Why does my boyfriend ask about his ex to his friends?

[Anonymous]

I recently just found out that my boyfriend asks about his ex to his friends everytime they have a convo he asks how she’s doing all the time

what could this mean?

[ManOnFire]

It means he still is not over her. When you're over an ex, you don't think about them like that or care to know what they're doing. We all may wonder about them from time to time, but never in a constant way, just a casual wonder. What he is doing is a clear indication that he still thinks about her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay, this is a little concerning. A few possibilities:

- He may not be fully over her yet if he's still thinking about her so much. Even just as an ex, asking about her regularly shows she's still on his mind.

- He could be checking to see if she's dating anyone new so he knows where he stands compared to other options. Wouldn't want her moving on if he's not fully committed to you.

- There's a small chance he's still holding out some hope they'll get back together one day. Wanting to keep tabs on her life is a sign his feelings may not be totally gone.

- Of course it's possible he's just curious and wants closure, but the constant asking seems a bit excessive.

I'd have a talk with him about why she's still such a topic of conversation when you're his girlfriend now. See how he reacts and if his answers match his actions moving forward.

If he can't give you a straight answer or keeps bringing her up, I'd be wary he may not be over her emotionally yet. You deserve a man who's all in with you!