why would the same girls chasing fit guys not want to put it in effort to at least be in decent shape and even try to bash thinner girls? Wouldn't they also want to avoid a fit guy as they are a serious potential to be a health nut and possibly get overly critical of things like their diet and lack of exercise? Some of the girls that have messaged me are in the seriously obese area here.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't know.
Same reason fat guys chase fit girls? That's who they are attracted to. There is also this huge fat acceptance thing going on and instead of everyone trying to be for and healthy, they want to deflect and make everyone else the bad guy. It's okay to love yourself and love your body, that's cool. What's not cool is bashing skinny chicks and demonizing anyone who does not agree with the lifestyle. I think that women in general do stuff like this without realizing that they are coming off as catty and unattractive but rather thinking that they will ignite something in a man's mind that will make him say, "oh, a girl that can eat! Forget these twigs! She is right!"
Stuff like this www.themilitantbaker.com/.../...at-girls-so-i.html is what is making it easier for people to stay inactive and unhealthy because it's saying that regardless of what you look like, you can totally bang hot guys too. Not that there is anything inherently wrong with this, but it's just a bad message and results in the thing you're talking about: zero willingness to make positive changes, because why should you have to change to please other people?
It also results in skinny bashing and the type of deflecting that guilts people into thinking that they're wrong for not being attracted to people who are overweight. I used to be overweight, but I didn't do a lot of skinny bashing and I certainly want pushing for fat acceptance. I did what I had to do and became fit and healthy. You would be surprised at how many fit guys like heavy chicks though... I had no problems in that department. And I think that a lot of women experience the same.
Short answer is that it is their preference. And if you're not interested, let them down nicely like I hope you would do for anyone else...
Most Helpful Guy
More power to them. I like a confident girl who goes after what she wants and doesn't let failure turn her into a quivering mess.
Fact is, there are guys out there who like larger girls. And that doesn't mean the guy has to be fat too.
These women know the odds are against them, but that doesn't stop them playing the game. If they go after enough guys, they might find themselves with a fit guy who loves larger women. And then they have their jackpot.
Just be polite when you turn them down. No one needs you to be a dick about it.