My crush has anger issues what should I do?

[Lalalove11]

He Is not my boyfriend. I realised there have been a few incidents he gets mad. Last night we were doing a voice chat watching movies. His mic was muted and he abruptly went offline. He got mad saying I was ignoring him even though he was muted. So basically I couldn't hear him. 🤣

Another time, it happened again few weeks ago when my friend came online with us. This time he thought we were talking but our mics were muted. Suddenly he said I'm gonna go, and abruptly left ending the stream. He was definitely mad. We were both confused. Later he made a joke to me about it but was giving out that we were catching up while he was watching the movie. This wasn't true. So he twisted the story and tried to make a joke about it, making it sound like I did something wrong.

Both times here I genuinely did nothing also. I wonder how he will react one day if I do something wrong. He is clearly easily offended and takes things personally. Should I create some distance? I think he is controlling.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Run now before that anger is directed and you. I know your thinking it can't happen but it can. This is a major red flag women always say they didn't know or didn't see it now you see. Whay are you gonna do about it

[Lalalove11]

Do you think these incidents were bad? I felt pretty scared when they happened. But then he pretended he was fine and nothing happened. This is his pattern of behaviour. Switches fast from angry to happy. I think I should create more distance and focus on myself. Maybe have a direct conversation next time it happens. I don't think he has serious intentions towards me. He did say he liked me when I admitted I really liked him yesterday.
'You're so sweet, you know I really like you 😭❤️❤️
I like you too 😋'

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just be careful this is a major red flag. I know cause I use to be like him I'd get so mad I'd black out not realizing what I did until I calm down but by then it was to late. His anger could just as easily be directed at you

[JTinSC1981]

These incidents sound pretty trivial. If stuff like this was grounds for breaking up, no marriage would survive for more than a year.

[Lalalove11]

Yeah you're right they're very small things. I'm just surprised each time he's offended he abruptly leaves and blamed me both times.

[DishLady]

Guys will soon a story to justify being mad at a girl. Sometimes the spin makes sense and sometimes it doesn’t. In your case, the guy seems to have an odd temper. You’re better off without him.

[DishLady]

*SPIN (not soon). 🤦🏻‍♀️

[Lalalove11]

Thank you.. I'm good friends with him but I think I need to keep a distance now. It's only a matter of time before he gets angry again

[DishLady]

Yeah. Distance sounds like the best option. Tbh I wouldn’t even claim “friends” status with someone who blows hot and cold. “Acquaintance mode” at best.

[Lalalove11]

Yeah I'm rethinking everything now. I have poor boundaries, he calls me my love, lover, cutie pie.. i was into it until now. and we aren't even dating because he is long distance. So I'm thinking of bringing that up next time to make boundaries with him

[DishLady]

🤦🏻‍♀️ Honestly, as someone who barely scraped through this very recently, just cut your losses and move on. LDR along with all this drama simply ain’t worth it at all. Go find a nice guy in your zip code.

[Lalalove11]

I'm confused cos he wants to visit me and seems into me but I don't even know if wants anything serious. I guess I'll just go back dating now.. you're right it's too much hassle. It's also very long distance, not even in the same continent

[DishLady]

No no no, this guys isn’t for you.

[Lalalove11]

Yeah.. it hurts but I needed to hear that. Also nearly any guy that gives me loads of pet names early on has turned out to be toxic 😅

[paledreams]

I have my moods lol nothing extreme or intense, that's another reason I'm merrily single, is that I'm not an angry man, I'm just a particular man ♂️👀 I like things a certain way, a certain style, ☺️ ah well ❤️‍🩹😉