Guys, why does my boyfriend not enjoy talking to me or hanging out with me?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend barely talks to me anymore and barely hangs out with me anymore. i asked him why and he says it’s because all i do is complain and nag about social media and how bad he is as a boyfriend. i try calling him half of my phone calls. I asked him if he’s losing feelings for me and he says no I asked him if he’ll be happier without me he says no.. I don’t know what to do

[ohsheeT]

What you do is read your own question 5 to 10 times. Read what it says on what you're doing. And then stop doing it.

Because your programming yourself your programming him to walk away and you as being that person that's been hurt... So stop talking about social media.
Stop nagging him.
Can get into the relationship as a person that you want to be with because if you're programming him not to be with you you're doing a good job and he won't be.
. If you're looking at things as if you're going to fail well that's exactly what you're going to do

When you're in a relationship you're in it to make it happen to make it work to be happy so that's what you start doing quit thinking negative live life be happy whatever happens happens you have no control over it not unless you're doing what you're doing right now that's full control of something not working because you're programming it that way so smile get into it be happy be that happy lover and do it make it work without talking about it it just happens

[Hsisjwbwbjsjd]

From your question one of the problems might be: "all i do is complain and nag about social media and how bad he is as a boyfriend. i try calling him half of my phone calls." I would lay off of him.
I would also ask him to have an open conversation about your relationship. Explain to him that you're anxious about him getting cold, and try to find solutions. Don't try to assign blame to someone, just try to think of what you can do to make your relationship better.
I would also try to find common interests you two have and try to spend some time with each other with no pressure about the relationship. Just two friends doing something they enjoy.
If you two can't talk about your problems, or you can't spend time with each other and enjoy it, you two should think about what you're getting out of the relationship and if it's worth it.
And remember that we can only go off of your short explanation. Look at our suggestions and think about them, but at the end of the day you're the only one who can decide what you should do.

[DishLady]

If you're a pain in the ass (pita) about the social media thing -- which you're admitting to here... SO YOU KNOW WHAT'S WRONG -- and nagging him for constant verification that he still has feelings for you... he's certainly having the feelings for you... possibly not POSITIVE feelings... but feelings. I'd be pissed and just cut you off for being such a pita.

[rosemilk]

he told you why. it's not hard to see that anyone who is around someone who is always complaining and nagging and telling them their a bad boyfriend would be unenjoyable. fix those issues if you want to keep your relationship. i know it's the harsh truth, but it's reality and you need to work with your partner

[SweetJoyGirl]

You need to stop nagging, complaining, and treating him like a bad boyfriend. He literally told you that is annoying him. You think men want to hear you talk shi about them all the time? It makes them tired and drained.
When a guy says something is annoying him, you have a heart and you stop. Not ask silly questions about it on G@G. It is really that simple. You apologize and then stop.

[Summeroflove]

I couldn’t agree more. If someone’s not happy with someone just break up! Don’t try to change them. You’ll never be happy and they never will. E

[CuriousHubby]

Just love him give him a little space and what ever time you two do have just love him.

But it sounds like he is done with you sadly. Not sure if he was lying or just felt that way.

Give him a week of space if he won't call you end it!

[Anonymous]

First off, stop smack talking him on social media. Give him a few days and see if he texts you first. Keep it few to maybe a simple thinking of you or want to go on a date or good night text. If he doesn't answer let him be completely. Some guys prefer in person only and are fine going long time without contact. I've had a guy who was like that I felt like was nagging him by being the conversation starter, turns out he was working 6/7 days a week not him ignoring me.

[midnightmoon05]

Here…

Is it fun having a girlfriend or boyfriend?

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

On the one hand he says he's not losing feelings for you. On the other hand he says all you do is complain and nag.

Maybe both of you would be happier if you broke up.

It doesn't seem like this relationship has a lot of bright spots.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn’t be complaining to social media about him. He just probably would rather have you then nobody. You sound abusive and he deserves better

[Yannae]

Well this "because all i do is complain and nag about social media and how bad he is as a boyfriend"

[Asker]

I don't know why he hasn’t broken up with me yet if all he’s going to do is ignore me and choose his friends over me

[Yannae]

Do you know why You haven't broken up with Him yet?

[Mwolf]

He wants a relationship status.

[Summeroflove]

Is he not allowed to have friends? And I can see why he would rather be with them. If they’re not nagging all the time

[Summeroflove]

@Mwolf yeah probably the case. As for me it’s better to be alone then miserable plus you can eventually find someone else.

[Summeroflove]

@Mwolf some would rather have someone then no one

[Mwolf]

@Summeroflove exactly so I don't know why people stay in meaningless relationships

[Mwolf]

@Summeroflove oddly yes, even when they could find better

[Summeroflove]

@Mwolf I think part of its attachment. I think some of it is if the relationship started off really well and now it’s like that. They somehow think that it’s going to get back to that again.

I think the other thing is that they’re worried they’ll be alone. They’re not wanting to start all over again. If they been with someone so long they don’t want their life to feel like a waste. Even though thhere wastint more time

[Summeroflove]

@Mwolf it’s much better to be alone in peace. Then with a person whose making you miserable

[WhitneySnow]

You need to have a long talk with your boyfriend. Hopefully you guys can work this out.

