Is it weird he’s 19 about to turn 20 in a couple months and I just turned 28 last month?

[Anonymous]

It’s not like we are dating or anything. We live in two different states and met on a gaming app. However we do flirt. It’s not like I’m asking to date this dude or anything whatever but he doesn’t even know my real age cause I’ve been embarrassed to tell him and just said I’m 22. I plan on telling him my real age but I don’t want him to be like “ wtf she’s old asf to be flirting with Me” when in reality we are both in our 20s.

i know he’s at the beginning and im at the almost end. But im not looking for a relationship not looking to get married or have a family. I simply like flirting with him and if he wanted to meet and hook up I probably would - but that’s about it. I don’t know if that’s weird or I’m over thinking it cause of society.

[Anonymous]

Well yes this whole “friendship” is based on a lie. Not good. The difference is that if you were a dude doing this to a girl you’d be called a prdo, predator, etc, etc. But because you’re a female you’re given more leeway, not by everyone. I don’t think the kid will react the way a girl would. She’d most likely be disgusted, call him a creep, etc. I think he will be ok w it. He might be a little confused at the start. But I think most men don’t react like this the way most women do

[Asker]

Well it’s on a video game not in real life so I didn’t see it as an issue cause all we do is play video games together we don’t text or anything

[Asker]

In real life I would of told my age but it’s a video game so

[MK1997]

What massive generalisations lol

[Asker]

@MK1997 I told a group of friends I made on the game my age before and they all made fun of me ( mind you I’m only 28) so I was afraid to say my real age because I didn’t want him to make fun of me like the group of 21-22 year olds. They were really immature tho.

[kylee2437]

@MK1997 it’s not a generalisation. She is on this video game, lying about age to fit in meanwhile fantasizing about sex with this young guy without giving him the option to decide on whether or not her true real age is too old for him considering he just turned 20 years old and has not a clue that she is almost a decade older than him. And if it was the other way around, he was 28 lying about his age, it becomes a question on whether or not this is an attempt of someone being a groomer. Lying is first step of what groomers do.

[MK1997]

@kylee2437 he's generalising how girls would respond to him and how people would react.

[kylee2437]

@MK1997 true, however he’s not wrong that there’s a dynamic where if this was flipped , it would be considered predatory.

[MK1997]

@kylee2437 depends on the person

[kylee2437]

@MK1997 more prevalent on it being predatory if it’s a man, that’s why this user thinks there’s no harm in what she’s doing.

[MK1997]

@kylee2437 I think it's because she wants him and is worried about her age. I don't think she thinks about the gender.

[kylee2437]

@MK1997 she knows the age gap is not correct , knows she has inappropriate communication with this young guy which is why the lying was the safety net for her. She isn’t even saying his real age, which is 19

[MK1997]

@kylee2437 I don't know I don't think it's a big deal

[Opinion Owner]

@kylee2437 I’m not saying there’s no harm. That’s why I’ve pointed out this whole “friendship” is based on a lie. But what I am saying is that most men aren’t going to take it the way a lot of women would. It would be considered predatory, grooming, creepy, etc. A majority of men don’t think like women. When I was 22 I was seeing a girl who was 43. I was fine w that. I mean if I can join the service at 18, be put in harms way then I think I’m ok w making a decision to as to who I want to date.

[kylee2437]

@MK1997 lying about age when you are nearly 30 is definitely a big deal

[kylee2437]

@Opinion owner but that’s exactly my point. It’s not the initial age that’s the problem, it’s the fact that she feels like the age gap is wrong to the point where she lied is a big problem. It doesn’t sit right with me that women my age actually lie to younger guys as a leverage point.

[MK1997]

I don't think you know much about women @anomymous

[Opinion Owner]

@MK1997 no I don’t lol 20 years of marriage has taught me nothing.

[MK1997]

OK it's your experience then

[Opinion Owner]

@MK1997 yes cause I’ve never been w many other women in the military all over the world. So yes no experience w diverse amounts of women.

