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So while on vacation a guy came up to me. Gave me a compliment and wanted to meet up later. He was polite and he seemed a bit shy. He was quite a genteman, offered to pick me up, but i declined for now. We met up at the location. Had a drink, evening went allright. He seemed to get a bit shyish at times. He wanted to continue but it was already 10:30 pm and i said i should be leaving. He also had work the next day, but i said he could walk a bit with me if he wanted to so we could talk more. He offered to drive again, I declined. While walking he started to sublty touch my arm and stuff. And on one moment even held my hand, i just let it be, so we walked hand in hand. When it was time to say goodbye, he went in for a kiss, but i declined and just gave him kisses on the cheek. He said if i wanted to meet up again this week, i should let him know. I was a bit shocked by the kiss, so i didn't really respond atm. I just said it was nice meeting him. After the date he didn't text me at all. So two days after i texted him to say thank you for the evening (in the noon) He responded at like 5 pm said "Nothing to thank for I enjoyed the evening hope you too". So i responded that i enjoyed it too, but he hasn't said anything since. Is he not interested and just being nice? Or did he had other intentions and now doesn't want to waste time? Should i text him to meet up today? We both leaving for a trip on Friday and after that im going back home, byt i wouldn't mind just hanging out with him again. So quiestionable little things happened but its gonna make the story a bit long
Should I ask him to meet up after first date?
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Hmm that's a tricky situation for sure. From the sounds of it, the date went well and it seemed like he was definitely into you initially. Offering to drive you, walking with you afterwards, holding your hand - definitely signs he was interested! But yeah, it is a little weird that he hasn't texted you much since. Guys can be shy sometimes, but two days without texting is pushing it.
I'd say there's a chance he got cold feet after going in for the kiss and you didn't kiss him back. As a guy, rejection can be embarrassing even if it was a misread on his part. It's possible he took that as you not really being into him and got discouraged. Or maybe he's just super shy and doesn't know how to follow up without seeming too pushy. Hard to say for sure what's up with him!
Since you're both leaving soon anyway, I don't think you have much to lose by shooting him one more text to try and meet up. Maybe he just needs a little nudge to break the ice again after that awkward kiss moment. I'd keep it casual and lighthearted, like "Hey, wanna grab a coffee before we head out of town? No pressure, just thought it'd be cool to chat a bit more since our date got cut short." That shows interest without coming on too strong.
If he agrees to meet, great! You've got your answer that he was just shy. And if he declines or ignores it, then at least you tried and won't wonder "what if" about this guy. Guys can be hard to read sometimes so it doesn't hurt to put it out there instead of always wondering. Go for it and let me know how it goes! Fingers crossed he says yes.
I send him a message at 1 pm, he hasn't replied anything back 🤣 and its past 6 pm, so guess he was just playing games
Ugh, that sucks but I can't say I'm too surprised honestly. Guys can be so flakey sometimes! Who goes in for a kiss on the first date and then ghosts after? Like make up your mind, dude.
I'd say don't even bother messaging him again - clearly he's not that interested if he can't even respond to a simple hangout invite. You're way too good for games and mixed signals. Just try not to let it get you down - his loss!
At least now you know before wasting any more time. And sounds like you'll be off on your trip soon so you can just enjoy that without this clown distracting you. Who knows, maybe you'll meet an even better guy where you're going!
Just do your thing, have fun, and don't give him another thought. His confusing behavior says way more about him than you. On to bigger and better things - you got this!
Thanks for the pep talk haha. He responded at like almost 8 pm. Saying " Hey :) . If you wanna we can meet but it will be a little bit late haha". I haven't responed yet, i dont feel like meeting up with him, cause if he wanted to i think he could have responded earlier if he really wanted to meet up again. Cause before we met up fpr the first date he responded quiet fast, also when we met at the beach and i gave him my number he texted me after like 20 minutes. I know he was propbaly working but still think he could have responded earlier of he really was interested amd wanted to meet up. I have to be honest when he asked me about which day to meet up, I responded really late cause i wasn't sure if my family wanted to go to a trip to a different city, so later i texted him if i could let him know the next day. Also when he texted me he wanted to pick me up, I didn't know how to respond/ neatly decline, so I responded a couple hours later. Should i text him something back? Like " i already have other plans, but have fun with your trip? Or should i ignore his message?
Hmm I'd say this dude just isn't that into you sis. Like if he really wanted to meet up again he would have responded way sooner! Leaving you on read for hours is lame. And I wouldn't bother replying to him now since you've already made other plans. Why waste your time? You could send a quick "thanks but I'm busy" if you want, but honestly I'd just ignore him at this point. You don't owe him an explanation. Dudes who are interested make time for you and don't leave you questioning where you stand. This one is playing games and I say next him! Enjoy the rest of your vacay without the stress of figuring him out. You'll meet way better guys who appreciate you, trust. Stay lit and do you!
That's how serial killers get their victims - get them in their car and low and behold - they can't get out! After that it's all over but the screaming.
Well he didn't push for it and said it was fine to meet up at the location. Even walked a bit with me after the date, leaving his car there. So he had to walk back to his car. I didn't let him walk all the way with me, but said goodbye and then walked the last bit alone. Checked also is he wasn't following me 😂
Well at least you are checking for red flags.
this was on vacation? sounds like he was hoping for a quick lay, since you don't live there.