s valid for you. But just as I couldn’t rationally say her BMI without her height or weight neither can you rationally claim she isn’t 159 lbs.
Your anecdotal evidence isn’t only irrational hit entirely invalid.
Either way she’s not more than a few pounds overweight.
@YOLOIFIC Which Is why I talked about proportions. She has sloppy proportions, symptomatic of fat overweight people. It doesn't matter if she's only 4 feet tall and weighs 60 pounds or if she's 7 feet tall and weighs 350. Get it now?
Oh, and her exact weight WAS named at 5'3". So yeah, I can say my opinion of her number based on other women of the same height who I knew their exact weight number. That means more than trusting the number some (lying) woman or publicist puts online.
But yes, I’ll take her word over your prejudiced opinion based on highly irrational claims to be able to accurately tell weight based on non existent “sloppy proportions” aka you don’t like the way she looks so she must be fat.
It’s okay you feel that way, everyone is entitled to feel how they want. But those feelings undermine your statement they don’t support it.
@YOLOIFIC lol... you're naive to believe these women. Countless times women have lied about their weight AND height. But yes, you go ahead and believe whatever makes you feel like less of a chubby chaser.
Everyone lies, and I trust no one even myself because of this If you have to resort to insults because you can’t refute that your not rationally able to insist she’s over 160 lbs based on your stated ability and one anecdote about your girlfriend on a scale that’s fine with me. The irrefutable fact still stands that while you can guess it’s scientifically impossible to state accurately a weight based on a photo or even looking at someone in person. You can get in a ballpark possibly but again body weight is about a lot more than “proportions”. That’s why when you go to the county fair the carnies don’t guess an exact weight but a scale. They’d lose too often if they had to give an exact number. You can have two people with identical proportions and very different weight since you can’t tell the percentage of fat and muscle simply looking at someone even if your a doctor. That’s why we have scales and body composition tests requires either taking measurements of severs different parts of the body and comparing the relationship between them to get a semi-accurate result or hydrostatic body fat testing to get as close to an accurate result as possible.
I’ll take her word over your irrational nonetheless until she proves to me she is lying. Just as you have proven to me won’t your actions you’re not someone to be taken seriously given your irrational opinions and over exaggerated sense of ability.
In fact the only thing you said I can agree with is you don’t like how she looks. That your right to not like her appearance.
Personal attacks just tell me you know that’s our can’t refute what I said. But it does mean we have to end out interaction till you can stop being so petty and immature.
@hahahmm do you realize that there is not 1 universal beauty standard? just because you like stick thin women with no ass , it doesn't mean the rest of the guys like that too. i am a thicker girl and i've never had guy reject me due to my weight.
@nella965 it very possible they do but if my interaction here is any indication they seem to respond to any disagreement with vulgarity and hostility. I would hope someone wouldn’t be so toxic and chalk a lot of this behavior up to people trying to be provocative on the internet.
Might be best to simply stop feeding their beef for attention. Just my two cents. Either way good and vails points.
@nella965 So now you are making false claims about what I believe in an attempt to make yourself feel better. It's okay. I'm sure there's plenty of desperate guys who are eager to boost your ego. You'll be okay. Breathe.
@hahahmm Just because a guy is not into stick thin women with no ass, it doesn't mean he's desperate. why would it hurt so much for you to admit that there are guys who like thick women?
@YOLOIFIC They respond with vulgarity because they know what I'm saying is true and it personally offends them. If it wasn't true, they really wouldn't be nearly as offended.
@OlderAndWiser whats wrong with calling someone thick? there is a big difference between thick and fat. Both words conjure up entirely different images.
FYI your generation called them thick too JS that term has been around since at least the 60s and 70s as far as I can tell.
It’s okay your prejudiced towards overweight people. Your feelings are always valid to yourself. What’s not acceptable is letting that lead you yo think you can act disparagingly towards others online or in real life.
@nella965 not for me personally but I can understand that someone else could see thick as one thing and more positive and fat as mother thing and negative.
@YOLOIFIC completely agree. And no, its not ok to be prejudiced towards overweight people. Its ok to have your preferences but bullying is not ok in any capacity
@YOLOIFIC here's the thing that people do not understand. "Thick" conjures an image of a woman with more meat on her bones but still looks good. "Fat" conjures an image of an obese slob who looks like a whale.
