I'm black woman trying today try?

[Anonymous]

Me being a young black woman.. Trying to get into the dating world. In the past two months I Dated 3 black guys. The relationship did not last long. It seems like most black men are interested in having sex with me. After that, they pretty much move on. Do most black guys just want to use black women for sex?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh, yeah that does seem really frustrating! It's always disappointing when people treat you like that, especially when you're just trying to get to know someone.

I think for a lot of guys, black or otherwise, sex can sometimes become a bigger priority than actually getting to know the person you're with. But that doesn't mean all black guys are just trying to use you! There are definitely good ones out there who want more than just physical stuff.

A few things that might help - take things slower physically at first so you get a better sense of their intentions before getting intimate. Have deeper conversations to see if you connect on other levels too. And don't be afraid to be upfront about what you're looking for (a real relationship, not just hookups) so you weed people out quicker if they just want something casual.

Also see if there are any groups, meetups or events focused on singles your age - might help meet guys somewhere besides apps where intentions can be unclear. Don't get discouraged, just focus on what you want and don't settle for less. You'll find someone who appreciates you for you eventually! Keep your head up.

[Anonymous]

Date a white man he will literally treat you like a queen. You’re just another woman to black men, to white men you are something special. Black men feel entitled to you, white men will feel privileged to get to be with you.

This is why dating outside your race is just better in general for everyone, but few will listen when I say this.

[texascollegegirl]

I think you are mostly right. You need to sample to know what you like. I think that goes beyond dating and traditional monogamy. I'm not sure "dating" outside is for everyone because people have their types and their kinks. Still, what you say definitely goes for hookups, casual sex, FWBs, and going outside relationships or doing things on the side. we need a lot more breaking taboos.

My boyfriend is white and perfect in almost every way, but he's lacking that one thing more (not all) Black guys have. I find Black men attractive too beyond the really big dick only some have, though I'll only have sex if they are really big to huge. I'm a little skeptical on relationships because I haven't met an attractive well endowed Black man who isn't used to going outside his relationship, mostly with white girls. I can't blame a Black boyfriend or husband when hot white girls come up on them wanting it. Also if I had a really great Black boyfriend who had the size I wanted, it doesn't mean I could resist other Black guys who are packing. That would feel so wrong to cheat on him, even if I understand his cheating. I still wouldn't be able to be the one going without in a one sided relationship. I could have a small dick Black boyfriend, or any race really, but if he didn't have those kinks I couldn't be with him. I wouldn't want to hurt him. Only the biggest dick Black men are entitled to my body, and they love that. If Black women value monogamy, they might get it from Black guys, but if they also want big dick I have never seen that. For the record I think that's a big dick thing, not a race thing. Guys who have big dicks feel a lot of impulse to use them. It's just that more Black guys have that big dick we want without us wanting the relationship or the cheating on us.

[Opinion Owner]

@texascollegegirl If you're a white girl into black guys then you already see my point about interracial dating, you'd just rather maintain the more socially acceptable appearance of being with a white man. Bite the bullet and marry black, and have some mixed babies!

[texascollegegirl]

You are close to understanding me and my boyfriend, but not really. Same possible the big dick Blacks I cheat with. I'm a white slut for big Black dick and everyone knows it. Social acceptability is not a thing to follow - it's a thing to smash. Almost for sure, my white boyfriend and I will get married, but my babies are going to be by big dick Blacks. I'm going to be fertile around mywedding day and I'm going to fuck so many leading up to it, the day of, and on the honeymoon I won't know who the father is. I want my sons to be endowed like a real man and my daughters to be brown and sluts just like me. My boyfriend will be my husband and he will be a great father to my babies with Black men. That smashes social acceptability. All our babies will be mixed but I'm not going to put that responsibility on Black men just because they had a kink for fucking pretty little white girls in a racialized way. They shouldn't have to worry about the babies - they should be out getting other white girls pregnant so long as the situation is good. My boyfriend comes from oil wealth. We're good.

[Opinion Owner]

@texascollegegirl Oh that makes sense actually... I may have to send you a follow request and talk privately

[texascollegegirl]

I would like that.

[Opinion Owner]

@texascollegegirl so this is awkward, I guess you have me blocked! my acc name is meepmeeperton. i would definitely like to discuss this topic further, apologies if i offended you in the past

[texascollegegirl]

Okay, unblocked ;0

[Opinion Owner]

@texascollegegirl Hey sorry I didn't get a chance to respond yesterday but I wasn't ignoring you or anything and I would still love to discuss this further...

[texascollegegirl]

I think this is a men thing and not a Black men thing. That said, some Black men are used to getting more easy opportunities, especially if they are very well endowed. Casual sex can be really great for those of us who like it, but men should be clear on what they are looking for. A well endowed Black man will find white girls like me very easy, but if they are looking for a relationship with a woman, they should say that. If it's just about sex, they shouldn't pretend.

[jazzy34]

I ignore any man who only wants sex. Race is irrelevant. And yes, I’m black as well.

[BetaBucks]

If you want to increase your odds for LTRs, you could just date the race with the lowest single motherhood rates. It's probably Asians. And you probably don't like Asians. Almost like you're attracted to guys that don't committ. You aren't alone.

[Decoded93]

Any kind of man could use you, any kind of man could worship you, it all depends on the chemistry

[beefcakebradybatson]

MOST men of any background try to use ANY woman for s*x. The trick is to spot their stud tendencies and move on to a dude who values your company as much as your body.

[chronickol]

Why only narrow it down to black guys when a lot of guys are like that in general?