What makes maintaining a long term relationship so difficult?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Learning how to remove Selfishness from within yourself , most people can’t do that for each other , it basically starts , when you start to feel like you are missing out on things and no longer want to be tied down to one person , you start to think Grass is greener on the other side , thinking your life isn’t where you thought it would be. You don’t feel the passion you once had with your partner , something feels off , the intimacy and affection you once shared slowly fades away. , you start to take advice from friends that make you feel like you could have a better life elsewhere , they fill your head with things that pull you away from your partner , your head is filled with the thought of having things better elsewhere. If you want to save your marriage you need to distance yourself from friends and any negative influences in your life , you need to focus on your partner and realize your partner should be your top priority over anyone else in this world , if you want your relationship to last learn to remove selfishness from within yourself , understand your partner is your partner for a reason , you didn’t get married to be single , if you did , then you will be single again and again and again

madewithingredients · Accepted Answer

you need something practical, material, or some kind of outside force that keeps you together. it could be you live in a social circle that strongly stigmatizes divorce. it could be that one of you is strongly dependent on the other, and the one who is being depended on can't stomach abandoning the dependent (e. g., financially, or maybe some kind of lifelong illness). Maybe you stay together for the sake of your children.
I'm not saying any of those things are good ways to keep a couple together and I'm not saying they always work.

there's also the fact that a lot of people just aren't really capable of relationships in the way that they are ostensibly supposed to be.
if you study world history, anthropology, etc., you find out that marriage arrangements, the way people go about sex, and how families and communities are arranged/created, have varied tremendously throughout place and time. if long term relationships are difficult for one person, maybe that person would have had better luck in a different time and/or place.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

People continue to build their interests and cultivate their tastes throughout their lifetimes, which means that Ms/Mr Right might only be right for you NOW. What a person needs is a idiom and plan for a sustainable future - what characteristics will make the couple last? Beauty and even stamina fade… you’ll have to lean on other characteristics as they do…

Lack of communication and respect can also cause negative feelings of anxiety and passive aggressive behaviors to surface and run the relationship into the ground.

rienna888 · Accepted Answer

Because we’re human and tend to make mistakes or actions may be misunderstood. It’s hard to make it work as most relationships, there’s giver and taker. The giver may feel used, while the taker doesn’t think it’s wrong

Serkee · Answer

Lack of devotion. It's as simple as that. It's not difficult if you actually love the person you're with. The problem is that a lot of people delude themselves into thinking they love the other person so they don't feel guilty about using them for what they bring to the table. They think about what they can get out of the relationship, not what they could give their partner. And that often goes both ways. It's just easier to stick with them than to be alone. But when you stay with someone out of convenience, what happens when staying with them doesn't seem so convenient anymore, or when seemingly more convenient options arise?

hahahmm · Answer

30 minutes in person is worth more than months of chatting online. Also it's hard to build trust if you can't actually see what the other person is doing/how they spend their time. It makes a difference if they spend 30 hours/week with another person but you have no way of knowing it's happening when you're long distance. LD makes things easier for cheaters.

dragoblack · Answer

Lack of actual communication, that doesn't involve yelling. Treating S. O. like they are the cheating/abusive ex. Lack of trust. Lack of faithfulness. Lack of self control. Lack of holding up their end of the living together chores. Laziness. Lack of improving one's self. Lack of emotional intelligence. Overfocus on an unrealistic view of how romance is supposed to be.
The list is pretty long...

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

When you believe in divorce than things will get hard for you because it makes you weak and surrunder to any opsticule very fast!

When you're married for life, all problems can be solved easily because you just can't live without each other and you love this person only forever!

Rafrenc · Answer

Miscommunication and betrayal in trust listening to others or looking for matrerialism for happiness. Dedicating time to the wrong things and your family with the right counsel

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

Selfishness in both people, lack of shared vision and insufficient community and support.

dustybiker2 · Answer

They take effort. Give and take. Listening and communicating.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Maintaining that sexual chemistry as much as physical chemistry ⚗️🧪 and not getting on each other's nerves. Ever lol 😆😆😆😆

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Lack of communication, being constantly stonewalled and just the lack of effort put into it.

WhitneySnow · Answer

It’s a lot of wirk and compromise. It’s not for everyone but it is worth it.

thisAppIsGarbage · Answer

The longer you spend with a woman the more you know. The more you know about a woman The harder it is to love them.

handsomelad70 · Answer

The broad has nice spuds, but... It's the constant communication and trying to balance your wants and desires with your partner's.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Mutual effort, grace, patience, and thoughtful gestures.

9in_Serpent · Answer

People naturally change over time so they no longer fit

boobliker · Answer

not talking about yourself and your day then listening to the other one

Sofie1994 · Answer

Lack of communication. Cause then you don’t understand where you’s are in your relationship.

MsProsperity · Answer

Lack of patience and forgiveness

sheikalana · Answer

Lack of friendship in the relationship.

Massageman · Answer

lack of listening

jahaims · Answer

Stupidity and laziness. Otherwise it's not hard.

Return · Answer

Tendency of tedious

sheenagwapa · Answer

it isn't

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