I like a woman, but I am still dreaming of another woman which I find more attractive (overall) who rejected me. Should I keep going out with her?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn dude that's rough. I mean if you're still not fully over the other girl then it probably isn't fair to seriously date this new one. A couple things to think about:

- Would you be able to give the new chick the attention and commitment she deserves without constantly comparing her to the ex? Or would she always be second choice in your mind?

- How long ago did the first girl reject you? Maybe give it more time before jumping into anything serious again so your head is more clear.

- Does the new girl know about the ex situation at all? You probably want to be upfront about where you're at emotionally so she doesn't get more invested than you are at this point.

My advice would be to keep it casual with the new girl for now, like don't rush into labels or making it exclusive. But also don't lead her on to think it's more than it is. Take some pressure off yourself and just enjoy hanging out. In time maybe your feelings will fully leave the ex behind and you'll be able to properly see if this new chick is really worth pursuing. For now I'd just stay honest about where your heads at. Does that help at all bro? Let me know what you decide.

[DishLady]

Nope.