She isn't obligated to give him the time of day. No one is obligated to date anyone. The question is does she want to date him? I don't know why she would find this guy attractive if he rejected her because he assumed she would put out because of her weight and be pissed when he found out she doesn't.
That being said, if a guy or gal rejects someone because he or she doesn't find someone physically attractive because of their weight, I see no wrong in that. I also see no wrong in a guy or gal becoming attracted to someone after that person loses weight. Or if their skin cleared up. Or if they got orthodontic work done. Or whatever issue it was that was turning the other person off.
What should a person who has lost a lot of weight do with people who never knew him/her before he/she lost the weight? Should they carry around a picture of themselves when they were overweight and show it to prospective suitors, then ask, "Would you date this person?" I'm not suggesting this is what you're talking about, dominiquois, but I've heard questions very similar to the one you're asking before.
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She has the right and obligation to do whatever SHE wants. If she wants to lose the weight because she wants to make him happy then ok. If she wants to date him then she has the right to and she should. If she doesn't then she has no obligation to anyone but herself and she should not date him. Same thing that he has the right to reject her as well as the right to want to date her. There is no obligation in either case.
I have to say, i've been in a similar (not the same) situation. I was the fat girl, constantly being rejected back and forth by guys I liked. They liked being around me and talking to me, just never wanted to date me or even worse, date me but in secret (yeah, shitty I know..).
I finally decided I was done being the fat girl and over 4 years lost 90 lbs. (Amazing how cutting back on eating and exercising works…) I have to say, a lot of these same guys who rejected me before and now asking me out left and right. My attitude at first was to reject anyone who rejected me… but losing the weight has def. given me a different perspective on life. I've given some a chance, but they have to work even harder for my attention. ;D
This guy… seems way insecure about what other people think. And that's not the guy you want. If it's not your weight he has image problems with now, his other insecurities will show. And may bring you down in other ways. This guy sounds like he has issues. If he really wants things to work, let him work for it! But I'm sure there are better options out there.
Yes. That bad taste would be in her mouth forever. The point of whether or not the guy did anything necessarily wrong isn't the issue. It's like starting a relationship with baggage from the get go. I was a fat teenager and after I lost some chub not only did I get asked out by guys who wouldn't have dated me, I got asked out by guys who tormented me in the past.
Rejecting them was a great feeling unparalleled by any other, and I'm not sorry about it.
Eww why would you want to be with a guy who rejected you because your over weight. My boyfriend still went out with me when I was overweight, and is still with me even after I lost weight. Now he's a serious guy, he liked me for me and not because I lost weight. Honestly I think you many want him because we all seek validation from other people. And having him like you give you validation. But he doesn't really like you just dump him
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Yes. Because when someone said they like you or want you, it shouldn't be with conditions. They should accept you the way you are, for who you are not the way they want it to be. Of course he should be rejected afterwards, no excuse accepted.
Hell yes he is an asshole, I am not overweight neither is my GF however I do (sorta) know how it feels, my brother is overweight and he is dating the most popular girl in school! He asked her one day, "why didn't you reject me? I am fat!" All she said was that she knows him for who he really is and that's what she cares about, they are now engaged and plan on havering 2 kids...
No. It's called having honor. If a guy didn't like her back then but decides to pursue her now, he is being a dishonorable hypocrite. He already burned the bridges by rejecting the girl, so what makes a difference if she loses the weight? Once you make your decision about someone not being attractive enough to date, don't go back to it. Have some honor guys.
IF THEY DAMN GIVE HIM THE TIME OF DAY I WOULD PERSONALLY TRAVEL TO WHEREVER SHE IS AND BEAT SOME SENSE INTO HER!!! THE GUY IS A TOTAL TOOL, NEVER DATE SOMEONE WHO IS SO SUBCONSCIOUS ABOUT IMAGE THAT HE WOULD DENY SOMETHING SO BEAUTIFUL INFRONT OF HIM
Hell no, dont give him the time of day. He if he really liked you then he would have dated you, he is super shallow. That relationship will end badly.
Nope, if he was a jerk to her before unless he proves himself in some way she doesn't owe him anything
If all he care about is her body, she doesn't need that shallow idiot!
No, at least not merely on the basis that he rejected her. We all have preferences and thats okay.
He. Is. An. Asshole.
case dismissedwhy give in to this. revenge is sweet muhahaha
Rejection sucks, welcome to a man's world. You got rejected does it really matter why? If it was your personality, would you want revenge then. That's a lot of hate to carry around just to get even.
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