How often do you see your girlfriend or boyfriend?

[eskimo]

My girlfriend recently broke up with me because we wanted different things in the relationship. More specifically, I wanted to see her more and I think I basically smothered her and got her annoyed at me. We basically saw each other maybe 3-4 times a week. Do you think this is a stupid reason to break up?

I am wondering how often do you see your significant other. I am wondering if I should get back with her, because I still like her a lot. The problem is, I don't know if I will be okay with seeing her less, say 1-2 times a week. Seeing her this much basically made me miserable at times, but I know that I still like her and I just want to see her again.

I am thinking that maybe certain people expect to see each other more and some expect less. Do you think this is something that is built into a person such that it is hard to change?

[dimequien]

Personally, I don't think 3-4 times is enough. I loved to see my guy everyday and be with him all day. If she really liked you the same way that you liked her she would want to see you more than 3-4 times a week, not less. I hope this doesn't make you feel bad, but maybe she's having a change of heart and she wants to see other people, but she didn't want to tell you to your face because she didn't want to make you feel bad. Here's a suggestion. Why don't you date other people but still stay friends with her if she is ok with that. If she still has some feelings for you she will want to remain friends. After awhile of you two dating other people, see if you still have the same feelings for her as you do now and see if she feels the same way. If you both do, maybe you can get back together and see if it will work out. Just ask her if you two can continue to be friends. Don't keep bugging her about you two getting back together since she was the one that broke up with you because you might chase her away for good and she will never want you in her life again, even just as friends. I hope this makes sense and I hope it helps! Good Luck!

[Nataliee]

I see my boyfriend at least once a week because I'm still in school and really busy. When I don't see him, I always talk to him anyway. When I'm on holidays I usually see him around 3 times a week. How much you want to see your significant other really depends on the person. I don't feel the need to see my boyfriend more/less and I think if I saw him more then maybe I would begin to feel a bit smothered. I'm a very individual person and I like to have my alone time and time away from him, and so does he, but that doesn't mean we don't like each other any less. Maybe your ex was one of those people who need their space often. You should try talking to her about it, and see if you can come up with a compromise on it. If she's not willing to talk about it, then maybe it was an excuse to end the relationship.

[wannalivebacktime]

Oh! lemme tell you abt maself ..I haven't met my boyfriend in 4 months..We are in distance relationship. He works night time and I in daytime..It so happens we end up not even texting each other for days! not to mention calls : ( and that's too sad...I miss him so very much , then I resist telling that everytime.. We just manage to leave offliners or catch up online for 5 minz.. How sick is that.. : ( we're working on that..

You seem to like her soo much , maybe you should cut down meetings mainly if/when she likes you as much as you do.. It's normal people have different personalities. Even when busy I like to be in touch most of the times and my partner likes isolation. And I don't interfere . that hurts though..: (

Good luck bro!

[wannalivebacktime]

Then again I kinda feel , since you guys are near it's a li'l odd not to meet each other whenever possible..Also it's her who broke from you, better you follow your instincts ( Sometimes they fail to convey the right message ) , if differences between you are too much you may consider to move on..Better than get hurt for longer..If she has genuine liking for you she'll come back then you can reconsider. You know it's better to have compatible partners when you want a long term relationship.

[Irishguy3]

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[Irishguy3]

Oops wrong question.

[Stvancer]

You two had different interest levels in each other. It is probably best that you broke up, because it probably wouldn't have worked out in the long run. Move on man, move on.

[Nestle_topiaz]

It's not like you will die if you won't see her in a few days:")

It depends if you have a lot of free time you can go to her house or go out for dinner together.

I haven't seen my boyfriend for like 4 months already because I move, but we can still chat on web cams...I knw I doesn't feel the same because its like looking into a computer not someones eye. I doesn't feel as warm as when he is around. :"(

[Anonymous]

I see my boyfriend 1 or 2 times a week. We have every wed. night as our date night. He works 10hrs a day so we fit it in when we can to see each other. I wish I saw him more - but he has to work hard so I hope one day things will be easier.

[Anonymous]

once or twice a week