How many times a month do you meet your girlfriend/boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Is meeting one or 2x times a month a boyfriend?
I’ve never had a guy meet me daily or many times a wk, or live with a guy before.
Only one guy I dated my entire life would only meet me 1-2x a month& he lives 5 min away from me & denies live together.

[BetaBucks]

Are you going after guys that aren't that into you? A guy that's into you will want to be around you as much as possible. Are you aiming out of your league?

Sorry to soapbox. My answer for my last girlfriend (now my wife) was 6 days a week.

My girlfriend before that, three days a week.

My girlfriend before that, once a week, but I wasn't really into her.

My girlfriend before that, once a week, and I wasn't really into her.

My girlfriend before that, towards the end was twice a month. I was trying to get away from her.

[Asker]

No I don’t go for guys out my league. I guess no guy is into me. I never had a boyfriend yet guys say I’m beautifl & pretty.

[Asker]

We’ll I only dated one guy my entire life but he’s a fuckboy , and scared of comitment

[Asker]

I haven’t met a new guy that wants be my boyfriend & date me. It’s been difficult find a new guy.

[BetaBucks]

Are you in good shape? Skinny or fit? There's pretty much no girl that doesn't have guys saying she's pretty, but guys will be reluctant to commit to a girl who isn't in good shape, even if they're willing to sleep with you. You might just need to adjust your standards to find guys that are on your level and will commit. Higher attractiveness guys will still sleep with you, but won't be interested in commitment.

A simple way to put it, girls that are a 5/10 will pull situationships and sex from 7s and 8s, but only 6s and below will get into a serious relationship with her. It can be really confusing for the girl, because she's getting what seems like genuine interest from the 7s and 8s, and it warps her perception of her value.

[Asker]

I’m not a 5/10. I’m skinny and fit. I’m like a 6/7 and go after guys that r like a 6/7 like me.

[BetaBucks]

Then if you're being honest and accurate (a rare trait tbh), I'd guess that there are some personality issues. Either with you, or with the types of guys you are drawing in.

[BetaBucks]

Oh, and a few other things as possibilities are you having poor hygiene, a bad history that guys find out about or air of unfaithfulness.

[BetaBucks]

Oh, and boring sexual behavior.

[Finchie40]

It sounds like your boyfriend just likes the convenience of you but he doesn’t truly value you , when a guy really likes a girl he wants to see her as much as possible and spend time with her as much as possible , so I hate to break it to you , but your boyfriend is pretty much using you as a convenience

[Asker]

He’s not my boyfriend , it’s guy I dumped already.

[Finchie40]

Smart move

[Finchie40]

Find yourself a guy that makes you his priority , that wants to be by your side as much as possible , people that go days without reaching out to someone they claim to really like , are talking out their asses , they just like the convenience of that person but they truly don’t value or appreciate that person

[Asker]

I find find someone that values me and loves me. No guy has ever met my family no guy has ever wanted future with me.
I’m seeing one guy that’s Long distance rn. We met 3 months ago & will meet again in one week and he offer i meet him again in August too.

[Asker]

I never find ****

[Asker]

That’s y I’m 26 and never found my partner

[Asker]

I’m ready be with a guy daily live together but no guy loves me & wants be with me 24/7 enjoying my company

[Asker]

I’m ready to
Comitt but no guy is willing

[Finchie40]

Yea it usually takes a bit to really get to know someone , but it’s best to treat that person the same way you want to be treated in return , , make them a priority and see if they make you theirs. If they do not , than move on from them

[Asker]

I never in my entire life met any guy that wants be with me daily 24/7, its making me depresed I don’t understand why girls hav guy next to her and no guy wants be next to me no guy is proud of me. No guy likes me

[Finchie40]

It sounds like you are attracting the wrong guys’

[Asker]

I found random guy on dating app that wants marriage babies like me. But I don’t like him. I will try my best force mylsef comitt to him.
Is this the love of my life? Random guy I don’t like? I feel no buttfuerflies no love no interest. I feel no emotion

[Finchie40]

Well don’t force yourself to like someone you don’t like? Just play your cards right the next time around , set some preferences for yourself but don’t make them too extreme , Just go on dates with guys’ and take things slow , don’t rush into anything like sex etc.. Ask questions that matter to you and see if they answer similar to you , the key to a happy relationship is is to find someone that has a lot in common as you do , that shares a lot of the same interests as you , So date a handful of guys’ and do not rush into anything with any of them , slowly get to know them and be honest , about what you are looking for , if they are interested in you , they will keep in touch with you and try to see you as much as possible , just don’t have sex with any of them until you feel comfortable with them and you feel like you actually know them , It’s always going to be a 50/50 chance on whoever you date , but as long as you are honest and tell them what you are truly looking for? It gives them a option on whether they want to continue seeing you or not

[Asker]

I already met. Aguy that I like a lot we have a lot in common we r like twins. But he’s long distance but we met 3 months ago 2 days and we’ll meet again next weekend. And August again.

