Why do I get mad when my girlfriend hangs out with her friends?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Depends on what your girlfriend is doing when she hangs out with her friends? Do they take her to clubs and bars and comes home odd hours of the night , or does she only hang out with them for a few hours and comes home at a reasonable time? If she isn’t staying out odd hours , every time she hangs with her friends , than she more than likely isn’t being up to no good , but if she is going to clubs and bars and coming home late? Than she is more than likely being up to no good. Don’t ever point fingers , until you point fingers at yourself first when it comes to friends, Good friends support your relationship and don’t try to come in between your relationship, but Toxic friends , try to sabotage your relationship and try to come in between , so if she has toxic friends that do that? You are best to have a talk with her and tell her how you feel , if nothing changes? Dump her ass. A loving girlfriend will make you her top priority , if her friends are more of a priority than you are to her? You are best to kick her to the curb where she belongs

U4ea0 · Accepted Answer

When your girlfriend spends time with her friends, it may make you feel jealous or insecure. This is because you may be afraid that they will replace you as her primary source of support and connection. Additionally, she might be sharing details about her life with them that she hasn’t shared with you, which can also create tension between
the two of you.

JustTryingToLife · Accepted Answer

Insecurities? I don't know. Do you think that they sit there and talk s**t about you and try to get her to break up with you? Maybe you should invest in yourself some more. Work on your hobbies, friendships, external activities etc. Because hopefully you'll like that she has a life outside of your relationship if you had more of one too.

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

That's for you to figure out, not me. But if she had a day out with her friends go hang out with yours. If you dont have any, go to meet-ups with people to make friends. So that way you both have your group of friends. The only thing I could th ink of is maybe you feel lonely when she leaves.

robot · Answer

It's totally normal to feel that way sometimes. Jealousy and insecurity can sneak up on us, even when we don't want them to. Here are a few reasons why you might be feeling mad:

Fear of Missing Out (FOMO): Maybe you're worried that she's having more fun with her friends than with you. It's natural to want to be included in the good times.

Insecurity: You might feel like her friends are more important to her than you are, which can be tough to handle. It’s important to remember that different relationships fulfill different needs.

Trust Issues: If you've been hurt in the past, it’s easy to project those feelings onto your current relationship.

Lack of Attention: If you feel like you’re not getting enough quality time together, it can be frustrating to see her spending time with others.
It's really important to communicate how you’re feeling with her. Try to do it in a way that's not accusatory. Maybe say something like, "I've been feeling a bit left out lately.

Can we plan some time just for us?" It’s also good to work on your own hobbies and friendships, so you don't feel like all your happiness depends on her.

In the end, it’s about balancing time together and apart, and making sure both of you feel valued and loved.

princess · Answer

Feeling mad when your girlfriend hangs out with her friends often stems from underlying insecurities, fear of missing out, or trust issues. Insecurity can make you worry that her friends are more important to her than you are, causing feelings of neglect. Fear of missing out (FOMO) can trigger jealousy, as you might wish to be included in her fun experiences. Trust issues, possibly from past relationships, can also play a role, making you anxious about what she might be doing or who she’s with. Additionally, if you feel like you're not spending enough quality time together, seeing her prioritize others can be frustrating. Communication is key. Expressing your feelings to her in a calm and understanding manner can help address these emotions...

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Could be a lot of reasons but you need to dig into that hole and sort that. Being good to her and good to her friends is a winning move. She SHOULD have friends away from you (and you from her).

Unless they are importing some behavior or mindset that is impactful in a negative way, then you should just let it be. Address your own issue - be it insecurities, jealousy, or whatever and let her be her.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Most likely immaturity. It's healthy and normal for your girlfriend to want a night out with the friends. You're old enough to admit this which is great to recognize but you're too also too old to behave this way. Grow up my man. Just being direct with you and not trying to be mean or troll. Good luck.

MisterWack · Answer

You get jealous easily and is hard for you to grasp her having a good time with people who aren’t you (even though you have good times without her with friends too).

Radiate143 · Answer

You are putting all your happiness in her validating your worthiness as a partner. Or, she has shown some shady behaviour. Or, you're jealous and nuts.

DishLady · Answer

Dude, no one can teach you why YOU get mad…. Why ARE you mad that she’s hanging out with her friends?

waterliliestxt · Answer

Because there is obviously something in your mind that has caused you to think this way. This is the start of toxic behavior, please do not continue this.

rienna888 · Answer

That happened to me before too but it was due to my ex making it obvious that his friends were more important than our relationship. Lol is that the case for you?

exitseven · Answer

If her friends are all guys the used to date or had sex with I would be mad too.

Booklover_90 · Answer

Do you have a life outside of her? Do you have friends of your own?

Still-alive · Answer

i dunno but perhaps you should get over yourself?

DextroShade · Answer

Who are her friends? Is she hanging out with dudes? Or promiscuous or feminist women?

Anonymous · Answer

Because you are controlling. Maybe you should examine why that is.

handsomelad70 · Answer

If they're other broads, you may believe her girlfriends are trying to get her another chap.

Theodoricus · Answer

You're jealous a bit, I guess. But it's normal if you really love her.

PeterLegg91 · Answer

That she and her friends are looking at other guys? 🤔

Hollyjjm · Answer

My guess is you’re insecure? More info about what she’s doing with her friends would be helpful.

Anonymous · Answer

That’s weird you should be happy your partner is going out and socializing…

Desi_Butcher · Answer

Jealous. Possessive.

avery58 · Answer

Well you surely know the answer to that

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

Because she's not having fun with you.

paledreams · Answer

Lol that they're gossiping 😆😉😆😉☕💄 ah well

Anonymous · Answer

the comments here be assuming the worst

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Because she is naughty

In_Trance · Answer

Do her friends have penises?

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

Insecurity?

Anonymous · Answer

Because you jealous, controlling and insecure

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Because you are a man child

Anonymous · Answer

you're immature

jahaims · Answer

Jealousy/insecurity

ChinaGrove · Answer

LMAO

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