Girls, Should we encourage more young men to give up on dating and relationships to find alternatives for meaning and happiness?

[Paradox316]

Given that there's a loneliness epidemic for young men, at least in the west, and that the dating landscape is much harder for the average young man should we encourage them to find alternatives for happiness and purpose? I don't think there's someone out there for everyone, and according to my personal research most women prefer the same kind of guy (Tall, muscular, strong jawline, ovular face, small nose, full lips, big biceps, pecs, clear skin, full head of hair, and full beard, big eyes, small eyelids, some room for personal preference, but not much given evolutionary instincts, and the influence of society). Thankfully there's alternatives to meaning and happiness other than dating, for those young men who it's too difficult to be worth the investment of time, energy, and money. Maybe for those whom it's too difficult for maybe we can teach them to let go of the (for them) unattainable desire for romantic love that's causing them suffering. They can find a different more realistic path to meaning and happiness that can be obtained, and the loneliness epidemic will end once the last generation of romantically undesirable men die out from old age. Thus the loneliness epidemic for young men will end forever. I could be wrong though, and would welcome that, female opinions only please.

[_Maya_]

Nope but I doubt that will change your perspective. Let me demonstrate. This post in your history is over a year old. Heck, given that you joined this site in 2020, it could be four years old.

Is there really "someone out there for everyone?

Yet here you are griping about the same thing you did back then. Then you suggest this is what a guy needs to be

"Tall, muscular, strong jawline, ovular face, small nose, full lips, big biceps, pecs, clear skin, full head of hair, and full beard, big eyes, small eyelids"

Oh, and this personal research you have conducted... how was it conducted and with what sample size? I don't think you actually did any research at all let alone unbiased research so you can push your narrative. Here is the thing. Of the guy friends that I have all but one is not in a relationship. How is that possible. They don't have all or even most of the traits that you say are required. How in the hell did through get quality girls?

I think the problem is your attitude and yhr fact that we can sense it.

[Paradox316]

You're obviously a very intelligent person, and I think I confused my compulsively looking for information on the internet for research! I have been trying to become more optimistic about the world and life in general, and made only a modest amount of progress. I'm starting to think I am wrong about my attitude towards how all this works, there are so many exceptions/counterexamples to my mindset that it counts as disproving it.

[Nikki1989]

Nobody is putting a gun to the heads of males to go and date. Perhaps the un-datable should step aside so the cream can rise to the top.

[Guacamole409]

Change your game.

[chrissykerdock]

why would they do that