How can I focus on personal growth instead of dwelling on the past?

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Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

You could use  therapy , the purpose of therapy, in essence and ideally, is: Living a better life. You could use  so called self-help , which means in modern days: Listening, obsessively, to self-help made by others for themselves, and only for themselves and their wallet. You could use  traditional self-help , that is,  the dialogue with yourself  @drpepper12 is talking about, after all, it is what our ancestors have been doing since several millennia already. A  disclaimer, and a plot wist though , often enough your personal growth may not depend on your introspective abilities to find light, it  may depend on the positive experience with Others-than-you  you could find. Because when you dwell then you're just lonely, and people, I believe, are not made to be lonely. It is a momentary protection that can quickly become counter-productive, on the long run. Over and out🙃

SamIam96 · Accepted Answer

I don't think there's a formula for that. Improving on the past makes us better. Dwelling on it probably lessens us.

I keep thinking about the saying: You can't change the past. You can't predict the future. You can only live in the present.

It rings true to me. If I'm my best self, now, I'll have good outcomes in the future.

SugarSugarplum · Accepted Answer

View it like building a ship. Your past is all the welding and plumbing and engineering Your present is where you are sliding down the ramp Your future is where you're sailing off to.

DrPepper12 · Answer

How can I focus on personal growth instead of dwelling on the past?

You need novelty and challenges and most importantly, you need to improve your relationship and dialogue with the most important person you have ever met - yourself!

Push yourself out of your comfort zone and continue doing healthy distractions. I believe in you!! 💯

Twalli · Answer

Accept that what's done is done. You can't change it. I did that for tests. Until i sat down to take a test, I was nervous. When I took the test, I was calm, because I knew that I had done all the studying I could, and when I took the test, I couldn't study more for it. Same thing after I turned in the test, the die had been cast and I couldn't do anything to change it.

Bricealan · Answer

Don't agonize over that. What you describe is not at all unusual, and many/most of us humans have the same problem. The 'past' haunts me also, and I too, find it difficult to 'put the past behind'

Don't let it eat on you. Try to get past it.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

The past is the past & the future is the future & if you want to move into the future you have to let the past go.

kellytheman · Answer

You just gonna pick yourself back up and think it adds character. You can’t dwell in the past. cause then you can’t focus on the present and future.

tpskchats · Answer

Set a goal Change environment Change Or get different perspective.  Try to make and follow plan using neuro plasticity It will take time be patient Be motivated Achieve it

Decoded93 · Answer

You just keep trying, and never give up, and if you lose motivation start again as soon as you are able

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Tell yourself thinking of the future makes you feel happy where thinking of the past tend to make one depressed?

noohair · Answer

Living in the past is very unhealthy. I got out of that by realizing that it is a waste of my time and energy and adds no value to my life. I can't grow in the past. Don't waste time, you don't know how much you have left.

nawtee_me · Answer

The past is old and full of memories. While the future is new, unborn and full of thought. But the present is now, full of both memories and thoughts and that is the best time to live.
Have a wonderful day…

Sevenpointfive · Answer

you've grown plenty in some of the right places. what's up with your past?

LiamJHayden · Answer

The past is a learning experience. Use the good, avoid the bad, and go forward.

JoeRob67 · Answer

It can be difficult just have to be determined to move on. Including in your thoughts. Focus on the future

Becky316 · Answer

Focus on whatever distracts you

FenixG45 · Answer

Mindfulness. Live in the Here and Now.

shortster · Answer

We can't change the past only learn from it.

Anonymous · Answer

Make a choice. 90% of psychology is choice.

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