Am I not attractive to girls?

[Anonymous]

So I grew up with no girls in my life
Until last year when I came to Europe
I made a large group of friends with lots of girls
There was a girl that I particularly liked and was spending a lot of time with her
I told her I liked her and she rejected me but she kept me really close to her
The entire group knew I liked her especially my closest friend in the group who was 5 years older than me
I was talking advice from him all the time due to my lack of experience

For month it was push and pull and mixed signals and after I finally accepted that she is just a friend she kissed me and told me not to tell my close friend and then 2 days later she told me it was a mistake and that we are not a good fit


I told my friend about the kiss and he started calling her promiscuous and advised me to go and ask her if I can fuck her

Tuns out she was hooking up with my friend
For months , she wanted to date him , he was only interested in sex

I can only wonder , why did they keep me close to them , what is the point. My friend assured me many times that she values me as a friend and I should appreciate the friendship

After my friend found out about the kiss
He dumped her in a humiliating way then she called me and told me everything
That she was in love with him and was hoping he can change
And that a week ago she started having feelings for me and he noticed her giving me attention and asked her to stop

I am an idiot and I believed her and cut off my friend cause he was lying to me for months and that he is not really my friend

Then 2 weeks after she dumped me by saying that she has feelings for me but she doesn’t think we are incompatible

The entire group broke off
The majority stick with my older ex friend cause they were friends with him for years
She has a boyfriend now

I tried to manage everything but eventually became a little resentful of women and the entire west

Somehow I feel it was my fault
For trusting people I just met that much

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that's rough. It really sucks when people you thought were your friends end up betraying you like that. A few things I've learned:

- Sometimes girls just want attention and don't realize how their mixed signals can mess with a dude's head. Don't always trust what they say, watch their actions more.

- Bros before hoes. Your "friend" was a straight up snake for hooking up with her behind your back while giving you advice. Real friends don't do that to each other.

- Don't put all your trust in people you just met, no matter how cool they seem. It takes time to really know someone's character.

- Don't be too hard on yourself - we've all had experiences where we misjudged people before. You learned some valuable lessons here.

- Don't let this turn you off all women or friendships. Most folks aren't sneaky like that. Just be more cautious opening up until you really know someone well next time.

You'll bounce back from this stronger and wiser, man. Might be good to take a break from dating for a bit to clear your head and heal. Keep your chin up - the right people who treat you right are out there.

[luvstoned4him]

Its not your fault. You was just colateral damage in her sick game

I despise women like these because they make it hard for women like me who seek a genuine connection with a good guy. I hate game playing and I will cut off anyone I find doing this even in the slightest

[Asker]

The thing also
I am not comfortable showing sexual interest in a girl in a club back in my country this is sexual harassment
My friend was always out trying to pick up girls in clubs and bars
That is what he literally does every time we went out
And another girl is n the group had feelings for him

Is this what girls find attractive?
I thought men shouldn’t treat women as sex objects

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker not all girls like that. I certainly dont! This generation seems screwed anyway but you are on a good path so continue and I can promise you a good woman will find you

[luvstoned4him]

you will be okay

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker thanks for mho