How old is this guy.Are you two sleeping with other people?I had to go through the same bs with my now bf.except he was a big whine tit that thought that the title "girlfriend" ruined everything.we didn't sleep with other people and were togethr all the time.It made me angry that we basically were exclusive but that I wasn't goodenough to call a girlfriend.it took him 6 months before finally introducing me as that.so this all depends on how you play it.how you express your feelings about it.and how much you both want to put up with...if your constantly nagging at him he could just pece out and the friendship is ruined.however if you act all cool about it then he might keep you his "buddy"the rest of your life.My sister is actually married to my Bf's brother and has two kids so I've know him for over 9yrs before we dated.and he's 6.5 years older then me.I probably got really lucky with him not bailing for that simple fact.I kinda went jeckyl and hyde on his ass.1 min I'd be thinking he cares enough about me to not want to ruin our relationship then the next I'd be screaming at him about how stupid that was...and why all his past relationships are punishing me and I'm completely different from the old whores he use to be with if they were good enough for the title why wasn't I? SO I would straight up ask him what he wants.make sure you listen and nod your head a couple times.then tell him exactly what you want and that there's a chance you may end things if it gets to that point where what you want and how you feel is getting in the way...a relationship is give and take.and compromise.so tell him I will compromise with how you feel for a little while but I'm going to need answers when I'm starting to feel like things are constantly in your favor.you guys are having sex.so maybe that be the first thing to go. Tell him that if he can't commit to being your boyfriend how do you know if he can commit to saying no to other women...or even that its not fair to you when you could find someone who wouldn't mind having you as a girlfriend and the perks that come with.In the end it doesn't matter you can hold out for a couple days weeks or months if a guy was only inerested in sex he's going to find it.you can give it up on the first date and end up marrying that guy.so its about the guy.I am now having to deal with excuse after excuse about marriage now.its been 3 years and really how long do we have to wait? he wants a kid but I can't have a diamon.so it comes down to how long and how much you are willing to take.just be upfront and direct and stick to your guns.if he was worth it then he will make that commitment.if not move on and find someone else. I honestly can only say it depends on how much you both feel about the situation.Im giving this guy 2 more years then I'm out without the ring.5 years is enough of my time and he's lucky to get that.honestly if he didn't want kids id probably already be gone.but we'll see.good luck to you.as you can hear I got the same thing just later on
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Oh wasn't sayen your nagging..the title must mean somethen enough to you to want the commitment when it sounds to me he gave it to u..I was saying I wanted the title...just made me feel like he was getting all he wanted in the relationship why couldn't I get what I wanted...especially if it wasn't any different treatment..when I think sex buddy I think someone you sleep without the atatchments...if you don't want atachment and memories then what's keeping me there...I wanted to kno my boyfriend was on the same paige..I don't want to give my heart to someone who can seriously look at me like I'm crazy when I get upset that he decided to stop calling because he got a gf...where was my right? You don't have to break up with someone who isn't with u..I don't kno..all I can say is if you were really cool with the arrangment you wouldn't think to ask...but people have been known to ponder for no reason I guess
You're both in denial - you guys ARE in a relationship. Labeling it or not is irrelevant, you guys are obviously a couple. You both need to grow up and stop being so afraid of the label.
men who lack maturity cannot admit to people they have a girlfriend, they see it as a weak statement, something you only do in school, and because they see themselves as real hard men, they cannot admit they have a girlfriend, they are just not that mature yet, but to prove how immature they are, they feel its OK to say, "This is my friend that I have sex with" ? like that really sounds better than girlfriend right, so whenever you experience this problem, its because he still has a playground mentality and needs to mature a lot before he's mature enough to admit he's in a relationship and has a girlfriend,x
First are you exclusive with him? is he with you?...do you want more? because a sexual relationship is a big deal...it's the most intimate a man and woman can be...you are bonded with him and he with you if you've had sex...it's only natural to feel closer and desire more commitment...I am in a relationship with a woman where we only get together on Sunday to have sex...we talk throughout the week, but only see each other on Sunday's...we both like this arrangement...I've been married twice, my kids are grown...as well as hers...
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means that you need to make your mind up, cause by the sounds of it, that is a relationship wether you like to admit it or not.
yeh id just change that Facebook status if I were you lolthat's called a tesseract, or..a four dimensional cube
Even if you are only FWB, it is still a FORM of a relationship. So unless we know YOUR definition of a relationship...
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