[Asker]

But do I need propose to him to be my boyfriend? Guys neevr ask me. If I don’t ask it’ll mean he’s single and I’m single & I have no boyfriend that won’t meet family. I nrver had guy that met family i never that real boyfriend that’s offical. I want a guy to meet family

[Finchie40]

Then you need to tell a guy what you are looking for before going on a date with them , or during the first date , tell them what you are seeking

[Asker]

We’ll the long distance guy I will see him next weekend only 2-3 days , it’ll be our second time meeting so I will tell him what I’m looking for

[Asker]

And see what he says

[Asker]

But even wen I tell him he won’t say do u want be my girlfriend, no guy ever proposes so I’ll be confused all year thinking if he’s my boyfriend or not? Wen we’ll meet family? Will he spend Christmas with me? Am I his girlfriend? I think that’s not a boyfriend if u r wondering all that in your head. I neevr had a boyfriend plan life with me

[Asker]

I’m planing life on my own to a ghost, I plan meet family August , attend family parties Sep to Dec with my boyfriend, live together Sep , and hav baby march 2025

[Asker]

I’m planing all this in my head. No guy exists that wants value me be daily with me & plan life all year with me as his girlfriend

[Asker]

I don’t want be old 40-50 and neevr had a first boyfriend. I want live with a guy take care of my babies , make bday parties with my babies, cook daily for my man, many pics, trips I want a boyfriend ☹️ I’m not a club party stripper girl. I don’t do Causal sex with 100 guys. I’m alone everyday

[Asker]

That’s y I’m confused do I need settle for any guy that shows me attention? Comitt to a guy I don’t like? I don’t like any guy. I only felt special connection & deep love for one guy but we don’t exhange numebrs fast and got fired.

And this long distance guy is his lookalike and we have strong connection too and a lot in common he’s my twin but I don’t feel in love for him cuz I think he’ll neevr meet family neevr propose be his girlfriend. No guy wants future with me

[Finchie40]

Don’t say that , it just sounds like you haven’t really met your one yet. Start dating more , and be upfront about what you are seeking and , if a guy really
Likes you , he will make you his priority
And try to see you as much as possible , but don’t just settle for the first guy , date others as well until you truly feel which guy you like the most and than put all your time into him , if he doesn’t do the same
For you , than move on to the next guy , don’t lay all your eggs into one nest , and take your time , don’t rush anything , a guy that truly likes you and wants to be with you will devote all of his time into you , calling you daily , wanting
To see you as much as possible , don’t settle for anything less

[Asker]

I’ve met 500 guys already since last year. I only like the long distance guy and the guy at my job but we got fired and I felt him like my soulmate. The long distance guy it’s hard tell if he want see me as much as possible as he lives far away. He’s quiet and only I make the moves as he’s not dominant , he does whatever I say.

We barley met once march and I’m seeing him again next weekend and August.

[Asker]

But wen I see him next weekend I’ll tell him why he don’t hav girlfriend and say guys treat me bad n can’t find guy that wants meet family. N see what he says. I also will say I don’t do friends with benefits.

[Asker]

Me and that guy r like twins, we have a lot in common, I don’t travel to see any guy all the time, I only am doing it for him.

[Finchie40]

Well it sounds like he is the guy for you then. The long distance isn’t the greatest but it isn’t the worst either , if you both are making an effort to see each other , you said you are both like twins, so you are best to go for a guy like that, over a guy that you really don’t have much in common with or don’t know much about , since you want a relationship, you are best just to focus on him and treat him the same way you want to be treated , so what is stopping you? It sounds like he likes you if he is taking time to come see you, just be honest and upfront with him about what you want, he will either say yes or no , but at least you will have an answer.

[provokeesmokee]

That's not a boyfriend, that's a dude who uses you for sex.

I see my partners at least 4x a month and frequently 20 days a month or more. And we live 30 min drives from each other.

I think if my partners and I had our ways, we'd have 8 extra days in each week and 10 hours more each day, just to spend with one another.

[Asker]

We’ll the second new guy I’m seeing is LD. We met once 3 months ago & we’ll meet 2-3 days in one week & half. And we’ll meet again August few days.
So I don't know if that’s a boyfriend too or not LOL I hope so.
The last guy wudnt sleepover or in same bed with me it would be too serious for him & he would get mad and say we aren’t married!!!

