What do you think of a single woman who does artificial insemination?

[Anonymous]

Like she decides to have a child by herself. I thought about doing it now that I'm single again and don't have long before menopause hits.

I just want a baby so bad and I feel like I won't meet the right guy to have a baby with in time. Dating, getting to know them, waiting a year or two for marriage, takes too damn long.

[MisterWack]

“ I just want a baby so bad and I feel like I won't meet the right guy to have a baby with in time. Dating, getting to know them, waiting a year or two for marriage, takes too damn long. “

With me, I believe you should wait until you are at good financial standing, good at handling responsibility, good mental standing, good physical health / health in general, and wait till you meet the right guy for you. This isn’t a healthy mindset to have, a child isn’t an object it is a human being which needs two parents to help raise him/her. That baby is complex and is a lot to handle alone.

P. S. Don’t worry about “biological clock” because that will just make you want to rush through the whole process of dating, love, going steady, marriage, etc. instead of taking it in the moment which is how normal people do it. “Biological clock” will make you anxious, unsteady, and stressed out that you’ll sacrifice things just for the chance of making a baby…

Just please I beg you, think rationally on this and ask your family how they feel on the subject.

[TDDMS]

Since you are in your 30s, the danger isn't menopause. You still have time before that happens. But what you should be concerned about is the fact that most of your high quality eggs have already rotted away. You are in the age bracket for conceiving children that will be born with autism, schizophrenia, and other cognitive issues. In your age bracket, you should plan on doing in utero genetic testing to make sure you kid (s) aren't born with the aforementioned problems.

[Anonymous]

If you feel like that's your only reasonable option then you do you, however it seems like a desperate cry for attention on the part of the single person, a selfish act in which you're now bringing a child into a world with no care about the child's quality of life.

[Kayla45]

Her body her choice, if she wants to do so then she should be able to without a man’s imput.

[HawkPerception]

My opinion of the concept isn't up there honestly. Anything related to artificial stuff should ideally be avoided. If a girl had artificially been impregnated, I'd definitely be weirded out.

I'd also assume she had some issues with past relationships that made her jaded with all men. And truthfully, I don't think I'd ever date a girl that's been artificially inseminated.

[Avicenna]

As long as you can take if the child and have a support system in place, I don’t see a problem with it.

[NamerOfStars]

I think of those bumper stickers I see on the backs of cars- you know, the ones with the paw prints that say "If you don't rescue, don't breed"?

I think of all the orphans being pushed through the foster care system, and how many of them will grow to adulthood without ever knowing family, because no one wants a kid who's not a baby any more.

I think of someone my age struggling to keep up with a toddler, when most of us simply don't have the energy any more.

I think of how these problems could solve one another nicely.

[RavVid]

It is entirely up to you. It certainly takes time - about 2 years is the average to marriage. So I can see your point. Obviously relationships might fail to make it through.

Men are rightly more cautious now in terms of starting a family.

The downside to you is that men are not necessarily going to be happy taking on children who are not biologically their children. So you have to figure that into your calculus. We could be funny about that. If we were dating and you said you were being AI'ed next week and did I want to come along with you, I'd be funny about it.

[Anonymous]

Honestly! Insane. To bring a child into this world w out a father. I don’t think that would be fair to the child. Sure there’s a lot of single mothers out there who aren’t necessarily by choice. But what you’re considering is completely controllable to not do. There’s a lot of children out there who would love to have a family. Having a child isn’t going to make you feel better or have someone to love the way a partner would love you. In fact I think it would make it worse for you. Single mom’s tend to do bad w how their kids turn out. I get she’s trying her best but a lot of times it’s just how it ends up. I think more so for women because their emotions always let things take over. So when you’re overwhelmed w work, stressed out. Then you come home, kid has t done what you asked them to do or is t helping around the house that just adds up. Then if you’re not well off financially you’re struggling which adds more fuel to the fire.

[Anonymous]

You would be doing it for YOU without care for what's best for your child. There are already so many fatherless children in the work, because of stupid choices by both men and women. Why would you actually make a premeditated decision to bring a child into that situation when you have a choice?

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[Anonymous]

I think it's wrong to bring a child into this world without a father if you have a choice in the matter. Children need and deserve a father. Many don't have one for lots of different reasons, which is sad. But you have a choice here. Personally I think it's wrong to do that just because you want a child.

[buzzword]

Kid's first Thanksgiving...

Kid: Mom what is that thing?

Mom: It's your father...

[strateguy632]

My religious reflex is "a fast way to obey be fruitful " not wait but...

Who will watch the kid? Ma? Then she can't have any job to earn to supply baby! Negligence.

Or she has job, who watches baby? Negligence!

[lightbulb27]

I think it's a lot of work, but if you have the resources and support... your call.

I know others that found guys late and had kids... even up to 45+ years old.

I wish you luck with whatever way you go.

[Makeushiver]

I have no opinion and that's probably as it should be. Since it's not me, my gender or something that will affect me than having an opinion on it would be in the service of ego. Happy to make donation though

[exitseven]

You need to consider the impact on the baby. Growing up in a fatherless household automatically gives the child 2 strikes against him/her.

I think bringing a baby into the world just because you want to be fulfilled is selfish.

[ProbablyClueless]

I'd have empathy for her... I get it, man... you gotta do what you've gotta do.

Even though she has my empathy, the whole situation seems like a really sad and bad idea.

[Anonymous]

Disgusting. She's making it about herself and not the child. There are sooo many known issues that fatherless children face at a significantly higher rate than kids raised with a father, it's just an extremely selfish choice.

[alice55]

Nothing, if she want it she can do it is it legal after all and 25 % of couple break up less than 1 years after their first born so

[Berethor]

Desperate, but make sense, should take into a count that most men don't like single moms.

[ICanSmellTheCosmos]

So long as the sperm donor isn't on the hook for child support, then I don't care.

But, I firmly believe that children need both parents.

[Nik1hil]

They are like the Female version of Incels with sex dolls!..

[Jackblue]

I salute you, though I warn you it will not be an easy task.

[Jackblue]

You do still have some time before menopause it usually isn't till around 50.

[Dongie]

Go fore it. But spend the alloted time thinking and talking.

[LiamJHayden]

It is a way to have a child without any worry of other parent drama.

[MasterKS]

Why Artificial insemination? There are men who can do that!

[slatyb]

I think she wants to be a parent.

[WhitneySnow]

I’d be proud of her

[thearchjoker]

not interested in her

[Alex-Snow]

Good for her to want to be a mom

[Staximus]

You don't need a baby, you just want one.

[Pohjolan]

Seems kind of weird but not my problem.