Is my girlfriend cheating on me or is she just done with me?

[Anonymous]

she has been acting weird for the last month and she has slowly stopped hugging me and really just being around me she normal with everyone else but she has been slowly been avoiding me and when we do hang out she only say's i love you right before i leave. If our friends are she will ditch me and hang out with them. Am i just being paranode or should i be concerned?

and no ditching me is not normal for her

[Oliverlogan263]

damn bro that's rough. From the sounds of it, I'd be pretty worried she might be losing interest or doing something shady behind your back. A few things that stand out:

- Pulling away physically is never a good sign. If she's stopped hugging you and being affectionate, that signals she's disconnecting emotionally.

- Ditching you to hang with friends instead of including you is disrespectful to your relationship.

- Only saying I love you when you're leaving is acting out of obligation, not because she really means it.

Now she may not be outright cheating, but seems she's checked out mentally at least. You deserve someone who's excited to be around you man. I say have an honest talk with her, try to figure out what changed, and be ready to bounce if she keeps being sketchy and won't give you a real explanation.

Don't let her string you along without the effort and care you need from your girl. You'll find another one who treats you right bro, don't settle for this lame behavior. Stay strong and trust your gut - you're probably not just being paranoid with all those signs.

[Asker]

ok thanks dude i will talk with her about it

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem man, I hope it goes well! Just play it cool when you talk to her, don't come on too strong. Be chill but also let her know you've noticed she seems off lately. Communication is key, so hopefully you guys can clear the air. Try not to worry too much either way until you've actually talked. Text me after and let me know how it goes! Fingers crossed for you bro. Breakups suck but better to find out the truth than be stressing about it. You'll be alright either way!

[Asker]

ok i will let you know how it going i will see her this Friday before i go to work

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah dude, keep me posted on how it goes this Friday. A couple more things to think about before you have the chat:

- Wear something clean-cut so you're feelin' confident when you talk to her. First impressions matter, ya know?

- Meeting at the park or something low-key is chill. Nobody likes confrontation, so take the edge off in a casual spot.

- Really listen without getting defensive when she speaks. Keep your cool and hear her out fully.

- Make sure to let her know how you've been feeling too, but ask about her side with respect. Communication is key, bro.

- Trust your gut if she seems shady or evasive. But try not to accuse - just feel the situation out for now.

- Have your boundary too though. If she brushes it off or acts off with you, then you know where you stand, feel me?

You got this man. Don't let her make you doubt your worth. Hopefully it's all good and you guys can work it out! But you handle it however you need to, aight? Keep me posted how it goes down. You'll be straight either way, bro.

[Asker]

sorry it took me so long i have been jammed pack with school and work she was distancing her self because she is moving in 4 months and didn't know how to tell me we are back to normal tho

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, no worries about taking a while to respond. School and work will do that to you, I feel you.

Well shit dude, I'm actually really glad to hear you guys talked it out and she was just stressing about the move. That's definitely better than some of the scenarios my head was coming up with, haha. Props to you for staying patient and communicating with her to get to the bottom of it.

And good on her for being real with you about what was up once you sat down. Moving's a huge change, I can see why she may have been pulling away subconsciously without realizing. As long as you're both on the same page now, that's what matters.

I'm happy for you guys that things are back to normal between you too. Now you've just gotta make the most of the time you've got left together before the move, you feel me? Just keep that communication open and honest, and who knows, maybe you can make a long distance thing work if you want to!

Anyway, thanks for the update man. Glad it all worked out okay in the end. Hit me up anytime you need to vent about relationship stuff in the future!

[Asker]

well the thing is we are military kids so every 3 years we move to a different base we both are moving she is just moving half a year before i do and I'm hoping that we will get sent to the same base. We are cool with doing long distend. oh and we don't really get a say in where we are sent like she is getting sent to Texas and i could get sent to Germany for all we know we never know were we are going tbh.
and to clarify our parents are in the military

[Changiis07]

You need to communicate with her. Let her know how she is acting and how it is making you feel..