Everyone has body fat. Just because someone isn't your typical skinny barbie, it doesn't mean they can't still manage to look good. Different people have different tastes and ideas of what looks good.
just because you hate cilantro, it doesn't mean the rest of the world also hates cilantro. Its time these people open their minds
@nella965 see that’s what I’m talking about though what someone considers it ideal doesn’t mean everyone does. Yo em she’s too skinny. Like a fuller bosom and wider hips plus a more belly.
But she is undoubtedly is beautiful even if she isn’t my ideal partner personally. As I’ve discovered while I at first thought she was taller and not overweight medically he is slightly overweight.
Nothing wrong with that especially since BMI is a joke. Bodybuilders are obese according to BMI, it’s an arbitrary and unscientific scale system. But that’s a whole other conversation. LOL
@YOLOIFIC I feel like you're the only decent person on here. These guys are just trying to look for excuses to bash others so that it can make themselves feel superior. Its the most common reason for bullying.
Other people being a few pounds overweight has absolutely NOTHING to do with you. Mind your own business.
@nella965 I’d bet my last dollar the overwhelming majority of these people on here fat bashing are also getting in bed with a chunky partner at night and having sex with them.
There is a joke when I was in high school, maybe it’s still prevalent. My apologies it is somewhat crude. Riding a fat chick is like riding a bicycle. It’s okay; just don’t get caught doing it.
Plenty of people will say one thing publicly for the sake of public image and do the exact opposite in private.
It’s ehh you got to simply live your life as it makes you happy and let the haters hate. Can’t change them if they’re set in their ways and you will simply feel horrible about yourself trying to change them.
I agree ideally people would mind their own business but we’re curious and judgmental by nature.
@YOLOIFIC for me , personally I’m a size 12 and I’ve never been rejected due to my body or weight. And trust me I have been on dates with so many guys. I’ve even been told by a couple of guys that I have a nice body. That’s why I’m an appalled by all the negativity online.
Size 12 is a little skinny for me but again everyone is beautiful. Beauty isn’t a number in a piece of cloths or a scale.
I’ll say when I was younger I was at least publicly more critical of a woman’s weight. Largely because peer pressure; most wanted to be called a chubby chaser or made fun of.
But yes, the internet is a double edged sword. A source of vast amounts of knowledge and wisdom as well as a vast amount of pure nonsense and garbage.
Can’t have one without the other.
I will admit as I got older and went from desiring someone for lust to desiring them for long term companionship my tastes did evolve.
@YOLOIFIC and @nella965 now you two are talking about dress sizes. You should DM each other about toenail painting and tampons. Sounds like you both are experts on feminine products.
@OlderAndWiser "Thick" conjures an image of a woman with more meat on her bones but still looks good. "Fat" conjures an image of an obese slob who looks like a whale.
Wrong is subjective I can understand @nella965 that some see thick as less offensive than overweight but at the end of the day it matters what the individual finds offensive of which nobody can presume to know before hand without someone knowing the person and telling them what they prefer.
It is rude and I believe morally wrong to knowing offend someone specifically out of malice or spite. Others very well could disagree. Only thing guaranteed in life is someone will disagree with anything stated.
@YOLOIFIC I was there in the 1960's and 1970's and if the term "thick" was used at all, it was not in common usage. I never heard it used during those years.
And lastly, you do not have the right to go running around calling people "fat". Its not a kindergarten school yard playground where you get to yank on other kid's hair or call other kids ugly. Lets grow up.
Nobody is ever gonna go out in public and announce themselves as "fat" to million people. Let other people have their dignity. Its the least sign of respect that you can give others.
@nella965 I asked "What's wrong with calling someone chubby, stocky, or overweight rather than thick?" Did you misread and think that I used the word fat? I didn't.
@OlderAndWiser Well thats also another answer to your question.
1. thick and fat are different things. as i have explained to you above. 2. nobody is ever gonna announce themselves that they are "fat" in front of a million people.
Even if someone is "fat", you do not go running around pointing fingers calling every fat person you see "fat". Its not a kindergarten school yard playground. We're adults.
@OlderAndWiser glad to know you were omnipotent in the 60s and 70s but pardon me if I rationally choose to discard your implied all knowing powers at that time.
Just because you personally don’t recall hearing it (which is extremely unreliable to begin with but that’s another discussion) didn’t mean it wasn’t commonly used by any means.
