Why do people try to make it seem like these things aren’t important?

[Anonymous]

So I’m on the autism spectrum I don’t have a social circle of friends and I don’t have a girlfriend I also have poor undeveloped social skills. Basically from childhood to now I have always wanted friends and to be able to date but some family members go I shouldn’t focus on dating and stuff it’s like people are trying to get me to ignore important aspects of life

[kylee2437]

Well no one can really tell you what really is or isn’t important, however this is stuff that needs to be worked on, and done on your own. If you feel like it’s that important, you need to be able to work on it, on your own terms. These people are plainly implying that they don’t want to help you with your socialization.

[Sasquach]

Two things come to mind:

1. You could spend a lifetime chasing women and never get the one you want

2. If you get the one you want there are no guarantees it will last

Long story short constantly trying to find stability in someone else is a wasted effort. You need to work on yourself before you are ready to work on others. Not to mention looking for a wife that is also your best friend and every other role that makes up a social life is an extraordinary amount of pressure to expect from a single person.

To beat the bush: work on yourself and a girl will come along naturally

[Phoenix98]

Some people are just like that.

wanting a girlfriend is a perfectly reasonable thing to want humans crave companionship.

same with friends humans are very similar to pack animals in that we need and want to be around each other which makes having friends important.

And having social skills is important because that’ll help you in many aspects of your life.

[Anonymous]

I never ever heard of this autism stuff till a few years ago. Now people use it as an excuse for everything.

[Asker]

So that’s part of the issue there isn’t enough knowledge on it autism has been around for a very long time I lived a childhood till 19 being bullied by both other kids and adults because of my differences. It’s not an excuse it’s a developmental disability for example I rock when I get stressed or as a calming mechanism. I was relentlessly bullied for this at school. Those same poor social skills led to constant issues I was constantly overstimulated at school because of various things that were going on but nobody understood the concept of autism and different the neurodivergent brain is. What you are seeing today with autism is a breathe of fresh air because the understanding and approach to autism didn’t use to be there it’s why I suffered in the late 90s- early 2000s during my childhood no one knew what it was.