Question about love?

[Anonymous]

so my boyfriend said him and his ex didn’t work out because of family issues. now he says i have family issues. i just expressed to him i didn’t think it was that bad that he’d even state I have family issues which it’s not even that bad. he sees them, etc. and that it sucks just bc there is a pattern between his ex and me. and he freaked out saying all I should have said was oh I’m here for you and that’s all. But it did come of shock to me that he said I had family issues and that he’s being affected by it. I feel like it is okay to feel the way that I feel without a big problem coming out of it. However ofc some issues arose bc he says whenever he brings up his past or his ex i get “butt hurt.” which I think it was okay for me to express how i felt and how it sucked that it was happening. I guess I thought he knew I am always there for him and we will make it work. But I also didn’t realize I had that bad of family issues. It all confuses me. I guess I overthinking about the family issues bc he told me that’s why him and his ex didn’t work out and i try so hard for this relationship in the first place. Now he left for food and didn’t even say goodbye to me. no idea what to say when he’s back.

[Oliverlogan263]

I don't know, that whole situation seems kinda weird. Comparing you to his ex isn't really fair, every relationship is different. And saying you have "family issues" when you don't think it's that bad seems kinda rude. You should be able to talk about how stuff makes you feel without him freaking out. Leaving without saying bye is also not cool.

It's okay to feel hurt if he brings up his ex a lot. That would probably make anyone feel unsure. And you didn't do anything wrong just by asking about the family issues comment. He shouldn't get mad at you for having emotions.

Maybe you could try talking to him again when he's calmed down. Explain how certain things he says/does make you feel, and tell him you just want to understand each other better. If he still gets upset for no good reason, that's not really fair to you. A relationship should be about supporting each other, not comparing or putting each other down. I'd just try to figure out if this is a one-time thing or a pattern before deciding what to do.

[Coden7]

It sounds like he’s just looking for an exit. But maybe it’s not so much YOU have family issues. Maybe he has issues with your family.

[Danny_dan92]

Your boy has issues