[MK1997]

Funny I have a different experience

[Opinion Owner]

@MK1997 lol ok. Good for you.

[worldscolide]

First don't lie about your age, and second your gap is not uncommon, I'm 9 years older than my wife.

If you're interested or he is interested and you're not against it, see where it goes. Don't look down on him for his age.

[Asker]

Yeah I plan on telling him I just didn’t trust him

[worldscolide]

I get that.

[kylee2437]

You are giving huge predator vibes. Lying to this young guy about how old you really are by a huge amount because you want to blend in with how old he is , is odd as hell. You definitely have issues.

[Asker]

Ew shut up just cause he’s basically 20 and I lied that’s not a predator you sound dumb as fuck we both are in our 20s u are reaching. You definitely have issues. Learn the definition of the word predator loser

[Asker]

Or I didn’t want him to judge me not to blend in shut the fuck up acting like you know me

[kylee2437]

@asker yeah aspect you are the older person in this situation being manipulative for your own gain. How about take responsibility and stop being manipulative because you are the loser.

[kylee2437]

Except*

[Asker]

How am I manipulating someone on a video game? You sound dumb as fuck. We have never met talked on the phone or seen each other in real life. We play video games together. Your such a dumbass loser

[kylee2437]

Lying about your age is very manipulative. You mentioned sleeping with him and such. If this was the other way around, people would easily call this predatory. You are on a video game, lying about your age drastically.

[Asker]

Being manipulative for my own gain? Acting like I’m fucking 50 when I’m 28 fucking dumb ass. It’s not that crazy of an age difference your reaching and being a smart ass internet investigator calling me a predator to a 20 year old guy when I’m 28 your fucking delusional asf

[kylee2437]

Idc how offended you are. Lying about age is gross behavior.

[Asker]

And he lied to me at first too so I guess we both gross huh

[Asker]

He told me he was 23 then backtracked said he was 19 then I said I was 22.

[kylee2437]

You are the older person mentioning sex and what not. Own up to how bad this makes you look. Very easy to move on since it’s just on a video game, but yeah this is where it typically starts.

[Asker]

He’s 20. Quit acting like he’s underage being a weirdo throwing weird words out so loosely. Stop trying to act like I’m something I’m not when we are both in our 20s. ( him in like a month)

[kylee2437]

Idc what age he is, you are close to your 30s and lying about your age to fit in with a drastically younger group of people meanwhile mentioning sex and hook ups. Sorry it makes you look bad, no matter what direction you try and spin it.

[Asker]

Sorry I’m older sorry I don’t trust people enough on the internet to give my real information out. I am going to tell him my real age. I didn’t trust him enough to tell him my age as I already went through a bad experience with online friends who made fun of me for being 28 when they were literally 21-22

[kylee2437]

Yeah you don’t trust other people because look at your own self. Literally projecting.

[Asker]

Or no? He lied about his age and backtracked so why would I tell my real age to him) tf.

[Asker]

Why r u so mad and rude

[kylee2437]

Because you are trying to evade responsibility of being an older person that manipulates younger people on your own free time. And maybe if that’s what you do on video games, come to terms that video games aren’t healthy for you.

[Asker]

Yeah I’m manipulating him by him lying about his age at first so I lied then he backtracked to say his real age 🤣 yeah in my free time I LoVvVvE just manipulating younger people cause it’s such a great hobby of mine. You say I’m projecting but it’s clear you’re projecting your weird beliefs onto me and that’s not who I am. Idgaf what u say what ur saying is wrong.

[Asker]

U literally know nothing about me yet trying to paint a picture of me from a question that ur twisting and turning to fit your narrative so you think u r right when ur dead fucking wrong 😂 I hate the internet

[kylee2437]

I’ve never once lied about my age to appease a younger person, yeah no can’t relate. Do better next time and you won’t have to guilt conscious of not being honest about something as simple as age.

[kylee2437]

Have a guilty conscious* can’t believe I’m telling an almost 30 year old woman that lying is bad.

