I matched with a guy on a dating app and we met up after barely exchanging any messages. I figured he was looking for a hookup, which was totally unlike me but I figured screw it, I need to do something out of my comfort zone for a change. So we went to dinner and had sex. He then went out of town for work the next day, and besides checking that I got home safely, we didn’t talk at all for two weeks until he came home again. As soon as he got back he contacted me and again dropped a decent amount of money on a nice dinner and drinks (I tried to pay but he literally took my CC when I gave It to the waiter). We slept together again and cuddled for a good hour (he initiated) until I left. That was 4 days ago and we haven’t spoken since. He did say when I left about seeing each other again so I guess it’s kind of a thing now, but what is it?
I went into this with the expectation of just hooking up. I think that was also his expectation and I assume It still is since we don’t talk in between. But between dropping probably $400 on our two nights out plus the cuddling, I dont Know if he really views me as friends with benefits? Or is this just a casual relationship and the dates and cuddling are normal? I actually really like him despite not expecting to, but I don't know that I see a relationship for us. I want to make sure I’m not leading him on.
so, thoughts on what this is? I’ve only had casual sex with one person and it was an ex who I spent NO time with outside of sex. Any insight is greatly appreciated!
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Well it looks like friends with benefits situation if you like it then don’t stop it and if you want more of it try talking with him ask him what do you think this is so that you know what to expect from him not to go liking him so much because the. You’ll get hurt if he disappears
I actually don’t want more than this. TBH there’s something that makes him undateable to me, and I was Becoming worried after our second date that he might want more than I do
Well than have fun and if he wants something more just tell him you don’t want any
it does sound like a friends with benefits situation to me. it doesn’t matter the amount of money spent on dates, whether it’s $0 or $400 and it’s regardless of cuddling. what you described is verbatim a hookup possibly progressing into a friends with benefits relationship or possibly just ending at two hookups
sounded like fun, for what it’s worth