She keep asking me out?

[Anonymous]

We went on two dates. She wants to continue dating. Too bad she has a speaking disability and is older than me. But I find her attractive and fun to hang out with. Im currently unsure where this is going. She asked me out today if i want to go to movies again. I think I should go. What do you think?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's definitely a tough one dude. On one hand, ya said she's attractive and fun to hang out with, so obviously there's potential there. Plus she really seems into you by asking you out again. That's always flattering.

At the same time though, her speaking thing could be a challenge long term. And the age difference might weird some people out, depending how big it is. You gotta think about if that stuff will bother you down the road.

My advice would be to go out with her again, but have a think during the date about whether you could see yourself with her long term or not. If you really click and the other stuff doesn't bother you much, then keep seeing where it goes! But if you start feeling unsure, it's probably better not to lead her on.

Either way, you gotta give her props for putting herself out there with her disability. That takes guts. Just be respectful with how you handle it since she seems cool. And who knows, she might really surprise you! Keep an open mind my man.

[Asker]

Maybe we will be just friends with benefits or something..

[Oliverlogan263]

You know man, that could be an option too. Friends with benefits situations can definitely work for some people if both parties are on the same page.

A few things to consider though - make sure you really do see her as a friend and aren't just using her physically. That shit never ends well. Also make sure SHE sees it that way too and isn't expecting anything more serious to develop over time.

You'd need rock solid communication to set clear boundaries and expectations so no one catches feelings. Maybe have a chat to see if she'd even be down for something casual.

If you think you could keep it friendly with benefits without drama or hurt feelings down the line, it could be fun in the short term. Just go into it honestly and care about her well-being too, not just your own needs.

Only you know if that kind of arrangement would work for both of you. But it's something to consider as an option if you're wanting to keep hanging but unsure of a full relationship. Let me know how the next date goes!

[kylee2437]

If you are having fun then why not? You don’t need to make things official just because you guys just suddenly started going on often dates. Feel free to take things slow, enjoy the moments and this will get you to decide what you want

[Asker]

Thanks

[PeachyPie93]

If you aren't into her why lead her on? It's best to stop seeing her.

[Asker]

she is also giving mixed signals

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah but you know that you don't like her so who cares what signal she is giving.

[Asker]

I never said that, so it's just your assumption

[PeachyPie93]

Then why mention "Too bad she has a speaking disability and is older than me." It sounds like you don't actually like her. If you do like her then continue.

[Asker]

Look... I need to know a person more. I am not that superficial to judge a person only based on her looks and only see a person and say oh that girl i will marry

[Asker]

You are making such quick assumptions i can't believe this;)

[PeachyPie93]

It's not assumptions, because you literally pointed it out to us. Also usually when you don't really like someone at the beginning but you really like their personality and end up dating. It doesn't last, because they aren't really your type in the first place.
But I also said if you like her go for it.

[Asker]

Fine... 🤣

[Nikki1989]

So go out with her.

[noohair]

Ask her what her intentions are.

[Anonymous]

How do u both look

[Asker]

Im fit and so is she. Why does this matter

[Opinion Owner]

U told she has a speaking disability. U don’t seem to like that. U don’t like her for who she is

[Asker]

Does girls like guys for who we are? Do you girls like guys when he has bad times? Naaaah. You just want looks, money and status, sorry

[Asker]

Guy*

[Opinion Owner]

Then why do u bother about her

[Asker]

Cuz i like to date?

[Opinion Owner]

U sound like a bald teenage dude

[Asker]

*andrew tate

[Asker]

I can't sound because im writing lol