I didn’t know what bukkake was in the 90s, or 00s doesn’t mean it wasn’t in common usage just because I didn’t hear it. Was in common usage especially in Japan I just wasn’t there to hear it.
But thanks again for comically reminding me how you’re screen name is only half right. You’re defiantly older but not any wiser. LOL Apologies if my joke at your ironic screen name’s expense offend you but it’s too much seeing that over and over and seeing unwise comments associated with it.
@nella965 I never said I go around calling anyone any of those names. Did I? You seem to keep twisting words so you can try to demonize me. That is not a very attractive quality in a person.
@YOLOIFIC I assume you meant "omniscient" and not "omnipotent." And, apparently, you didn't read what I wrote. I said I was alive during those times and I never heard it used.
You and your partner keep twisting my words to try to demonize me and it has become quite boring.
70% of the female population in the USA is statistically overweight. So you almost have to. This true. Look up the stats. Women are FAT and unhealthy out there.
Me? I've dated fat women. Sure. I prefer not to but if they have nice curves a nice face... and are within range im down.
First of all consensual sex is not "using women". Second, I am up front about friends with benefits or being a Fuck Buddy. A lot of women are down and will have sex anyway because I am sexy and they like sex. Lets stop pretending that its only guys who want sex and that only guys are having one night stands. I had sex with 2 women in the past month who just wanted to have sex with me for one night and then never wanted to see me again. Women are pretty much no different than men out there. Its hot girl summer. These ladies are building up a roster of guys, texting several at once, going on multiple dates, and getting RAMMED through.
To answer your last question. Absolutely I would marry a chic who is overweight. Girl i just started dating is a woman who I think is slightly overweight and 5ft 9 inches tall. If she started falling in love with me and I felt the same yes I would wife her up and love her. Treat her like a queen forever.
But lets be clear. Women need to stop being lazy and go to the gym. I am sick and tired of this empowerment of fat acceptance that makes excuses for women and acts like they should not care about their weight and exercise. this is not okay. we should expect women to care about their health and not let themselves go.
I am a guy and Iam a little chubby some 1 as in girl or guy can be a little chubby and still be healthy your probably going to say that is not true but it is and your being dubble standards saying all that nice things about girls being a little overweight and then turn around and say women need to stop being lazy and go to the gym
@Apope16 LMAOOOOO you are contradicting what was said in your last post. You said “the girl that I last dated was a SKINNY, tall and Norwegian woman” and now you’re saying that chick is overweight? WTF what a faker lol beta boy.
I would definitely not, I want somebody who lives healthy lifestyle, and keeps herself fit. I keep myself fit so I want partner who would also actively keep herself fit, and who is slim. Today its few ponds, tomorrow it'll be few more and then few more. Its no secret many people get complacent when they become comfortable in relationship, so they start to get fat.
I rather completely avoid that, hence why I would only date someone who would actively keep themselves fit and would not get fat. I hold myself to same standards and would never get fat.
No, because feminists push "fat acceptance" where they dictate that men must find all women attractive and that a man's preferences don't matter. It's one of those things where if the guy gives in one inch, women take a mile. Next thing you know, she's gained 50 more pounds and has a tude because you don't think she looks good. It's better for her health for her to be fit and it proves that she has some self-control/ability to work hard at something - more true, the older she gets.
I wouldn't date nor encourage someone to stay overweight especially when you enter the realm of obesity and this woman is very much in it these are more than a few pounds her panties can double as a parachute. But the idea is this is sure way to die young and live a life full of weight induced health problems and it shouldn't be normalized, I suffered with weight all my life and worst advice I got was "you look good that way no need to lose weight" this was literally my loved ones wishing death upon me without knowing it.
Overweight is not vague at all, anyone over 25 kg/m^2 is medically considered over weight. Granted BMI is a nonsensical and unscientific system which is increasingly being scrutinized by medical research. Still as long as BMI is the accepted standard of the medical community there is zero vagueness of what medically is overweight.
Granted in this context I think you meant to say what people in general see as overweight or not simply looking at someone is very vague. Which is agree with, and this comment section proves. I see here as normal if not slightly underweight; many others see here as overweight.
Don’t think her BMI is over 25 though, despite having no way to say 100% without a height and weight.
