Do you think it's a waste of time to meet a woman who is almost 25 years older than me?

[Anonymous]

I think she is HOTT, but it's not like I just want to try to have sex with her and that's it, or what she would want. I know that eventually it would be a problem for me when she is no longer quite so hot anymore, I might want kids, and also it would be awkward AF in my family. I cancelled our plans for tomorrow by saying I was sick. The real reason is my brother is coming over, and I'm not going to choose someone I haven't met who I really don't have a real future with over family, but that card really only works once. When I reschedule I can't bail a second time. But I don't know, sounds like it'd be fun and exciting too... I've always had a thing for older women, but it hasn't gone beyond a few casual dates and making out.

[DishLady]

Having had a similar conversation in the past, it's important to be clear on your own values (independently of the actual woman) and to remember that if you want a family that's not something that woman can give you. It's important to be realistic so you're not wasting your time or hers with your crush.

[Anonymous]

You post about dating older women to an extent that is looks fetishized. Like choosing to date specifically large women over 300 pounds.

[Asker]

Well, it is kind of weird? Also, I am all over the map. It didn't go anywhere, but I was pursuing someone four years younger than me until recently, so, yeah.

[Opinion Owner]

It just comes off as fetishizing, with how much you both post about dating much older women and how you sexualize them. I’m sure that isn’t your intent, it’s just my own interpretation. I don’t know if you’ll move on from this topic until you have the experience, so just have it and see what happens I guess. My question is, how do you think that woman would feel to know you specifically chose her because of her age? Already older women often feel uncomfortable dating younger men, you know that, so you don’t think that would hurt her feelings?

[RyanK9b]

Why do u have such a fetish? she's old, feels not comfortable and the liklihood of getting any children is very low.

I think so that u wasting your time.

[Asker]

When I was in first grade I'd have the hots for sixth graders...

When I was 14 I talked to a 42 year old I met online for a bit, which obviously was HIGHLY inappropriate, but like when people say they're gay.. I've always been wired this way.

[RyanK9b]

Did you got groomed or something?

[RyanK9b]

Hey @MK1997 come over here and riddle me this

[MK1997]

He could have been groomed if she wanted to have sex with him.

[MK1997]

@RyanR03 stop pretending like you care, to you it's consensual even if the boy is 14. You are sus and creepy

[RyanK9b]

@mk1997 get your stupid feelings together. In my country is, maybe not in his? Also its interesting how this develop in him bc it started very early.

[MK1997]

It's never consensual at that age. Stop being creepy

[RyanK9b]

I didn't made the law and his journey is interesting

[MK1997]

So a 14 year old girl having sex with a 40 year old is consensual? Insane.

[RyanK9b]

In term of the law yes. Weird yes. I didn't made it that way

[MK1997]

It's taking advantage of kids either way doesn't matter if he enjoyed it.

[RyanK9b]

But I wonder how it developed. Bc its very unusual. The explanation could lead back to the causes.

[Berethor]

Men are more visual, and she too old to give you kids, don't be a Macron, there is good reasons why most men are dating youger and not older women.

[DrPepper12]

So ride this pony til you can make a more informed decision about what you want but if its splitsville you OWE it to her to breakup if you dont have a future

[Fireguy17]

nope, older women know stuff, and are not afraid to ask for it, or share their wisdom.

[Anonymous]

As a woman engaged to a much younger man (15 year age gap) I'm confident that your relationship has no future, but it's not because of the age gap (in and of itself anyways). It's because this is clearly some fetish.

[Asker]

you have one too how did you even meet this kid

[Opinion Owner]

We met through my job. We worked together for a while, but we kept talking even after we stopped working together

I don't know what you mean by 'you have one too'. I don't have some age fettish, and neither does he. We just connected super well, and we didn't let the age gap get in our way

[Gent207-2]

Dude pick a plan

Sugar baby, boy toy or husband

She's not getting any younger

[Asker]

She definitely is richer than me, but I'm not poor either.

[Gent207-2]

Good luck

[Arichip]

Ig it is ok but not for long term

[Anonymous]

You want to fuck.

[Anonymous]

Your ages?