& this guy he don’t mind sleepover , he would do it 24/7 if we could. So I guess that’s more serious and good.
I would feel not good as last guy would deny sleep over it just looks very bad&wrong.

[provokeesmokee]

Look, you need to know what you want from your partners and be able to communicate that effectively.

Anyone who doesn't give you what you want and who doesn't want what you give isn't gonna work out.

If you feel you're not lining up, gtfo. There's no good reason to stay with people who drain you.

[Asker]

I never had. A guy say he also wants a girlfriend and meet family.
I just said the new guy I’m seeing rn is someone long distance. I don't know if he’ll be my officla boyfriend one day.

[Asker]

We’ll all I want is meet family but I fear I can’t ask any guy that as no guy proposes to me to be his girlfriend so I stay quiet

[provokeesmokee]

You're not ready for a relationship yet.

You don't sound like you know yourself. Or that you seek anything but a legal bond with anyone who would offer it to you.

That's not loving someone. That's being a leech.

[Asker]

How is wanting a boyfriend for once in my life a leech? so you would date a guy that never meets your family and neevr gives u label as a girlfriend?

[provokeesmokee]

It isn't.

But if that's all you bring is desperation and none substance, of course you won't get a boyfriend.

Focus on being yourself first.

[Asker]

I know but I’m not telling any guy any of this. Im not talking of baby or forcing guy meet family. I’m staying quiet.
But I worry months will pass & we never meet family then like always it’ll be another time waster.

[Asker]

Since I have no label as officla girlfriend , this is why I’m always confused worried sad , as to wen we’ll meet parents cuz there’s no label from the guy.
Once u hav a boyfriend u plan meet family and future togeher easily but I’ve never had a boyfriend so I’m just planing my future alone in my head.

[Asker]

Do I need date mant guys at once to see which one asks to be my boyfriend, which one is willing meet family? In order for time not be wasted?

[provokeesmokee]

No, you need to know yourself and increase your standards.

[electromagnetic]

I live with mine but when we used to date, I’ll spend Friday to Sunday with him since he lives 30 min from my house. I was in school and he worked a lot so it was hard to meet during the week unless he was off work.

did you ex ever say why he only met you 2x a month if y’all live 5 min apart?

[Asker]

No he was just a fuckboy. 😔 he hid his adress from me for so long. 😔 he lives super super close to me it’s ridiculous.
How long did it take for u to live together with your boyfriend?
A new guy I’m seeing is also LD, we met once 3 months ago & in 2wks I’ll see him again for 2-3days & again August few days.
This is the second guy ever in my life I’m having a relationship with.
But he’s a portential boyfriend, not offical meeting family & stuff yet. ☹️

[Asker]

I just remeber once he would say I’m clingy , cuz we only met once the entire month LOL & he preferred be with his cousin & not hang out with me.
So I dumped him. I at that point had enough

[electromagnetic]

I cannot give advice but any guy I’m dating whom I’m only seeing 2x max a month is extra sketchy to me. Y’all don’t even have to meet each others families but that’s something to discuss future but 2x a month is crazy to me unless they have something to hide.

My partner and i were in a relationship for 2.5 years before we moved in together.

[Asker]

Yea but forget the old guy , what u think of the new guy that’s LD?

[Asker]

The old guy is dumped, forget about him. Again I never had a boyfriend so I don’t even know how many times u need meet per month

[Asker]

I’m so used to be alone. Never had a man next to me 24/7 .

[electromagnetic]

Does he live far from you?

[Asker]

Long distance.

[sawno]

My ex I only managed to meet once, dating long distance during a lockdown is very hard. I have never been able to visit her country during the relationship, she was never able to visit mine. But we did manage to meet in the UK since the UK allowed both of us in.

[Jessikaah91]

I live with my partner and kids, so I never get time alone lol.

[Asker]

Lucky

[Nirmroth]

I saw my distance ex (1h with train) every weekend.
The girl I am dating rn which lives in the same city about 15 min away around every second day.

[soe11]

• Me and my girlfriend live together, unless she go for business trip or me go business trip.
• Normally we never missed each other.

[dustybiker2]

Two times a month? I would suspect they would
be seeing other people, probably more than one.

[Nikki1989]

2 times a month is barely a friend, let alone a boyfriend.

[just_a_potato]

like once a month or once every other month. We're currently long distance right now 🥲

[Nerdvana]

Zero, she doesn't know she is my girlfriend yet

[Anonymous]

i assume it was better than my last relationship

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Usually 3-4 times a week on average

[DannyUk2017]

I'll let you know, soon as i get a girlfriend...😉

[Danny_dan92]

Once per week