[Asker]

Ohhh my god bitch 🤣 I lied because I was afraid of judgement not appease to his age. You literally just don’t want to hear what I’m saying cause u want to be right. I can’t believe I’m telling a 27 year old what exactly it is and they are so stubborn like a fucking child they don’t want to hear it

[Asker]

I’m not guilty at all 😂 cause it’s not that serious we play video games together we not FUCKING

[kylee2437]

A predator could use the same excuse, and you are guilty. And you did mention hooking up with him. Go you have made imaginations in your head about this person without even being honest. That is predatory, whether you think it is or not.

[kylee2437]

That means you have made*

[kylee2437]

And exactly, I’m your age and wouldn’t think twice about doing crap like this on my own free time. That says something.

[Asker]

Ohh my god are you done😂 your annoying asf you wanna be right so bad who gives af it’s video games sir. The internet. Get fucking over it. You keep forgetting the part where he lied first about his age right? But let’s blame me. Nobody is a fucking predator and I’m not going let you have that. He’s 20 I’m 28. Age gap yes. But predator? You sound like a fucking loser. Worry about the real predators who fucking talk to teenage girls and are 50 years old. We are both legal to talk and flirt and fuck. You’re a fucking cunt.

[Asker]

Get your fucking head out your dumb fat ass

[kylee2437]

A huge age gap doesn’t make you a predator, lying about age and mentioning sex sure does. No one likes being called a predator, but your behaviors are aiming towards you being the weirdo in this situation plus you redirecting that he lied first which doesn’t even matter because he’s a KID, you are a grown adult.

[Asker]

When did I mention sex to him? Fucking dumb ass. Just cause u got preyed upon at a young age and want to project. He’s a kid at 20? Your fucking dumb asf loser bitch.

[kylee2437]

Did you not say “I would hook up with him if he allowed it” maybe you should reread your paragraph. Must’ve snuck in there or something

[Asker]

I forgot y'all you can go to war buy cigs and move out at 18 but he’s a 20 year old kid now to fit Kaylee’s narrative cause she got preyed on by a old man when she was 20 got it 👍

[kylee2437]

Isn’t that why you are scared of telling him your real age because he’s significantly younger than you? That makes him a kid in this situation.

[Asker]

And I would have sex with him cause guess what? he's 20 I AM 28. he's NOT A KID. And you’re reaching really hard to paint. Narrative to be right arguing back and forth with me to prove ur point that’s wrong because he’s TWENTTYYY!! NOT a child

[kylee2437]

He’s not a kid, but you lied about your age to fit his age. Own up.

[Asker]

NO. I’m scared because I just had a group of friends make fun of me for my age I would of told him my age in real life off the bat

[Asker]

Or I lied because I didn’t want to go through a bunch of 21-22 year olds being mean to me again for literally only being 28

[kylee2437]

Yeah because you talk to 20-21 year olds in an inappropriate manner, that’s why they are making fun of you.

[Asker]

lol 😂 YOUR REACHING never did that happen only with him stfu u know nothing about me

[kylee2437]

Okay predator

[Asker]

Ur totally wrong and it’s funny u wanna be right but u don’t know me and you never can be right your a fucking stranger on the internet spewing bulkshit calling me a predator for talking to someone in there 20s … WHEN IM IN MY 20s AHAHAH!😂

[Asker]

Just say u got preyed on as a teen bitch fucking shiesty hoe

[kylee2437]

I’m also in my 20s dating someone in my 20s and I didn’t have to lie to get there because I’m not a predator loser

[kylee2437]

In their 20s*

[Asker]

Go worry about the men raping little girls and a little less about a 20 year old and 28 year old flirting 😂 ON THE INTERNET 🤣

[Asker]

AHAHAHA u think he’s going to care when I tell him I’m 28 he’s not but he shouldn’t have lied in the first place or I wouldn’t have oh well

[kylee2437]

Now a days, we have to worry about women like you that think being grown and doing harmful things doesn’t call for consequences

[Asker]

Yeah cause I got to lie about being in my 20s when I’m in my 20s already AHAHAH u dumb goofy bitch

[kylee2437]

And if he doesn’t care that’s awesome, but right now you aren’t giving him the choice to care or not. Isn’t that your main worry, that he will care?