@alongcamecindy yes its women that seem to put too much emphasis on their weight most men actually like a girl thats bit more curvy skin and bones yuck ok if they are athalete and got some body tone thats ok but still curvy rocks but fine line to obease.
why is it women get fat though look at most of the girls in school and college and they are right size not fat at all then as soon as they leave school they seem to just let them selves go is it just lazyness? why dont they keep up doing sports socialsing etc instead of becoming couch potatoes and putting more emphasis on socailising driniking and eating out.
its not rocket science eat healthy and do fun exercise dont have to be gym buddies just do sport u enjoy :D
Honestly I prefer chubby girls to slim girls. Slim girls look nice and really attractive the moment you see them but when you are with them long term it could lead to frustration. I mean first gyming is a very high priority for them. So whenever she has time you would find her at the gym. Second their diets are so strict that sometimes they come out as extremely fussy eaters. Third they barely like to hangout in the movies, malls, or anywhere else. Plus I get slim girls have ego issues. I mean they are always in comparison to the other better girl. Chubby girls I find are more complete in themselves. Their attitude is far more better. Chubby girls are more happier since slim girls are always busy in improving their body that they forget to enjoy the little moments of life. I would anyday prefer chubby girl to a slim girl. Just that chubby girl should not be to the level of obese or the fat shouldn't create a long term issues.
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I'd obviously prefer not too but if my situation got extremely desperate, I might consider it. But I'd rather no girlfriend than an obese one. For me: Thin, toned, athletic girl = perfect.
Not toned but thin = very desirable. Average but not chubby = still pretty good. Slightly overweight = would consider out of desperation. Quite overweight = I'd prefer to just be single. No point even doing a hook up but might consider allowing her to give me a blow job in the dark while I watched porn. Obese = Just please stay away from me.
Not because I think she'd only be good for sex, but I wouldn't wanna date someone who I want to change. So I myself quite active and it would be important to me to do sports together. She's not unattractive I'd have have her as friends with benefits and if she's open to do active stuff together we could escalate from there.
A good bit of extra weight doesn't tend to put me off as long as she's taking decent care of herself. Many bigger women are actually stunning and very nice people. Now, if she was morbidly obese, I'd find that attractive due to the messages it would send in terms of health, longevity and personal responsibility, with exceptions for illnesses that cause uncontrollable obesity.
If she is a teenager, I might date her to fuck her a few times but I certainly wouldn't consider having a long-term relationship with her because, if she is fat now, she will be much fatter later. If she is 20 lbs overweight at age 19, she will be 80 lbs overweight at age 27.
What makes you think a person will be 80 pounds overweight at 27 if they are 20 pounds overweight ay 19? There is no guarantee. They may get healthier and be at a healthy weight, stay the same
@MysteriousDarkness There may be a few exceptions but it is foolish to expect an exception when almost all overweight teenage girls gain additional weight.
As long as they aren't in a mobility scooter or obese enough that they can fill up more than one seat on an airplane i'll date just about anybody, and I feel like half the men who don't date bigger women aren't even fit themselves which is kinda funny. Give me all those cute ass chubby girls 😂
I don't like extremely slim girls with implants I like girls little bit chubby who have a slight thick body, those women look so feminine.
Infact my current girlfriend is also bit chubby but she is a nice person so such things don't matter to me.
She loves me I love her that's all I care right now.
And I advice you don't ask such questions coz here some people are bit mean they unnecessary sell you toxicity and negativity in the name harsh reality. Which is not truth but beliefs.
I usually date girls who enjoy working out with me in the gym, but I don't carry a set of bathroom scales around with me and ask her to weigh herself before I date her. The one thing I won't do is try and change her. When you ask people to change, it creates problems.
I prefer thicker to meaty women. Skinny is all good too but I like my women to have some meat on their bones. Ashley Graham is a perfect example. Anything above skinny rather, hate looking at exposed ribs.
No because she would feel insecure because I work out everyday. Im 6'1 165lbs there's no frigging way Im gonna be attracted to her if she weighs more than me. The heavier I get the less insecure she would feel but im not gonna sacrifice my health just to playcate her laziness. Hit the gym
Usually not, as the inability to control one's self when it comes to food, shows a real lack of discipline, which will permeate other aspects of her life. That being said, in my 30's I'm looking for a wife more than a piece of ass, so personality far outweighs (no pun intended) her looks. However, comfort eating is indicative of emotional issues that, by definition, would be difficult to deal with, in addition to showing that she is not yet ready for a real adult relationship.
