Am I being Cat fished or?

[Anonymous]

About 2 weeks ago I Matched with a young lady on a Dating App.

She hasn’t asked for money or anything, she’s very distant. Everytime I ask about her talk about her she avoids it. Majority of the time I’m writing 1-2 Paragraphs for 1 sentence reply’s some times she engages but then it quickly ends. She asked to take the conversation off the dating app to Another App. Again Didn’t ask for money but still doesn’t talk about herself. I still know nothing about her. Her page has a ton of guy comments how pretty she is, “sexual” comments about her liking people opposite of me” and She’s still on the Originally dating app a lot.

I get very emotionally attached Extremely Easy. I want to like her, but not talking about herself I can’t get emotionally attached, she lives like 400 Miles away. She’s not really asking Questions about me, I fell like I’m just a “backup” due to my health problems, she feels like I’m a Guarantee of attention etc.

I don’t know what her end goal is it’s “Just going with it”. At this point in my Life I’m Chronic ill I don’t want to waste energy and emotions on someone.

What should I do? How long should I get this go on it’s been a week? Is their questions I should Ask? Obviously I don’t want to be pushy, but Her Distance as me believe it’s just fake.

Updates

1 y

UpDate - Health Issues (like Disability and life changing). She still has made no attempt to really get to know me. Other than the Chat went Sexual which she was extremely interested. I’m not that kinda person, so I shut that down fast and was like.

I deleted my App, just to show I want to get to know her, but also I need someone Emotionally there, an that’s hard to find. Since then She hasn’t replied for 2 days and left on seen for a day. Could be busy but I already Emotionally Tagged out.

Updates

1 y

Yeah she kept going extremely sexually, I made up a lot of weird stories, and she kept asking for pics, refused and she got bad.

CatFisher

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn dude that's a tough situation. A few red flags I'm seeing:

- Avoiding talking about herself and always shutting down your questions is sketchy. Like if she's not even willing to share basic details that's a bad sign.

- Still being super active on the dating app you met on is hella disrespectful honestly. Like is she even serious about talking to you if she's constantly looking around?

- All the thirsty comments from other guys on her stuff would bug me too. Makes it seem like she's just on there for attention and validation.

My advice would be don't invest too much more time before getting some real answers. Try asking straight up what she's looking for and where she sees things going between you two. Pay attention to how she reacts - if she gets defensive or dodges the question again that's not a good sign.

Also be upfront about wanting more from a relationship than distant one-line texting. Tell her you need some effort from her side too if she wants to continue talking. If she's not willing to open up more after that then I'd probably hit the brakes, not worth getting hurt over someone who doesn't seem that into you. Your time and feelings are important too, don't settle for less than you deserve bro. Keep me posted on what you decide to do!

[Asker]

She was a CatFisher. LOL

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn dude, I'm sorry to hear that but not really surprised. As soon as a girl starts being sketchy about telling you about herself or wants to take the conversation private right away, that's a huge red flag. Props to you for trusting your gut feeling and not getting too emotionally invested though - that was smart.

Girls like that who are just looking for attention or to catfish people are lame. I'm sure it was still kinda disappointing to find out she wasn't real though. But you live and you learn, you know? At least you didn't send her any money or actually meet up like some poor saps do.

Don't let it get you too down - online dating can be a crapshoot sometimes. Maybe take a little break from the apps for a bit so you don't get burnt out or jaded. But when you feel like trying again, just be cautious like you were this time. Anyone who's not putting in effort to answer basic questions about themselves ain't worth your time.

At least you had some fun messing with her before blocking her ass! Hope the next one is legit and actually cool. Fingers crossed for you bro, you'll find someone real eventually who treats you right.

[sawno]

I don't think she's right for you, if she is very reserved and you can get attached easily thats a mismatch. I don't necessarily see an intent behind it, some people are just absolutely shit at texting. But for me those people only get one conversation with me before I move on because I get nothing out of it if your not being open. Like in this case your looking at a long distance relationship with someone who is being closed off over text, is that really someone who fits you?

[Nikki1989]

It is a dating app?

Christ on an f**kin cracker. Amazing men still don't get it.

[Asker]

I Use to use Dating App back in 2012-17 before the scammers really started to come around. Being Chronic/Terminally ill Dating at all is hard. As soon as she Didn’t ask Questions about me/or open up about herself I Suspected she was trying to fish Info. Asking for pics I sent her pictures of my dachshunds and pissed her/him off.

[Sharkstealth]

Cat fished is when a girl sends a picture of herself that isn't her.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Ask to face time video chat