[Asker]

We have to worry about woman like u who call people predators and be Karen’s when people are both in their 20s🤣

[Asker]

He won’t tho! I’m not worried about it 🤣 I don’t ever lie about my age I just did because he did first

[kylee2437]

Being in your 20s doesn’t make you a predator, lying about age when you are the older person does.

[Asker]

I’m 28 not fucking 57 get a grip bitch

[kylee2437]

And you are 28 and still don’t know not to lie about basic information

[Asker]

Control urself hoe throwing weird words around so loosely ur fucking dumb go worry about the kids actually getting preyed on bitch

[kylee2437]

Okay predator.

[Asker]

He’s 20 and I’m 28. Legal and nobody is a predator get your head out ur ass hoe.

[Asker]

Fucking loser

[kylee2437]

It can be legal, and you are still showing signs of a grown predator.

[Asker]

Ohh my god your annoying as fuck bitch why do u keep going on and on. Idc what u say bitch I’m a predator yet he lied first about his age u wanna be right so bad but your wrong

[Asker]

Sorry u got preyed on baby but that’s not my business

[Asker]

Sorry bitch ur wrong

[kylee2437]

I wouldn’t expect any less from someone being called out on their behaviors.

[Asker]

And I would expect anything less than a bitch who lives on this app considering your profile bitch stfu and like I said worry about the real predators raping children u fucking bozo ass big bitch

[Asker]

Fucking Karen i wouldn’t expect anything less than u being proven wrong and told what it is and why I lied and still holding on to their own beliefs cause they can’t be wrong u fucking Becky crash dummy bitch

[kylee2437]

I really don’t care what you have to say about me, I’m definitely above a person that lies about their age at this age. I’m enjoying this app meanwhile you are trying to out what you do on your free time to people that are 19-20 years old.

[Asker]

Meanwhile ur going on and on and won’t let the conversation die cause u can’t be wrong cause u have an ego problem bitch drop dead

[kylee2437]

This is my answer, I can do whatever I want. Stay mad, and do better next time.

[Asker]

He’s 20 not fucking mentally challenged I think he will be okay

[Asker]

You stay mad and realize u can be wrong when given facts saddity ass bitch

[kylee2437]

You are obviously the mentally challenged one, which is why this needed to be pointed out to you that lying about basic info is not good

[Asker]

And your obviously a Karen who can’t be wrong I feel bad for your partner bitch u must be terrible to deal with I would hate u if I was him

[Asker]

Make sure u tell him that too cause last time I checked he lied about his age also

[kylee2437]

My partner can leave at any time, if he feels like I’m such a misery to be around, I actually give people that choice because I’m honest.

[Asker]

Guess we both retarded

[Asker]

Lmfao girl is acting like she knows someone off of a fucking question ur miserable inside and out bitch throwing words around so loosely when there are actual real predators out there that fucking rape and kill children and calling me a predator at fucking 28 for wanting to talk to someone who’s 20 ur a fucking low life ass bitch miserable hoe

[kylee2437]

I don’t need to know you to decide that your behaviors are giving predator. You asked if it was weird, and I answered honestly about how I feel about a 28 year old lying about their age to someone significantly younger.

[Asker]

And I don’t care bitch get off the question don’t u got other questions to answer and call someone who’s in there 20s talking to another person in there 20s a predator u crash dummy bitch

[kylee2437]

You’re not only a predator, but you are also ghetto. No wonder no man your age actually wants you.

[MK1997]

You must be honest with him.

Otherwise I don't see the problem

[Asker]

I am going to I just didn’t trust him tbh I didn’t know if he was immature or not but we have been talking and he seems mature

[kylee2437]

@asker you are worried about him being immature but you lied about your age.

[Asker]

And so did he I guess we both immature

[kylee2437]

@asker yeah no shit he would be immature, he’s not even old enough to drink.

[jahaims]

Yeah