[Staximus]

You just said what you need to do. Stop the nagging and the complaining about stupid social media

[jahaims]

He literally told you the reason. You are too stupid to be in a healthy relationship tbh

[Asker]

it’s not that i’m stupid, i just feel like he no longer wants to be with me anymore and he doesn’t want to tell me. i can’t call him because he will barely answer any of my phone calls, he doesn’t ask me to hangout anymore because he would rather hangout with his friends. he tells me he misses me and that he loves me but for no reason because we don’t talk much and we don’t hangout

[Summeroflove]

Well you’re nagging him. If you’re not happy and he isn’t happy. Then it’s probably better to break it off. It’s what’s best for you both

[PsychicBoobs]

He's probably already moved on in his head, body about to follow..

[noohair]

Well you answered your own question. Complaining is something that chills me to my core.

[Asker]

it pushes you away?

[noohair]

When I work hard and then come home, I don't want to hear anyone complaining to me about me or social media stuff that is not important.

[Asker]

if he doesn’t want to be with me anymore why doesn’t he just tell me so i can leave him alone and move on?

[noohair]

That is something you have to ask him.

[Asker]

i have. i’ve asked him if he wants to break up and he says no. i’ve asked him if he would be happier without me and he said no. and it’s hard to get him on the phone when things are not going well. he never puts his phone on silent and that’s what he does now

[Summeroflove]

Asker the same reason you won’t just break it off with him. If you’re not happy. Constantly nagging. Bitching on social media. Why don’t you just do yourself And him a favor and break up

[Anonymous]

Ok so in all honesty do you think what he said is true?

[sirderpsalot123]

He told you why lol you nag and tell him he's a bad boyfriend

[Surferboi_02]

Ye she's talking to so. done else and if he wasn't he would've acting like that.

[Jmmmfi4]

WHY WOULD WE WANNA HANG OUT WITH A GIRL WHO ISN'T NAKED?

[Vegasrunner]

You could stop nagging

[Asker]

i just feel like he doesn’t want to be with me anymore and he just doesn’t want to tell me. i can’t call him because he will barely answer my phone calls and he won’t at all ask me to hangout. he would much rather hangout with his friends then with me

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker That's most guys, at least most guys with option. As I said b4 start with stop nagging first. That's the most annoying thing for men.

[Asker]

so it could be true that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore but that he doesn’t want to tell me? but if he has options, why stay with me if i’m not doing anything for him.

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker I would focus in what you know for a fact which is you keep nagging him. YOU stop that first and then decide.

[Asker]

could be tired of our relationship?

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker He's tired of your nagging.

[Asker]

could he have other options?

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker Option 1 is to find a woman that doesn't nag as much as you.

[Asker]

so it could be an option that he has? but if he has, why doesn’t he just break up with me?

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker I never made that claim, you simply heard what you wanted to. I don't know him, but it's clear you are probably nagging him to death which is why he is proably not wanting to spend time w/ him. Stop nagging him.

[Asker]

i really don’t want to lose him but i’m so tired of the relationship being this way. i don’t want to be chasing him anymore

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker Then stop nagging him

[Asker]

he’s on social media right now and has not responded to any of my msgs or return my phone calls

[Asker]

i’ll admit that the msgs are not nice it’s saying if he doesn’t want to be with me anymore and if he doesn’t he should just break up with me and how i don’t want to deal with this anymore and how he should find someone who makes him happy

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker The next guy is going to break up with you for the same reason. Stop nagging him

[Asker]

why can’t he just tell me he doesn’t want to be with me?

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker Because he finds you annoying to talk with

[Asker]

so he just ignores me instead of telling me?

[Vegasrunner]

@Asker what does he get out of telling you?

[Asker]

nagging and complaining anyway.

[Vegasrunner]

@asker So you have your answer stop nagging him and you have a chance.

[Summeroflove]

There are other options. Neither one of you is being healthy in this relationship.

You should be able to communicate your wants and needs without nagging. Maybe you’re both not compatible.

[midnightmoon05]

His action is telling you that he has ended the relationship. His words means nothing. He doesn’t want to be the bad person to break up…

You need to get out of this “relationship” that is dead.
Be the mature one and tell him … you need to move on and need time to grow.

You are not mentally healthy at this point.
Block him and work on your self esteem… hopefully you learn from this and do better next time.

Young lady…men are not hard to be with… they want:
1. A happy loving gf…
2. Peace when they get home
3. A woman to treat him with love and respect
Men will do anything for a woman he loves.

Put yourself in his shoes… I would break up with you as well. Would you date yourself with your current behavior?

[Asker]

@vegasrunner hey i sent you a friend request if i can ask you some questions

[Starrrboy]

He's probably talking to someone else..

[beefcakebradybatson]

He could be after another broad.

[Cheerfull009]

He want new taste , new girlfriend

[negrl4a69]

Cause he sucks doesn't care about you dump his ass

[Luckycharms12]

Pretty clear why

[MasterKS]

chick lover! LOL!