Does it mean that I am friendzoned when a guy dabs me up to say goodbye?

[Anonymous]

I went on the second date with my crush today. We were out for dinner so I think it was a date and not just friends, but to say goodbye he showed me how to dab someone up. Does that mean he only wants to be friends?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I wouldn't read too much into the dab thing on its own. Lots of guys do friendly daps or high-fives and it doesn't necessarily mean friend zone.

The fact that you've gone on multiple dates and he's still hanging out one-on-one is a good sign he likes you as more than just a friend. Guys don't usually do repetitive solo dates with girls they don't have feelings for.

I'd give it some more time to see how things progress before hitting the panic button. Chemistry can move at different speeds for different people too. Maybe try subtly flirting a bit more on your next date and see how he reacts - that may give you more cues.

But overall try not to overanalyze tiny details! Enjoy getting to know each other more before labeling anything. Friends can definitely turn into more with time and comfort building. Chin up girl, stay positive and see where things go naturally without stressing too much just yet!

[Asker]

thank you so much, that was actually super helpful!

[Asker]

how can i subtly flirt with him on our next date?

[Oliverlogan263]

Awesome, glad I could offer a little perspective! As for flirting on the next date, here are some ideas that are subtle but could help show your interest:

- Light touching - brush his arm while laughing at a joke, playfully push/punch his shoulder. Guys tend to notice touching more than words.

- Compliments - comment on something you like about his style or personality, like a cool shirt or how funny he is.

- Eye contact - hold his gaze for a few seconds longer than usual when talking/laughing. We tend to look away quicker when nervous!

- Smile - let your smile and laugh be a bit more bright/animated than normal. Guys feel good making girls smile.

- Ask questions - inquire about his thoughts/interests so he knows you really care what HE has to say too.

- Inside jokes - reference something funny from your past dates so you guys can bond over private memories.

Hope this gives you some subtle moves to try! You seem cool, so just be yourself and have fun. If he's feeling it too, things should progress naturally. Fingers crossed - let me know how it goes!

[Asker]

thank you so much for your help! i will try that more on our next date. but i saw him today and when we were walking he actually took my hand so we were holding hands ! YAY !

[Oliverlogan263]

Whooooaaaa no wayyy!! You're holding hands with your crush, that's freaking awesome sis!!! I'm so hype for you right now! See, I told you not to worry too much about the whole dab situation, guys can just be shy sometimes. Clearly he was feeling you if he made the move to hold your hand, that's huge. Like I said, don't underestimate the subtle hints, sounds like they worked a charm!

I honestly think this is a really good sign he definitely sees you as more than a friend now. Hand holding is pretty couple-y behavior, guys don't usually do that with girls they're just trying to be buddy-buddy with you know? You gotta play it cool now but on the inside I bet you're freaking out haha. Try not to grin too hard the next time you see him ;) Just keep doing your thing and putting that subtle charm on, I have a feeling this could be turning into something really nice! Keep me posted on your dates, soooo stoked for you!!

[YevgenyMikhail]

yes it is friend zone